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Original Post, Bitch:
subliminaljackie

2007-10-17 21:01
so my bf beats me up


ok, i have the original post. But I'm a crazy bitch and not going to repost it, again.

Stfu, its obvious what to do:o

5char

Idiot. The minute a man ever lays a finger on me, he is gone. I don't care how long i've been with him or if i'm deadly in love with him. I care for myself and my health more.
You should know what to do, don't ask stupid questions.

^^^That's right!

Tell him (or don't)...but have his baby immediately. The first of many. This will prove your hot, horny love. When he's off with his girlfiends/hookers? This love will always bring him back.

If only to give you another kid.

hell yeah..even though im a guy..i agree, fucking kill the psycho. or...hire someone. cause if he beats you up for no reason, then i'd kill him if i knew you..like as a friend or something.

look, you might love him. but apparently, this asshole gets kicks out of hitting his girlfriend. either get away from him, or kill him.

You must have a hearing problem, 70% of women do.

On the chance that you are an actual person describing, as accurately as you can, actual events of your life, I'm going to offer my condolensce; as, in your heart, you know what the best answer for yourself could be.

That you have only been together for 3 months and the violence has already escalated to such an extreme should be evidence enough for you to realize on your own that the two of you are not good for each other.

Calmly repeating how he hates you, while simultaneously claiming to hate you; slamming your face into a window, causing blood, in public no less; having the relationship, itself, being self-described as abusive before-hand; and many things, among many more I'm sure you aren't telling us, should make this fact blatantly clear.

What concerns me is that you accept the abuse, but seem to find the intensity and level of police involvement questionable; you even accept his side of the story as accurate.

You don't mind him hitting you when you're being annoying?

Find what it is that is in you to make you think that, and really think about it. This is a kind of mentality that perpetuates a self-victimhood because you constantly attach blame to yourself; creating the illusion that it is some how your fault that he hospitalized you.

His attitude seems to stress this point as well since it is he who ended the relationship with you, and then offered you a place back in his heart upon his conditions.

Is he going to murder you or marry you?

With the limited information you've provided it would be a more accurate portrayal of possibilities as whether he is going to possess you or kill you.

In either case your sole place in his life would appear to be an object of punishment; only he knows for what, but it certainly isn't anything that you've done. The psychology of spousal abuse can run from being very simple such as "he's an angry idiot who never learned respect for women" to something complicated enough to merit entire books on the subject. Throughout all of the explanations, however, is not a sufficient excuse for the behavior, and it is

not your fault.

what the fuck? you like abuse? okay..well..thats you then..i cannot help you there...

Ah, well if abuse is what you're after than I'd say marriage shouldn't even be your concern.

Why kid yourself into thinking it's anything other than it is?

It isn't love; it's dual-fantasy in which you both revel in the game of POWER, and nothing more.

You'd be surprised at how hard it is to just make someone like that to go away..

I always thought a slap in my face and he'd be gone.. but it ended up being 3 fractured ribs, a sprained wrist and ankle, and black eye before the cops finally took him away for something not even related to domestic abuse.. :(

And most would consider me to be very independent and someone who won't put up with ANY bullshit..

I'm not looking for him to stop hitting me all together he likes to have control. I'm just trying to make things go smoother.

hahahahahahaha


bitches R dummmmmmmmmm

You are either a masochist or very insecure

if you are in that kind of relationship and need to ask what to do, you have no hope, this guy owns you now.

in the case you are a masochist and enjoy that kind of stuff...

good for you?

Defining characteristics of sociopathy, if memory serves, are flat emotional response (i.e. no emotion), superficially charming (i.e. lying), and replicating social behavior (i.e. manipulation.)

Why would the thought of him marrying you even occur to you?

Why would it even be appealing?

And being diagnosed with anything among the personality and mood disorders means very little, especially if you are self-medicating; which you clearly are since amphetamines and opiates have nothing to do with the disorder, and benzos would be highly unlikely to be prescribed (though there are doctors who don't give a shit.)

So heaving yourself to and fro between mania and mollification is neither an affective way of going about living your life, nor is it an excuse for him hitting you.

Nor is Iraq.

But, again, if this is your bag than possess it; accept it, and don't think that love is involved. You say you're fucked up too? So is the entire human race!

This is, essentially, where personality stems from; at least as far as I can tell.

