So I've started seeing this new girl a few days ago. We get along amazingly well, and the relationship is already pretty sexual.

I know she's not a virgin, but I am (although not totally inexperienced). I'm terrified about telling her this, especially before we have sex, because I don't want to ruin the experience for her.

Then again, I can't tell her afterwards because my first time will most likely suck, and I don't want her to be disappointed.

So far the options I have come up with are:

1. Tell her I'm a virgin beforehand, which may make me less nervous.

2. Not mention it at all unless prompted, probably just eat pussy like crazy and finish off with probably shitty sex.

3. Not tell her until after we fuck, in case she didn't enjoy it.

I've always had a fear of premature climax when I've been with girls, and I think that's probably the underlying problem with my nervousness. Any ideas?

You should tell her beforehand.

If she's a slut she won't like it and she will dump you. If she is a decent person, your relationship will blossom.

tell her before hand...

maybe she'll respond with something like "well then, lets make this a night you'll never forget" and give you some kinky sex.

however, this might make her nervous.. I was pretty calm my first time, but i guess that's jus kuz i was horny as fuck.

tell her... or she might be pretty pissed if you tell her afterwards. you dont wanna begin a relationship by hiding things, do you?

if you think/want it to go any where besides just sex then probably yes.
it came up in conversation once, she didnt believe me at first.

Don't tell her.

Have sex with her. Your first time will probably be crap, but just say it was a fluke. Then go again a couple of times that night and make up for it.

Yeah. She'd like to know beforehand.

As for your possible premature splooge issue..........go buy some really thick condoms or something. LifeStyles comes to mind for me. They suck. Can't feel too much.

i suggest you buy ultra thing trojans (these feel thick to me!)

but, like you said, she's been around, you should be safe, and this should keep your little problem under control.

Tell her. If you don't she will probably be upset you didn't afterwards. Women can have just as much of a problem de-virginizing as men can. However if she is mature and experienced enough she will probably have no such issue.
Also, worrying about early ejaculation is honesty ridiculous. Most women find it comforting they can make their partner come so quickly in the beginning. It is a sign that she turns you on. After a good period of time it becomes irritating, but for the first 5-10 times or so you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Don't even bring it up. Just go for it, and if she asks, you just say yes, and continue making out/whatev. Simple.

You know she's not a virgin, but has she fucked someone who knows what they're doing?

If she has, she'll probably no you're a virgin when your fucking her. Masturbate before you fuck her, and you'll have a better chance as being noticed as more experienced than a virgin... but chances are you won't be any good.

If you can, follow Ryokoshet's advice.

Otherwise, you're kinda fucked. Just roll the dice. Practice makes perfect.

Think about whatever turns you off majorly during sex. Like grannies bingo wings or something. If you find the right thing then you can keep on going for ages :).

Note: only do this if you're trying to impress becuase it does make the sex suck a bit for you.

Ok well there is two scenarios here.

1) your just trying to fuck this girl (i dont think this is your situation).
But, if this is the case do not tell her and just bust a nut really quick and say
fuck it.

2) You really like her and could see yourself in a relationship with her. Definetly tell
her and if she really likes you she wont care, and youll probably end up losing
your virginity to her. Be open.

2) You really like her and could see yourself in a relationship with her. Definetly tell
her and if she really likes you she wont care, and youll probably end up losing
your virginity to her. Be open.

You're pretty correct on this one. I just don't know when or how to tell her about it. Do I bring it up in casual conversation, or right before I'm about to stick it in do I just mention it?

Thanks for the replies so far.

Do I bring it up in casual conversation, or right before I'm about to stick it in do I just mention it?

Maybe when a conversation about sex comes up if they ever do?

It's very cliche'd, but if you tell her you're a virgin, she'll respect you a lot more for being mature and honest about it. You'll feel better too.

That is if she's not a complete bitch.

Also, everyone likes virgins, so there's nothing to worry about.

Tell her. Just casually bring it up.

And how is it embarassing? Everyones a virgin at some point, just some decide to lose it as soon as they can to say they've fucked someone.

I'm 16, a virgin, and don't mind admitting it.

You probably should say something.

Think about it this way, she'll either be impressed with you as a first timer if you're good or you'll get a couple early loads forgiven. Sex isn't as complex as you'd think, just be dominant, run the show and act like you know what you're doing.

tell her first, that way if it sucks and then you tell her its not like you're lying about it err i was always terrified of prematurin my first time, but low and behold my first time I couldn't even fuckin cum...prolly cause i was drunk off my ass..

I wouldn't tell her. There's no need to.

Yeah I never told the girl I lost mine too. But my whole family is pretty open to sex and I have 3 sisters so they would tell me the shit girls like and my older brothers would always talk about it too so I had a pretty damn good idea of what I was doing.

When it happened I was kinda drunk, had some thick condoms and I went at it just straight sex for 20-30 minutes. I think I did a pretty good job of eating her out too because her legs were squeezing my head pretty damn hard and she kept tryin to push my head down more.

My only adivce and is the same as I was always given, "Fuck all the fancy shit just go for the clit"

:)

EDIT: If your scared of premature cummin' I wouldn't worry about it too much, if you have a condom on it'll go on for a while. If not for some stupid reason if it's the first time with the girl they kinda like it when the guy finishes really fast because they think their good at it and that the guy likes them alot. Also suprisingly alot of girls actually like deflowering guys.