if you were to find your girlfriend kisssing another girl what would you think?
I only want to know what your reaction would be because last night i was that other chick. My friend was drunk off her face (i was sober though lol) and so she kissed me and then her boyfriend comes towards us and i'm like 'hey, your man is coming' and she just says 'yeah ok whatever'. Her boyfriend comes down and sits next to me while i have his girlfriend on my lap kissing me... and yet it wasn't at all weird for any of us.

What do you guys reckon? could you just sit there and watch your girlfriend sort of cheat on you? I'm paranoid because although he didnt actually say anything about it i'm worried he was sort of upset by it, so if you could tell me how you would feel it would be much appreciated :)

I would find that most weird if my girlfriend did that. Really really weird.

Hawt.

It's never bothered me if they were kissing another girl. A guy would die at my hands, but other girls just never bothered me.

If I walked in on my girlfriend kissing another girl, out of the blue, I would be slightly upset/confused. If I was there, and my girlfriend let me know what was going on, I probably wouldn't mind.. depending on the other girl. I don't want second hand herpes, thanks. Basically, if the other girl is a friend/I know whats going on/I know my girlfriend is straight, I really don't mind.

It would bother me.

Flip question for the girls:

If you found out your boyfriend was making out with some dude, would it piss you off?

I was the boyfriend. It was bad.

lol i reckon it would be pretty weird... like if it was my boyfriend actually cheating on me with this other guy then i would be upset just as much as if he was cheating on me with another girl... but if it was some drunken joke or something then i wouldnt really mind that much.. i'd probably make fun of him for making out with a guy for ages though

See the thing is she knew i was coked up and feeling the down but she flipped out when she knew there was a guy. Not just the other chicks.

It would piss me off...My girl should only be kissing me...I don't care if it's a girl, guy, tranny or a hermaphrodite, them lips is mine!

Unless she asked me beforehand and I was part of the action...Then I wouldn't mind!

i did that once
my boyfriend watched a girlfriend of mine and me hook up
it was kinda weird
it wasnt just him watching
her brother watched
and a random guy that everyone was friends with
they seemed to enjoy it
but i dont know we were all quite drunk and i only remember little bits of it anyway
i can remember her sister coming over and the guys getting us to break it up or something cause her older sister was annoyed...or something

My girl always does that with one of her friends when she gets drunk. My argument was that if she gets to kiss a girl, technically I do to.

depends on how passionate it is.

I don't mind a gf kissing a male friend on the cheek, or a female friend on the lips - even snogging a female friend would be ok if it wasn't done in a serious, I'm genuinely hot for some lesbian action with this girl kinda way. For some reason, it definitely doesn't seem so bad if it's another girl, as long as there are no sincere feelings of lust going on - not even if she wanted me to be involved as well, I don't want to share a gf with another girl even if I'm there and in on the action. A fuckbuddy or gf I didn't care about then sure, but not a serious relation.

Cheating is cheating,regardless of gender.


Hot it may be, but if I found my boyfriend making out with the lead singer from the Rasmus,I'd still have to beat him to a bloody pulp and then anally rape him with a strap-on.

Pics or it didn't happen.

If I was like at a party or something with my gf/bf and I left the room and came back and they were all over someone else I'd just be like wtf. But I'd take it as permission to make out with whoever I wanted.

If I wasn't at the party I wouldn't care as long as they told me the truth afterwards. This has happened to me in the past, my girlfriend made out with some other guy AND some othergirl at a party. I really wouldn't have cared if she had just told me the truth right off the back, which she did not.

If I saw my girlfriend making out with anyone else but me, I'd be stupefied. If it were a guy, I'd be shredded, and likely then shred the guy she was kissing. If it was a girl... I'd just be lost for words.

I consider cheating one of the lowest things ever.

mine does it from time to time - not make out, but "normal stuff"

i'd be bothered if a boyfriend was kissing anyone else, regardless of gender

i wouldn't care at all under any circumstances if it was another girl..

Pics or it didn't happen.

Well there aren't any pics as of yet... but knowing us it will happen next time we get drunk... and knowing us that isn't going to be too far away a date... so i can post pics then. Even though i'm only 15 and she's 17, so both under 18... but still.

I still find it incredibly amusing that i was completely sober throughout the entire escapade, but i didnt really want to make-out all that much... or rather, i felt somewhat awkward due to the fact that i was sober. At first i pulled away and she just kept saying 'i can't believe you would reject me like that'. Then later on when i was dropping her, her bf and some other guy off at the train station she kissed me again and that was when her boyfriend came down and sat next to us.

And her bf did say something but it wasn't bad, he was just sort of amazed that she would kiss me even though he was right there.

Cheating is cheating,regardless of gender.

Well put.

-F☺rd

the action of cheating follows necessarily from the "rules".. an assertion such as "cheating is cheating" is rendered ultimately meaningless as long as the definition of the "game" can remain in flux. hopefully not an aeon flux tho.. thats another stupid yarn that a poster may decide to spin with little or no provocation. hopefully we will not see the day. what?

That was gibberish.

"the action of cheating follows necessarily from the 'rules'"

Are you stupid or is english just not your first language?