So on the sliding scale of morality, if you've identified yourself as the possession of a sadist (borderline personalities or no) then own up to it, and realize what to expect out of your life. This wouldn't be my choice of living my life, but it's not my crazy; it's your crazy.

Considering your inclination towards suicidal thoughts, however, and your need for validation (as expressed by posting your personal information, including myspace, without being asked) suggest to me that your time would be better spent in some kind of life outside of the relationship you've been describing.

There are different ways of feeling important besides being the object of somebody who would rather destroy you than lose you, or just being important enough to cause such rage in somebody, or whatever it is in this scheme that you're getting your jollies from.

It is even possible to "channel your own energy"

But, from where I stand, if the relationship persists as is, then the suicidal thoughts will not decrease, and, more likely, increase.

I don't think I could ever 'love' anyone i don't even love myself. A dr of mine said only having a kid would change that. I take my pill every day, I take a lot of pills every day so I'm not worried about that.

Oh, so it is that your doctor is half a retard.

What psychiatrist would recommend having a child as some sort of therapy?

If your sole interest in this relationship is for him forcing you into being a better you (some sort of crushing coal into diamonds type of dynamic) then I don't think you'll find satisfactory results because any sort of change in your personality that doesn't come from yourself (as cliche as that sounds) will almost instantly vanish the instant that thing forcing you into it is gone.

At least the positive aspects will vanish; the resentment will most likely still be there.

Just look at your boyfriend after all of his military training. Where'd the discipline go?

But the rage is still there.

I think it's all wacky...

Yet? If they break up & she goes out & strives to find a similar guy? What would you all say then? That she should have stuck with guy #1 or break up with #2? And if she repeats & repeats?

Many more 'regular' people repeat & repeat too. Even in their marriages. People are wack, jack.

Have you considered being a hooker/escort for a chance a some decent coin/drugs/violence?

Jackie...

damn. Let me ask you something....do you know that there are men out there who can love a woman fully and not hit them? Do you know that it is wrong for a man to hit women? Do you know that you are your own person who is solely responsible for your life, your thoughts, your actions, and everything you make of it? Do you know that at your young age you are capable of anything in this world?

The first thing you have to do is love yourself. You are beautiful inside and out. Secondly, you must know that you dont need anyone or any person to make you happy. All you need in life is yourself and your perseverance. Needing someone to torment you for you to stop killing yourself is perverse and only reinforces your lack of self love and your pain. Its a vicious cycle, you need help getting this guy out of your life, and most of all you need help yourself. You can do it Jackie.

"Beautiful inside"? What about the screaming/creaming demons in there? Are they cute too?

"Hon? Yer just as beautiful inside as Ann Coulter! I mean a real sweety!" :)

I don't think he has much exp with relationships, he was in the military from 18-23. tha'ts gotta factor.

So because he was in the military, he has an excuse to go around beating women? Fuck no. It doesn't matter if he's the fucking messiah, he shouldn't be beating you up.

You must have a hearing problem, all women do.

fixed

Woman: "LUL WUT U SAY?"

So because he was in the military, he has an excuse to go around beating women? Fuck no. It doesn't matter if he's the fucking messiah, he shouldn't be beating you up.

And if he stops? So she leaves him & finds one who will?

What would you say then?

WackyJack? Are you sure you wouldn't prefer a pimp?

And if he stops? So she leaves him & finds one who will?

What would you say then?

Oh Shit?

Oh Shit?

I like your depth! Do you find that you're properly shallow enough to 'fit in' socially?

I like your depth! Do you find that you're properly shallow enough to 'fit in' socially?

It's sarcasm, obviously your feeble mindedness cannot detect it. But let it be done.

And the opiates are just for funzies?

But that sounds like an interesting cocktail, do your doctors speak to each other?

I know a great deal of medication is used to combat the side effects of other medication, especially in the interest of stabilizing the various mood disorders, etc. Methylphenadate to alert the neural activity, temazepam to bring some GABA around to calm it to sleep, what have you. But, if you have different scripts from different doctors it can get very dangerous.

Many anti-depressants, for example, can send some into heightened states of mania (especially with personality and mood disorders)

A system with too much dopamine, from a combination of meds, combined with increased norepinephrine from some other meds can create symptoms strikingly similar to schizophrenia.

