Man I hate people sometimes. Especially now.

I have this girl in my sights, most perfect girl I've perhaps ever encountered. Anyhow we both live here, fucking little shithole town. I guess we have each other though yeah?

Well I'm too jealous for my own good. A girl walks into a place here and she's totally outnumbered by guys...serious sausage-fest I'm talking here people.

So this is the problem, she gets hit on by guys...A LOT! It's pissing me off but their isn't much I can do right? And don't be fooled, she isn't flattered. It gives her the shits knowing she is seen as some kind of prize. She hates guys that try her out. She's like me, has to know someone first.

So I really don't know what I'm wanting here. There's nothing I can do really right?

What's worse is the fact friends of mine are doing it now. The same people that were 'heartbroken' when another girl showed that she had no interest in them at all...so they get past their broken heart pretty fucking quick and pounce. Shameless bastards.

I might have to talk to her and tell her how I feel/what I'm seeing. She's not stupid she knows whats going on. They need to be told to fuck off like she usually does but they are her friends to and I guess she doesn't want them turning on us both, she wouldn't care if they did turn but maybe she thinks I do?

Egh I hate drama.

It's too late. Her heart belongs to me.

What're you asking? How to get with her in the face of compitition?

Differentiate yourself, tease her and stuff. Make it seem like you're the only guy who doesn't want need her.

Uh, I'm not sure if the whole "I might have to talk to her and tell her how I feel/what I'm seeing" thing'll win her over mate ;)

Uh, I'm not sure if the whole "I might have to talk to her and tell her how I feel/what I'm seeing" thing'll win her over mate ;)

I think she'd welcome it actually, we usually make fun of people that have a go for he :p We're a pair of smartass pricks.

What're you asking? How to get with her in the face of compitition?

That would help I suppose. I am left wondering where I stand compared to say 50 other faces in the crowd all with their own strengths and weaknesses. She has told me that she needs someone with personality though, a pretty face/good body is worth less then nothing without one.

You're like my favourite poster, keep it up :)

I hate competition, so I just never hit on girls that are around guys often. Of course, it's almost a paradoxical situation, as it is quite rare to find an attractive girl that doesn't have her own personal harem of males fawning over her.

But it's part of the reason why I will never date a girl who's majority of friends are males. To me that is a major red flag. Also, blatant attention whores are usually a problem in this area. Popular girls, bar stars, party chicks, and social butterflies are also usually problem areas.

Of course, being so specific in my needs keeps me single quite a lot more often. But it's also relatively stress-free.

I have a serious complex when it comes to females I am with or trying to get with that cavort so carelessly with other males. Some may even say to the point of delusional paranoia. But I don't care, that's just how I roll.

I have a serious complex when it comes to females I am with or trying to get with that cavort so carelessly with other males. Some may even say to the point of delusional paranoia. But I don't care, that's just how I roll.

She's not slutty, far from it. She just so happens to have a lot of guys sniffing around her. There are a lot of innocent guys though, like guys in good relationships who aren't on the prowl, I'd consider myself as an innocent guy that can have girl friends without wanting more, but this case is different....then there are guys seeking a hookup, and strangers seeking the same.

She's not slutty, far from it. She just so happens to have a lot of guys sniffing around her. There are a lot of innocent guys though, like guys in good relationships who aren't on the prowl, I'd consider myself as an innocent guy that can have girl friends without wanting more, but this case is different....then there are guys seeking a hookup, and strangers seeking the same.

That's the thing. Even if she isn't slutty, she is still being exposed to a LOT of offers from other males. It doesn't take much to sway the mind of even the most virtuous female. Especially one who is being hit on with such frequency.

That's the thing. Even if she isn't slutty, she is still being exposed to a LOT of offers from other males. It doesn't take much to sway the mind of even the most virtuous female. Especially one who is being hit on with such frequency.

Fair point. Too her credit though I know she'd never cheat on a guy she was with, and I highly doubt she'd ever go for a one night stand.

I need to know how to seal the deal.