-F☺rd

whats this there english you speak of? i speak AMERICAN you commie bastard yea-haw!

also, i was being abstract to amuse myself.. you're not helping with my amusement. fuck you too.. or whatever.

OP I'm sorry to tell you but youre a sad by-product of the party sub-culture. You just dont fucking care. Did you even think about whose feelings you were harming? And then you implied you needed to be drunk in order to feel comfortable with it. Goddamn that is sad.

As for me, I would definitely be wide eyed but generally wouldnt mind since, if I'm with a girl I understand a girl. Girl on girl doesnt quite push the anger button for me...

don't be sorry about telling me that... i know full well that i am a sad by-product of the party sub-culture. but i did think about who i could be harming, when she first kissed me back at the house i pulled away, she said 'why won't you? it's not like you're with anyone' to which i replied 'yeah but you are' she then says 'yeah but he doesnt count in this case'. She then grabbed me by the shirt and kissed me again.

I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since then, i know that there wasn't a problem in doing it because her bf said so, and she is so used to kissing her friends its not even funny, but for some reason it had some major effect on me. Then again that could be because it was only my 3rd kiss ever...

sounds like a loaded situation.. there could be a lot of stuff in the background if you know what i mean, and not just for you.. do you like kissing her? more than a boy? have you ever kissed a boy?

It would piss me off...My girl should only be kissing me...I don't care if it's a girl, guy, tranny or a hermaphrodite, them lips is mine!



This.

umm yeah i liked kissing her, but not more than a guy... although i guess she was better than the 3 other guys i've kissed... girls know what girls want lol.
Whether i'm gay or whatever, i really dont know, the best way i can put it is i'm bent... generally i'm straight but i dont mind girls but i doubt i would ever have a relationship with one

I think i'm so worked up about this is becuase i have no idea why she would even want to kiss me, but thats probably just one of my self confidence issues

yeah she could be kissing you for any number of reasons huh. might even be part of the boyfriends master plan lol. only advice i feel fit to give is that you should start making some judgments (if you havnt) about what you want for yourself, and where you want to stand socially. might even want to ask yourself why your girl friends motivation is important to you.

lol, master plan... its funny because for the past few weeks they've been asking me if i would have a threesome with them. and i mean seriouly asking, not just 'omg it would by lyk so funny if we had a threesom lololol'
I dont care about the whole 'where i stand socially' type thing, half my year reckons i'm gay anyways just because i'm a tomboy (i wear guys clothes and whatnot) and i really dont care anymore, it used to piss me off but everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I'm taking my friend to my formal in 2 months and i reckon that will be pretty funny, it will probably just confirm the whole dyke theory for a few people but whatever.
But as for the motivation thing, as i said, probably just my self confidence issues... i sort of do that with every guy i kiss too so yeah...

If the other girl was attractive, I would say something along the lines of:
"Let me in on the action or we're through."

lol, master plan... its funny because for the past few weeks they've been asking me if i would have a threesome with them. and i mean seriouly asking, not just 'omg it would by lyk so funny if we had a threesom lololol'
I dont care about the whole 'where i stand socially' type thing, half my year reckons i'm gay anyways just because i'm a tomboy (i wear guys clothes and whatnot) and i really dont care anymore, it used to piss me off but everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I'm taking my friend to my formal in 2 months and i reckon that will be pretty funny, it will probably just confirm the whole dyke theory for a few people but whatever.
But as for the motivation thing, as i said, probably just my self confidence issues... i sort of do that with every guy i kiss too so yeah...

haha! i was actually gonna ask you if you wanted that last post, jokingly :D anyway you sound like you got it all figured out :)

In my relationships i like it to be open to the point where, its not cheating if its with someone of the oppostie sex of the person your already dating. So if your dating a guy you can only hook up with other girls and vice versa.

Ok, I'm confused. In my costume thread you said you were a girl. Now you say you have a girlfriend.

Are you thinking what I'm thinking? ;)

That'd be rad. Especially 'cuz I rarely tend to do more than makeout with/grope guys, and that gives me the variety i need to not feel trapped.

If I saw my girlfriend kissing another girl, I would say to myself, "I have been rendered superfluous..." and I would go to a corner and sob my eyes out. That's also why I hate homosexual female porn--it's two women, BOTH of whom will NOT have sex with ME. And such a thing is horrible.

I say you need to sex up your boyfriend and make him feel wanted again. If it was me, I wouldn't be jealous and angry, I would be jealous and sobbing.

egocentric douche.

I don't think I could kiss anyone but my boyfriend. I consider that to be special, and anything affectionate goes only to him.

I could probably have sex with another person if he knew about it and/or didn't care, but kissing, cuddling, holding hands.. Things like that wouldn't be right.

Yeah, I'm backwards.

Well.... I'm poly(amorous)... so my gf already has permission to do whatever she wants, as long as she's honest about it.

However, were I in a monogamous relationship... I still wouldn't care. Then again, I'm the sort of person that would be polyamorous, so.... But typically, your gf with another girl is just hot. If you are worried, ask the other's significant other. If they give you permission, f*ck all those imaginary rules.