There are many risks with cocktails, and even with some of the medication for just the personality disorders are strange in their own right with widely varying reactions. Probably due to the fact that a great deal of them were originally developed for seizures and made their way down through migraines and things of that nature to eventually be tossed at bi-polar and anything that resembles it.

I'm not trying to disregard medication or the psychiatric field, and, astonishingly, your background and mine are remarkably similar at points; it just seemed very strange to suggest that you could only love by introducing a child into the world.

When, as far as I can see, the only way for the love between child and mother to be healthy and enjoyable would be to have love at some time before hand.

If for nothing else, then to at least not continue the chain of attachment and validation from the child. The very notion sounds like the makings of Munchousen Syndrome. Which would, assuming the child survived, would perpetuate the cycle further still in some strange interpretation of ways to express love.

His military experience is a factor; many things are a factor; but I feel I must warn against the temptation to open up worlds of excuses, because it is oh so easy to do, and you'll never grow if you take that route.

Merely rot, having never reached for the sun yourself, resulting in your existence being little more than feeding grounds for the worms and the maggots that can fester around your roots that never spread in search of your own nutrients.




Oh, and moony....ALL my multifarious voices are cheek-pinching adorable; from the minute to the megalomaniac you just wanna go "awwwwww" and give 'em a bunny.

The state that this bunny is in is a variable.

It's sarcasm, obviously your feeble mindedness cannot detect it. But let it be done.

and back at you! :D

What the..


I cant encourage you to leave him, only you can do that.

1-Do you love him?
2-Do you actually want to be with someone who hurts you so bad? The occaisional smack if you're being a cunt is fine...but smashing your head against a car? He's going to end up doing you some serious damage,and do you really want that?

If you get back together, can you really see things getting any better?
Or is it more likely they're going to be how they were only alot more painfull?


You may love him, I dont know. But self preservation is vital. You may tolerate a few beatings, but if it gets to the extent he's hitting you if is car breaks down,he doesent win the lottery,he's had a bad day,his jeans are torn,they lose the game,he breaks a plate.... Then you might think about leaving.

Your just a peice of meat, either put up with it or don't who fucking cares.

I don't mean to be an asshole (it just comes naturally) but you sound like a bitch. He probably is over-reacting to your attitude and behavior, but you sound like the overweight, mouthy bitch with an attitude that is always on Jerry Springer or Maury complaining about her boyfriend doesn't love her anymore.

Also, a lot of times when a man comes back from war, he changes. Many times they lose the qualities that make them human, so it is totally fine to leave him. He won't miss you much and there will always be some other "pig" for him to abuse, and take out his trauma on.

Like I said, I am not trying to be an asshole, but I am trying to help you see things through his perspective.

I'm kinda looking for advice from someone who is in a BDSM style relationship. I know we're not in one but I'm just looking for input.

I'm not completely innocent I do fuck with him and know I'm a challenge but we do grow ...positively even.

How can I allow him to channel my energy (which he knows he does a good job of) without causing stress on the relationship.

I've looked a while for someone to be the right kind of abusive and only had 2 other bfs before.

I am in one, and you're stupid if you think you can change the relationship you're in. He will most likely end up killing you, or hurting you even worse.

You don't know a thing about BDSM if you think you can turn that relationship into a whole other deal.

I'm a masochist, but if my boyfriend ever hit me out of anger, the relationship would be over. BDSM play is not the same as your boyfriend hitting you because he's angry with you.

I'm a brat, and it helps my relationship. Or at least makes it interesting. In yours, it just appears to piss him off. I don't get sprained ankles and a bloody face from back talking.

Just stay away from him, for your own safety.

ROFL OP.

It's too late. You are a victim. Suck it up. You will always be a punching bag.

ROFL at "my bf beats me up an excessive amount". Some fuckers never learn, OP being a prime example.

I apologize if some one has already said it, but the op is a stupid bitch. Lets hope he damages your ovaries so you can't have kids.

That is the most bizarre form of etiquette.

gee, I hope I'm not stepping on the toes of any other assholes, because it would be very rude of me to usurp hostility, but go fuck yourself woman in an abusive relationship and a downward spiral of self esteem and re-affirming self-contempt; I hope you die, badly injured female who did nothing to deserve such treatment and came humbly asking for help.


Your apology is accepted, dick.

Your apology is accepted, dick.