I've accomplished everything a guy should do before making that final critical step. Have her number, talk to her regularly, comfortable around each other, meet up with each, enjoy each others company...it has to be right.

How do I shift from something that is unofficial into something official? It seems to me fools rush in, but those that don't rush in must like a challenge. A fool couldn't cope with this shit...not one word :p

I think she'd welcome it actually, we usually make fun of people that have a go for he :p We're a pair of smartass pricks.

Haha, the thing is, it might be hard to pull this off while still conveying your interest for her without coming off as kinda seedy? Or even worse it might overshadow any interest you've shown and you'd just end up as a friend.

I'm not really sure what you're relationship with her is like but something like the "I'm different and just want you for your soul" kinda stuff might not do it.

That would help I suppose. I am left wondering where I stand compared to say 50 other faces in the crowd all with their own strengths and weaknesses. She has told me that she needs someone with personality though, a pretty face/good body is worth less then nothing without one.

You're like my favourite poster, keep it up :)

Well, from what I can tell you've got a good personality so that shouldn't really be a problem. From what you've said would it be safe to assume she might be a bit interested in you already? Or at least you're not really just part of the crowd anymore?

Tease the hell out of her! Playfully, of course. :) Bug her, to the point where she's frustratingly attracted to you and not quite sure whether she'd hit you or kiss you and then kiss her before she has a chance to hit you ;)

Thanks btw :) I'm hella sleepy so sorry if none of this makes any sense.

-F☺rd

Bug her, to the point where she's frustratingly attracted to you and not quite sure whether she'd hit you or kiss you and then kiss her before she has a chance to hit you ;)


That's hot, I'll irritate her no end haha

That's hot, I'll irritate her no end haha

Haha, from what you've said it does sound about time you kiss her. Does she seem interested when you hang out with her? Enough touching, flirting and whatnot?

-F☺rd

Haha, from what you've said it does sound about time you kiss her. Does she seem interested when you hang out with her? Enough touching, flirting and whatnot?

-F☺rd

Uhhh probably not enough...yet. To be honest.

What I see as being the major difference is that she'll come talk to me, text me on the phone first, email me initially and not as a reply to something I've sent her. Whereas (as far as I can tell) anyone else has to talk to her first to get anything (if that) from her.

Be a man:
1. Go up to her with a sac
2. Say something like "I made you this"
3. Put her in the sac
4. Make her your bride
5. ???
6. Profit

I hate competition, so I just never hit on girls that are around guys often. Of course, it's almost a paradoxical situation, as it is quite rare to find an attractive girl that doesn't have her own personal harem of males fawning over her.

But it's part of the reason why I will never date a girl who's majority of friends are males. To me that is a major red flag. Also, blatant attention whores are usually a problem in this area. Popular girls, bar stars, party chicks, and social butterflies are also usually problem areas.


^^^ u listed like all the types of girls right there, if those are ones you stay away from, wtf is left? Quiet girls sitting by themselves? Mentally handicapped? I mean come on if you put some heat on the girl, and you do it right, you should have a good portion of status amongst her other competition. Fawning over her, they are doing just that, a girl likes the attention so she'll take it but the dude will never get further then that, no matter how much time/effort/money he puts in. Then you see some average guy with that same chick, and you think man howd he do that? Think about that.

Trouser it seems as if you have a pretty good stance with this said girl, if shes talking to you without you starting up someting as you said, just on her own shes doing it. Id say thats a pretty good sign, along with other things that youve mentioned. Id say make a decision soon before she gets a lil confused. Depending on what her feelings are for you, if you dont make a foward action she could lose interest on you, and you could lose your status with her.. not saying it will happen but it could down the road.

And assuming shes legit as you say, i wouldnt worry about the other guys. Alot of guys try to rush shit, or put too much effort in and fuck shit up or make themselves look obvious. She'll pick up on this and just think heh another fuck trying to hit on me. But you got yourself coming from the opposite end of those guys, with a opening the option to succeed.