Alright, so I met this chick about a week ago at a party. We got drunk and went over to her place. I talked to her for like 2 hours, and I enjoyed it. I actually LIKED talking to her, which is unusual. We banged, and went to sleep.

So I woke up sober the next morning. Now, I was expecting the usual lulz-inducing awkwardness of realizing who you fucked while you were drunk...but it wasn't anything like that. She was totally cool...cuddling, kissing me, talking to me, etc. She ended up leaving around 8 AM to go to court.

After I told my friends who I banged they told me what she was like. "Man she's such a slut...she's fucked like 62 guys." "You shouldn't even feel proud about that." I bring this up not because it bugs me ("slut" applies to guys and girls IMO) but because I have no idea if this is typical slutty behavior, or if it may be something else (her liking me as more than a fuck toy [damn good fuck toy I might add])

The only problem that I have with this girl is that she drinks nearly every night, and likes to bang lots of guys. Pretty normal teenage college life behavior I think, however she ups it a bit.

Ok I don't really know what my question is. I guess I just want a relationship with a girl and don't know if she likes me. She told my friend that she "likes" me but I don't know if that's the relationship kind of like or if she's just referring to my huge penis. She also said I was really cute, funny, etc. She also told him I need to talk more, which is true.

So the other day I spent all day at her house ( I had woken up there that morning) while she was at work. Her roommates were there, and we just kinda chilled for a bit. I had to work the next day at 7AM, and I don't have a car, and the nearest place to stay was 30 mins away. Now, she told me that I could take a shower, watch a movie and eat some food. I later hear from her roommates that shes asking them to get me to leave. Now, I made the stupid fucking mistake of over staying my welcome, no doubt. But I thought I had explained to her my situation and she said it was fine.

When her roommates told me I was kind of pissed but I understood. I mean I took it that she meant I could stay there. So she comes home a few hours later (drunk) and I'm sleeping in her roommates room. She comes in, starts hugging me and telling me that she misunderstood me, and that she didn't want me to be mad at her. I apologized regardless, and she kept telling me to not be mad at her. What does &T make of this sudden change?




So I guess there's no real big question in this. Just any comments or advice would be nice.

Thanks.

I didn't read that.

i don't get it, and i can't be bothered to re-read it.

but what i understand is she told her roommates to have you leave, but you stayed, and when she got back from work she hugged you and told you to stay?

Uh, yea iunno. Do her room mates hat you or something? Or does she? Tell her to stop drinking so much or some shit. Or find someone else who isn't as slutty.

find someone else who isn't as slutty.

That.

Not worth the hassle and heartache for ya there, bud.

seems like your her toy, but if its mutual continue
chance is...u aint the only one, so if her roomies are hot go for it

She probably went out to get another man and didn't want you there when she got back. The guy she wanted didn't want in and she came home to you and was hurt from before and needed you as a friend.

That..Or I'm just being negative on purpose.

She's way too emotional. If you're on totse, you're not gonna be able to handle the ridiculous fluctuations. I mean, and that's what like maybe the span of a week and it's already this hot and cold? Go for it, man, it'll be fun for a while, but at the best, it's gonna leave a bad fucking taste in your mouth.

Just fuck her.

I didn't read that.

hahahahahahaha im sorry this comment made me laugh. And he had to throw in a thumbs up. hahaha

hahahahahahaha im sorry this comment made me laugh. And he had to throw in a thumbs up. hahaha

Wow man, how long the fuck you been here? Sad.

Sounds like a relationship is kinda out of the question, you might be able to get to fuck her for a bit longer though. The changing of her mind is a bit wierd, just try not to get too attached and it won't bother you as much whether she's interested or not.

Always remember - if you didn't have to work for it, other guys won't have to either. A relationship with her would always be risky.

She sounds a little loony to me.

I would be careful, she'll probably be "I hate you, wait, love you, go away, come back!!" in a relationship.

But, on a lighter note, it's nice to be single and back in S&A again :]

Always remember - if you didn't have to work for it, other guys won't have to either. A relationship with her would always be risky.

Yeah.


Thanks for all the advice. The big problem about me is that I always get too attached to females. This is definitely a prime example.

Wow man, how long the fuck you been here? Sad.

I have been here since june of 2004. I know I can be a jackass and have a fucked up sense of humar and very distinct splits in personality but there are others who can be worse. I however do apologize.

So Regarding the OP. The girl you like seems to like you, not neccesary your dick as being the main reason. how big is it anyways ? Your girls excessive need for sex is characterist of sexual abuse as a child which I would not bring up to her. So is her drinking. She could possibly be a alcoholic or drug addict. Alcoholism is believed to be a disease of the brain which many are supposivly born with. Take away the alcohol and the person is left with the real problem being themself and there fucked up thinking and emotions which need to be replaced with a spritual outlit and service to others. Deep down inside she more than likely is a good person. She had a rapid fluctuation in personality which leed me to believe that she may also have a personality/mood disorder if she was sexually abused or as a result of the drinking.