Get off your high horse, fucking idiot. You're a pathetic specimen of a man for showing this....


..we practly discussed that this was going to be an abusive relationship because he hits girls.

I can deal with him hitting me when I'm being a dumb ass annoying ..

...ANY sympathy. I hope the stupid bitch dies.

P.S. He wouldn't hit you if you were a good girlfriend.


hahahahaha

It's hard to advise anything, because we dont know the full story.

It's easy to jump to the conclusion that the boyfriend is an asshole for hitting her, it's easy to come to the conclusion that she's a bitch that provokes him.

Without actually seeing the two of them together, how can we tell who's in the 'right' and who isnt?




Regardless of who's the 'bad' person in this relationship, I really dont think two people should be together if they annoy each other to the extent they're physically violent, and not in that fun "I'm going to wrestle you to the ground and tickle you till you throw up" way.

well, looks like you got the attention you want, both on and off the interwebs.

Awww...I think she needs herself a purple-suited, leopard-skin hatted, cane-toting & pink caddy driving pimp to fuck & beat her & keep her in line. She needs to let her inner crack whore out!

exactly. what the fuck do I do? I know I'm a mouthy cunt but I can also be really creative and fun to be with. I just can't resist such easy jabs at shit.

I tried no sex. That didn't help at all because when we finally did he had all this botteled up agression. Too much for me to deal with.



The hitting girls convo started in the bedroom and then I couldn't take the pressure of sex and hitting me so I said ok...can't do those at the same time. Emotion overload.


He was instantly hooked on my personality but he gets mad that I don't trust him. He likened me to a fairy once.

My god, it's become blatantly obvious you're a troll.

http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c236/ohjusttellme/1013070222_01.jpg



Damn, looks like someone got hit with the ugly stick.

^^Really?
So dude, if you read this:

Dont hit your girlfriend. If she's such a cunt you get the urge to hurt her, leave her and never ever look back. Else you're likely to accidentally go too far and really hurt her,that'll fuck your shit up no end.


Thread starter, if you're not a troll, you need to really think if you want to be with this guy.
You dont need to just accept him hitting you, and if he provokes you into being mouthy,maybe you should move on?


A boyfriend and girlfriend arent meant to antagonise and provoke each other all the time.

I don't even know if I've ever loved my parents. Niave sheltering parents who have been together for almost 30 years. I never learned right from wrong they just fixed everything with television or money.

Oh no, poor you. You FUCKING HEAD CASE! I hope you die.

Oh no, poor you. You FUCKING HEAD CASE! I hope you die.

I wouldn't be surprised if, like jackie, you're numb too...

Of course, it's often taboo to bring up such things? Tell us dudezor? Are you numb? Are you wacky? Indulge in much twisted behavior that you deal with by pretending it never happened?

I hope he beats you to death, that's fucking pathetic. People like you make me disgusted, you fucking attention whore.

Anyone who thinks the beating thing is down to her being a dumbass who pisses him off, or him just being a bit angry, and that they need to work around that is in entirely the wrong fucking ballpark.

It has nothing to do with how she acts towards him. He will always hit her. The fact she doesn't realise this is almost or more pathetic than that fact.

exactly. what the fuck do I do? I know I'm a mouthy cunt but I can also be really creative and fun to be with. I just can't resist such easy jabs at shit.

I tried no sex. That didn't help at all because when we finally did he had all this botteled up agression. Too much for me to deal with.



The hitting girls convo started in the bedroom and then I couldn't take the pressure of sex and hitting me so I said ok...can't do those at the same time. Emotion overload.


He was instantly hooked on my personality but he gets mad that I don't trust him. He likened me to a fairy once.

Jackie do you realize what you responded to was a joke?

For the love of God, this is disgusting. Why cant you just see that a boyfriend who beats you IS NOT what any woman needs. Did you read my last post? Get serious. This is serious shit and if you dont care enough to examine yourself then you will eventually be destroyed by this, your problems, and/or your weaknesses. You CAN free yourself from this. But you first need to realize that an abusive relationship is wrong.

Ok. If you like being beaten, which you obviously do, tell him to beat you, without causing actual health problems, and he might actually agree.

I had a girlfriend once, who would prefer to be beaten to almost being knocked out, sputter some near fainting words for 20 minutes, she actually enjoyed being violently slapped and hit with a closed fist, as if two men were fighting in a rage.

