I know, I know. 90% of the time it's something mental. And I'm fairly sure it is. But it's still annoying as all hell! Today I couldn't think of anything wrong, I was not depressed or anything, and I was horny as hell. But I just kind of went soft, I don't know why. I'm guessing today it was because of last time, when I tried and failed. But that time I was feeling kind of shitty, out of the mood.

And now I'm uberdepressed and feeling like crap. This is the second time in 2 days I've gotten her worked up and then let her down. I mean, I offer to go down on her, but it's just not the same, it really ruins the mood. I do a shitload of kegels, and get good exercise. I just don't know what it is...

This has happened before, it normally lasts a few days, and then I'm back on top of the game. But it scares me each time.

Any suggestions?

Boy, that's a tough break, kid. Any drug use? Or anything else that would fuck with your blood vessels (circulation, constriction, etc.)

The cock is pretty much just a fleshy blood sponge, you know.

Outside of that, yeah, it's a mental thing.

Or your girlfriend is just ugly.

Or you're gay.

K, it happens, and it not always mental, it can be diet or even as serious as heart problems, that aside, two things you can do. If you can get it, viagra works very well, (if you take more than one you get a killer headache) however it can make it hard to actually cum (45min+ of hardcore action). A nifty way me and my girl figured out was a makeshift cockring, basically it was hair scrunchy, just a no frills elastic band, once you get the hard on, place it at the base of your dick, if its too tight you will feel it, you should get it tight enough that your dick turns slightly purple and about 10% bigger, it works and she loves it, just be careful taking it off, it can be bit tricky when its wet. Good humping!

This could be caused by a plethora of different things.

I have this problem as bad as one can have it at my age. I honestly can't recall a single time that I had sex where I didn't lose my erection at some point throughout. Most of the time I can't even get it back up long enough to come to orgasm.

I'm pretty sure my reason is based on some kind of deeply rooted psychological problem which I have yet to pinpoint exactly. But anyway, the problem is so bad for me that I have pretty much given up on sex altogether. I mean, if I happen to meet some chick who wants to do it with me, I'll probably go through with it out of natural instinct, you know, being human and all... But it will probably just turn out exactly like every other time. With me awkwardly trying to explain what's wrong with myself...

Unlucky man, I've been through this.

See the doctor, it may be a hormone defiency, vitamin/mineral deficiency (I've read that zinc and magnesium really help), a blood circulation defiency, or a psychological one. Get it narrowed down mate.