The disorders she could have can be
http://allpsych.com/disorders/mood/bipolar.html
http://allpsych.com/disorders/personality/borderline.html
along with different types of depression.

I had a few assumptions when I came up with my answer but will be more than happy to reevaluate the situation if you add any more detail's.

There is also sociological factors that can have an influence on her but I can elaborate another day.

Distortion, thank you for the reply.

Deep down inside she more than likely is a good person.

It's ironic you say that, because her room mates told me that "she's a good person, she just likes to party." Which you know, whatever. I do too. But it really amazed me when she went from "You need to get him out of my house" to "I'm sorry, I didn't understand, let's fuck." I've never seen her be overly emotional or anything, so I don't think she's bipolar. I suppose the biggest possibility is her just being manipulative.

I've decided I'm going to employ the "ignore her for a little bit" technique and see what happens. Good idea?

i'm really high right now, but it sounds to me like its all good.

and ya ignore her, that will help, chicks hate needy dudes.

I think I'm going to start flirting with her friends around her. Her response could be a good indication of how she feels. Or it could just backfire in my face. Either way it's gonna be a party.

I've never seen her be overly emotional or anything, so I don't think she's bipolar. I suppose the biggest possibility is her just being manipulative.

I've decided I'm going to employ the "ignore her for a little bit" technique and see what happens. Good idea?

Well thats good if she is not bipolar. Read the link about borderline personality disorder that I listed that way you can be aware of that possibility. And definitly watch out for antisocial personality disorder

Ignoreing a girl is a good technique in the art of seduction. Good idea or not that is your decision I personally do not see anything wrong with it as long as your not harming another person in a serious sense which your not because you care for her.

Cool man, I will look into that.

That is another technique to get a women more interested in you but sinse you already slept with her that could just back fire on you especially if it is obvious what you are doing.

I am a little rusty with my knowlegde of psychology I ment antisococial not narsistic. http://allpsych.com/disorders/personality/antisocial.html

The fact you're immature enough to think in terms of her being a 'slut' and that you pay attention to what 'friends' say, kinda tells me a relationship ain't gonna work.

You're right, I should have said "I like a promiscuous woman."

Hahahaha. I experience this problem when it comes to negative thoughts. Somtimes the words I use can seem to harsh or mean. I could use "lighter" words to lessen the harsh ness but the feelings are still the same regardless. Geting to the point. That sentence sounds to proper. I did not see anything wrong with "I like a slut." Its allways fun to be proper though.

I feel like slut and even promiscuous are such loaded terms. Who cares if she wants to fuck a lot? Don't look a gift horse in the mouth!

It's hard for most people to shake the values/ideals that their culture pushes upon them. Even when they see the logic in dropping the tainted view that they have been brought up on, sense doesn't always prevail.

I said in my post I don't give a fuck about her screwing tons of guys, and that I EXPECT that out of a college girl. I don't even like the term slut. HOWEVER, it is important to point out that she is in fact promiscuous given my situation. I'm trying to find out if I'm just another fuck or if it could be something more.

-tig

Just tell her that you'll always be around in case she doesn't get lucky some night. That you'd be honored to share whichever microflora/fauna she has shared with her fucks.

Girls appreciate that kind of thing. You agree, of course, that the more you suffer the more it shows you really care.

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I think I managed to find your point through the layers and layers of sarcasm.

Don't worry... I'd fuck her too.

Though...one thing I dislike about the girls with the hot pants? If you're at her place, you're all too likely to have other guys coming around. I guess you're cool enough not to be bothered by other guys dropping by to fuck your chick.

Would you mind if they pop into the bedroom for a quick screw? What to do: hang around & wait or come back later? Of course, if you've got her someplace else...no doubt she's wired, do you mind if she keeps it turned on & keeps accepting calls & talking to other dudes?

I find it awkward when those kind of things go on.

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Eh, that would be pretty awkward...but it's not like I could do anything about it, or have any grounds to for that matter. If I was in a relationship with her that would be different.

Eh, that would be pretty awkward...but it's not like I could do anything about it, or have any grounds to for that matter. If I was in a relationship with her that would be different.

Yes? But what would you do? Just put on a shit-eatin' grin or check your email or what? Offer to hold the guys coat while he got busy? Ask him if he needs any help? Tell them that they'll prob be hungry after & query them about what snacks you should go pick up? Say, "Hey guy? Try not to tire her out: there is two or three more of us who want a go at her tonight." :)

Yes? But what would you do? Just put on a shit-eatin' grin or check your email or what? Offer to hold the guys coat while he got busy? Ask him if he needs any help? Tell them that they'll prob be hungry after & query them about what snacks you should go pick up? Say, "Hey guy? Try not to tire her out: there is two or three more of us who want a go at her tonight." :)

Haha

In all likelyhood I would probably sit there with a grin on my face, then go steal some food from her roommates and watch a movie. By myself. Or maybe I'd bang her roommates, but they're kind of fat.