She would sputter incoherent words for about twenty minutes, lay on the bed and begin to rub her clit. We would fuck, without a condom and she would go home just like that, her head swollen and her pussy full of cum as if nothing happened.

Of course now she stalks me and I try to avoid her everyday.

^^That's pretty sick...

For the OP:

You sound like a mental case...
I do feel sory for you, but you still sound like someone who needs their head examined.
Let me put it like this:
If someone treated one of my female friends like your boyfriend treats you, they'd better get ready for a loooong stay in a hospital...

There is no way this fairy tale romance will end well.
I don't mean to be rude butI think everyone will be better off if you do not have kids. Doing so would be the height of nihilistic selfishness.
Sadly I know odds are you will have kids with this man and this will all end in tears.

^^So, is that really all you want out of your life?

You don't think it could be any better?

the 'hahahahha' kinda gave it away

well I don't understand why an abusive relationship is wrong. we've talked and both already decided we don't want kids.



I am a mental case but I'm only self destructive. I've idealized suicide literally since I was like 7. I'm a little bitch and don't have the guts to go through with it without a gun.

An abusive relationship is wrong in that it causes mental, physical, and emotional suffering. You can have a healthy relationship where the person strengthens you and loves you. Thats the point of a relationship. You can have a loving relationship jackie, youre capable of that and you deserve that. Kids are not the issue (thank God).

You say youre a mental case? So what? Does that mean you dont deserve happiness? Does that mean you are a slave to drugs and that you will never be successful in life? You say youre a bitch? That doesnt mean you deserve to be beat up by an insecure dickhead. There are lots of women who would be considered mega bitches (hillary clinton) that are supremely successful.

You dont have to bring yourself down. You always have the power to change yourself jackie. Always and forever the power is in your hands to decide your own fate. But losing drugs, self loathing and abuse is the first step.

And stop being bulimic and anorexic and start eating normally when your body says its hungry. Its not wrong to eat. It never was. Love yourself, other people love you, and a man will love you if youre strong enough to overcome all this. And you can.

I am surprised no one critisized me at all for my semi-asinine post. I am kind of dissapointed...

I'm a little bitch and don't have the guts to go through with it without a gun.

Then buy a gun you fat cunt.

AhahaAAhA!

OP: You need to sort your own head out before you even think about being a relationship. It's mind blowing that you think his behaviour is acceptable. It's utterly unacceptable, and everyone can see that but you. If you truly want to die, then just do it and get it over with. At the moment, you're just letting your boyfriend do it slowly anyway. What's the point? You're obviously touched in the mind, so I doubt that any of this will get through to you. But I do hope that you will take the sincere advice in this thread seriously and get out of this destructive relationship. Whatever you may think about yourself, no one deserves to get their face smashed into a car, etc. It doesn't matter if you think you're provoking him so you deserve it. If you're being annoying then the worst you deserve is a "shut up, you're being annoying." There's no need for physical or emotional abuse.

Bottom line: your boyfriend is a douche, and you need to drop him like a bad habit. Find a different way to manifest your self destructive tendencies. Because every time you let him hit you, you're saying that it's okay for him to use violence. You may have mental issues, but you still deserve every bit of happiness/safety/whatever that everyone else does.

So get out now, before he kills or injures you even more seriously.

Ok Jack's here now and I think I know what Subliminaljackie is talking about. Its not an uncommon problem in BDSM/S&M relationships.

Subliminaljackie, you need to make it clear to him that 1.you are his 'bitch', his 'sub' or whatever the fuck you want to call it. Tell him he has the right and duty to discipline as he sees fit. But that 2. said discipline must only occur on that part of your body that God designed to take it ..ie your arse (can also be on your tits/cunny if thats your 'thang')

And 3. that if he ever hits you with a closed fist or with a kick that you will leave him.

You Are His Bitch, Not His Punch Sack

Explain to him also that sometimes when you're 'bratting' or rather when you're rilying him its because you want him to pull you over his knee not put you in ER.

Let me try and give you an example of what I mean. You're out somewhere with him and you realise he's getting more and more angry with you. Because its public you know that when you get home...he's gonna explode.

So guide him! Yes, even 'Masters' need guidance. On the way home say something along the lines of 'I was bad. You have every right to be angry with me and deserve punishing. But if you love me then when we get in the door will you please give me a chance to make this right?'

Then when you get in draw up a chair or whatever, bend over it,lift up your skirt and beg him to take his belt to you for whatever you did wrong.

Redirect his anger.

A lot of men who are sadists, in a S&M relationship which isn't confinded to the bedroom, have the same problem.

All you flawless creatures could set up a gun fund of some kind. I technically have a 5th degree assult charge in the works. Can't purchase firearms.




Thank you. I kinda knew that but the way you explained it gives me no unanswered questions.

There are no answers beyond the ones you keep ignoring. Were not flawless creatures. Were all flawed idiots but damn, you just have to realize that your situation is seriously fucked up and you need to learn to listen.

The sad thing is youre more bothered by kindness than maliciousness. Thats...not good.

Please try not to take Jackketch's word as gospel here. He has his own unique views on the 'rights' of men.

It all sounds so horribly wrong to me. I reckon (man or woman), if you hit someone they have a right to hit you back. Girl hitting guy/guy hitting girl

Went to the dr and they said it's probably fractured but they're going to send the x-rays out. I think there's a pinched nerve or something new too. I got a different cast called "the mobilizer". Much better than the air cast they gave me the first time. I'm scared I'm going to have to get surgery on it because i fucked it up after I fucked it up.

I talked to him and he's really mad at me for calling the cops, even though I didn't talk to them. It was when I was laying outside his door when he gave me my phone. The cops were already on their way anyway. Whatever he's just scared I'd actually narc on him. Which I wouldn't!

He's also mad about his car. I drove by his car and I didn't see any damage just wierd dirt marks by the tire. I don't know what the fuck I did to it but it doesn't seem to be on the exterior.

And he told his family some story and now they think I'm a crazy bitch. I didn't even tell my parents what happened.

I want to be with him but he's mean sometimes. Other times he's awesome to be around.

I'm still confused about how I feel though.




It's odd how you cant remember any of the awfull shit you may have done to him, but you can remember all the awfull shit he's done to you.


Either you're lying so we'll sympathise with you, or you're a really obnoxious,terrible horrible person when drunk and just push the poor fucker over the edge.



What if next time it's not your ankle he breaks but your neck?

Well? You no doubt get adrenaline from being around him.

People get very easily addicted to adrenaline. Thus: you have become habituated. Pavloved to your perversion.

Are you a bad girl who needs to be punished? Is he your filthy daddy substitute who provides your needed punishings? Easier than disciplining your own bad self?

Well? It's not just fooling with the entheogens? I have always known that childhood injuries have affected my thinking. Permanently, wrongly tensed muscles are always very apparent to me when I talk when I shouldn't or am silent when I should speak.

Sure, I can loosen these cramped up bastions of perverse muscle memory? Only just so much though. As the entheos wake me up some? I have often 'investigated' these injuries of the body & their relation to my psychology...

Are you easily scared by the things inside you? :)

How physically active are you? How close to the desired '10,000 steps a day' do you come?

well maybe hes trying to tell you something?

What? That boys beat on themselves.

Men beat on their girlfriends & kids? :)

MY pronouncement was really rather meant for the OP in her specific situation which was , as I understood, she wants the spanks but not the leg brace.

But yes my views on the 'rights'of men are different or are rather old fashioned.

I want to be with him but he's mean sometimes. Other times he's awesome to be around.

I'm still confused about how I feel though.

He sounds rather immature. He is obviously a sadist but who hasn't yet learnt how to 'ride the rush'. The feeling of power, of having total power, over another human being is a dangerous drug and if you want to stay with him then you are going to have to guide him.

The fact he's mad at you for calling the cops and is making you out to sound deranged also tells me he has a lot of issues with himself and his sexuality (yeah I know, NO shit Sherlock!). He's still a very 'weak' person inside.

OK, enough of me sounding like Jeremy Kyle.

Guide him ,girl. Learn to guide him or you're gonna get beat up real bad someday real soon.

Tell him that if he feels you disobeyed him about the car then he needs to turn your bum to hamburger NOT break your legs and that if he was a man,he'd come and do it (But for fucks sake don't say that in a taunting way but in a 'i WANT you to be that man' way-capish?)

I'm not easily scared by anything. I am very self aware and observent. Definatly a thrill seeker.

I break a sweat probably 3 days/week cleaning my families houses but not anymore due to my ankle. I never realized how much you use your ankle before. I have adhd and that keeps me going I guess.

idgi physical injuries from mental anguish = future muscle tension?

Nothing like housework... It's good exercise & is it any more boring than the gym?

When your ankle was good, did you ever walk/run on non-manmade/non-flat surfaces? Eg: Lawns/parks/boulevards, sand or gravel? Any non level surface will use your leg & lower back muscles in unique ways compared to floors & sidewalks.

I think anyone will be a different person on uneven surfaces than they are on the Flat...

just stay with him. you are really being selfish by complaining about it. you know he would do anything for you, why do you act so stupid sometimes to piss him off? you should really try harder to keep him happy.

[this post brought to you by the Darwin Awards]

QFT..

You still love him? More proof women like to be beaten. He sounds like he's one of those huge, militarist style guys, I bet you like to be dominated you little cunt.

Good for him! Go back there and make up with him, cross your fingers maybe he'll break your legs and put your face in the toilet.

lawl you're not very smart, ma'am.
get rid of him.
military fools are always so fucking wierd...

QFT

It doesn't matter how great the guy is, as soon as he touches like that he should be out the door.

THAT is what I was looking for. ..I think.

I also wasn't the one who was leaving. He left me then said he might take me back and I didn't know how I felt about it.



BUT giving him the link was not a good idea. He just got mad. Looking back I probably should have guessed that.
Damn.

Ugh....fuck that psycho, dickheaded moron. He should be in jail getting raped right now.

But hey...ya know what? You dont want help. Its terrible, its sad, its horrible but...if you wont listen no one can make you.

Youre just deciding to hear what you want to hear and are ignoring and blocking out everything else. Only just listening to what wont make you see your life truthfully. Its really sad that you actually want him back....you cant even see how fucked this whole situation is. Jesus...and now he's just going to find another woman to beat up and destroy mentally....and you dont even care.

I can't help but wonder about what has become of all of this.

I would have naturally wondered, especially since you planned to show him the "discussion" that had sprouted from his abuse, but am more poignantly so now that the original message has been heavily edited, as well as the links being removed.

The original post, although shadowing the severity in some fog in its own right, made it appear as though there was a problem; supplemented with descriptions of unrestrained (read-outside the refined S&M relation defined by jack) violence, as well as a sense of getting to the truth of the matter (you had professed interest in obtaining the original police report). You gave an appearance of being terrified, with little to no indication of any reprieve upon the horizon.

Now the post doesn't appear to match the title.

In fact, if one were ignorant of the original content, one might be forced to wonder what, exactly, made your situation worth bringing up in the first place. It paints a picture of a self-criticizing girl and an insecure boy having difficulties in their young relationship; nothing novel there. Anyone at the end of their teen years will naturally be sorting out their "true" selves in many ways, one of which being highly internalized (ie equations, balance of traits, etc.), which seems to have been your route, but they all, eventually, are found to be inept because there is no true true self; life is a matter of constant self-creation.

Thus, in the context of the new post, there doesn't seem to be a problem as having another help you define yourself is a constant method that many people use to help with this burden of constant self-creation (a re-raising, as you called it); and a young man snatched from the end of his teens by military service will have made an abrupt transition into being "re-raised" in boot camp, thus having an enormous amount of power playing a central role in his self-creation.

In fact, since "self" is eliminated in training (especially marines, as I've been told), it really boils down to a power-creation.

The two people, with incomplete projects of early-adulthood, meet and the one raised on power controls the one in desire of guidance.

No big surprise.

In fact, looking back at the new post, your boyfriend/ex/whatever isn't even present. He's mentioned at the very end, in a single sentence, in a description of trying to break you but just wound up breaking up with you; as though you were a dog that needed to be house trained, but weren't worth the effort so were sent back to the pound.

Finally, signed off with "Baby I really am sorry I called the cops. I really should know better. " even though, somewhere in the thread, now lost, you mentioned that it wasn't you who had called the cops; in fact, you weren't even possession of your phone for most of the events.

Clearly you have been frightened back into silence, but to what degree?

Is this man the kind of person to hurt you in extremes while you were already handicapped by a previous injury? Has the severity increased for humiliating him publically, and causing an amalgam of anonymous people to judge him and you (his possession)?

Lifestyle choices are fine, but extreme ones such as BDSM, in my eyes, should be refined to the point of connoisseur if they are to be credible; hell, all lifestyle choices should be: junkies are only junkies when they're sloppy. Therefore, is it not possible, that in your search for a holder of the leash you've just found an angry, frightened boy who, in all likelihood, would wish for a mistress to put him in his place for being so unruly?

At this point I'm not sure the purpose of my posting this as, if things are for the worst and you need help, you wouldn't be allowed to reply anyway. Perhaps, I'll merely post in case you're still allowed to look at this, and your mind is still your own.

Have you found what you were after?

What did the report say?

He sounds rather immature. He is obviously a sadist but who hasn't yet learnt how to 'ride the rush'. The feeling of power, of having total power, over another human being is a dangerous drug and if you want to stay with him then you are going to have to guide him.

The fact he's mad at you for calling the cops and is making you out to sound deranged also tells me he has a lot of issues with himself and his sexuality (yeah I know, NO shit Sherlock!). He's still a very 'weak' person inside.

OK, enough of me sounding like Jeremy Kyle.

Guide him ,girl. Learn to guide him or you're gonna get beat up real bad someday real soon.

Tell him that if he feels you disobeyed him about the car then he needs to turn your bum to hamburger NOT break your legs and that if he was a man,he'd come and do it (But for fucks sake don't say that in a taunting way but in a 'i WANT you to be that man' way-capish?)

I can't believe you are trying to get her to "guide" this guy anywhere but down a set of stairs.

Nothing like housework... It's good exercise & is it any more boring than the gym?

When your ankle was good, did you ever walk/run on non-manmade/non-flat surfaces? Eg: Lawns/parks/boulevards, sand or gravel? Any non level surface will use your leg & lower back muscles in unique ways compared to floors & sidewalks.

I think anyone will be a different person on uneven surfaces than they are on the Flat...

House work...good exercise?

THAT is what I was looking for. ..I think.

I also wasn't the one who was leaving. He left me then said he might take me back and I didn't know how I felt about it.



BUT giving him the link was not a good idea. He just got mad. Looking back I probably should have guessed that.
Damn.

If you didn't realize, he is making fun of you.

Hopefully this thread was just a way for the thread starter to vent and sort her feelings out. Probably a small incident got blown out of proportion.
Hopefully the thread starter edited her first post out of shame of making mountain out of molehill rather than fear.

But, if she isnt going to tell totse the truth, but a romanticised version of lies for us, then there's no point bothering with this thread.

*wanders off*

It's almost like I have an equation figured out in my head on how to fix things but there are all these variables and factors I'm not smart enough to work out on my own. I need guidance, direction and probably a lot of other things. But I'm loyal and observant, abstract and loving.

Okay, you're pathologically codependent, check...

Baby I really am sorry I called the cops. I really should know better.

You'll do everything in your damn power to try to be an abuse victim for the rest of your life, check...

It's not like I was going to brake up with him. I don't like to give up on people.

...and you're a doormat who will accept anything, no matter how inhuman or degrading and despite the fact that whoever's doing it obviously doesn't give a fuck about you!!

Wow... well, now that we've figured you out... you could either adress these issues you have, or... you can continue getting beat by people who don't give a fuck about you.

That choice, of course, is yours. I wash my hands of what is neither in my power or responsibility; you're the only person who can do shit about your life...

...but I'll still speak the truth to your face. What you do is up to you.

You're a pathetic fat whore. :)

You come to this forum, creating a topic and telling us about your awful situation. At this point, you're still tolerable.

Then people give you great advice, ie, get out of the relationship. You're still tolerable at this point.

Then you completely ignore said people's advice. This is where you become a whore.

Then it becomes evident that you just came here for sympathy, not help or advice. This is the part where you become a fat pathetic whore.

Go find a methadone clinic, wait outside of it. Pay the next three dudes who come out of it for their dose. Take all three doses. You'll die, painlessly. It'll be like falling asleep. You'll just stop breathing.

Follow my advice, or for the love of god, follow some one else's, but do not, and I fucking repeat, DO NOT follow your own advice. You're deluded and mentally ill.

So like I said, my advice, or leave him. Otherwise you just make females, all of them, look bad.

Solution: Stop being mouthy and make the man a sammich.

Problem solved!