I have a new girlfriend that I havn't had sex w/ yet.

My girlfriend came over and we snorted some ecstasy.

We were making out and our shirts were off when all of a sudden she asks "Do you think that because I'm your girlfriend and that we took ecstasy that I was going to come over and lay you??"

To which I responded "No, I was thinking more on the lines of a blowjob."

This pissed her off incredibly and she put her shirt back on and stopped kissing me.

So what should I say/do in the future if she asks a stupid question like this?

Later she said "your such a typical guy, if your not thinking about violence your thinking about sex and drugs"

To which I had NO RESPONCE, because I know it is tru!

What should I do?

There is more to life than sex/drugs/violence. And im a guy telling you this. Wait until your older. You realise alot of shit.

That's pretty funny, you probably should have pulled off a white lie though and said you had no presumption of the sort. She'll get over it, probably wanted it anyhow.

If you provided the ecstasy then she should provide the pussy.

Eh, if you had waited and let things heat up a little more, she might have given it up. i.e. lied and just kept going at it.

Fuck I wish everyone were as straightfoward as you.

Guys are shit at subliminal hints.

You should have told her that of course you want to lay her, because she's just so beautiful and you want to express your desire for her in the most physical way possible (i.e. dress up the fact you want to bone her as an incredible compliment to her), but then gone on to say you don't expect anything and that you just enjoy being with her.

It's all about letting her know you want to fuck her in a polite, considered way - you'd either have had her by now, or would be having her very soon. Shame you're retarded.

Basically, I think you're an idiot.. + being high was no reason to say something so stoopid. Just hit her with a hammer and do your business.

No doubt.

Sometimes I wonder just how exactly a girl's mind works.

Just because you stated the obvious she got pissed?

I'll provide said hammer.

Why did you snort ecstacy?

Probably to get high.

On the other hand, if she provided the drugs, you should provide the penis...

I have a split viewpoint on this one.

Firstly, she's your girlfriend so why wouldn't you two be pleasuring each other.

But... In my opinion MDMA leaves you in a very vunerable state. Being in a club with 8 of your mates is a lot different than being in a room with one person. Emotions are enchanced and amplified ten fold.

Reading her reaction, she is not completely comfortable with you. The way she reacted to what you said couldn't be a new thing. Seems like you were getting cocky and you failed miserably.

She can probably do better.


Why did you snort ecstacy?Back in the days when I consumped copious amounts of MDMA we would snort some to get an immediate buzz while waiting for the pills to kick in.

This somewhat reminds me of a situation that happened to me years ago......

I was friends with this chick for a couple years and we decided to make a go of it as a couple. About a month into it, and she comes over with the rest of the gang for football Sunday at my house. During the game I'm getting touchy/feely with her and she is rejecting my advances, telling me we'll go downstairs at halftime. We had done everything sexually with each other except for penetration, so I'm expecting some good head at halftime.

Halftime comes and before I'm down the stairs I almost have a full blown hard-on expecting what's about to come. Then she hits me with the "breakup" speech. "We were better as friends, this isn't just working"....blah, blah fuckin blah....every guy in here as heard that shit before. I thought everything was cool and was devastated about things ending. I was in tears and wanted to compose myself before going back up to everyone else, so I told her I'd be along in a few minutes.....I just needed a couple minutes to myself.

So she gets up and just as she is about to walk upstairs.......I'm like....."Hey, wait a sec...can I ask you a question?" She says yeah and that is when I come out with....."Does this mean a blowjob is out of the question?" She indignantly says to me...."I can't believe you would ask me such a thing, especially right now". My response back......."Hey, what's a little blowjob between friends?" She of course stormed back upstairs. Still friends with her to this day! No blowjobs though. : (

Fuck yeah people......I don't care if I'm tapdancing around meteors falling out of the sky, I'll STILL be thinking about getting a great blowjob. Tellin ya, when I die the very last place my blood will stop running is the end of my cock!!!!!

Quoted For Truth...although he'd have had to have expressed it in simpler terms, methinks.

God, people like you make life for me so difficult.

If you provided the ecstasy then she should provide the pussy.

Coming from an Australian...typical?

Fuck I wish everyone were as straightfoward as you.

Guys are shit at subliminal hints.

You're a moron.

You should have told her that of course you want to lay her, because she's just so beautiful and you want to express your desire for her in the most physical way possible (i.e. dress up the fact you want to bone her as an incredible compliment to her), but then gone on to say you don't expect anything and that you just enjoy being with her.

It's all about letting her know you want to fuck her in a polite, considered way - you'd either have had her by now, or would be having her very soon. Shame you're retarded.

No, this is wrong. A woman can easily decide if she wants to sleep with you, you do not need to "compliment" her on the fact that you want to put your dick in her. That isn't a compliment, a compliment is allowing her to move at her own pace and to sleep with you when SHE is ready, and if you were on X and still couldn't get past first base then you're a RETARD!

No doubt.

No doubt you don't get pussy.

Sometimes I wonder just how exactly a girl's mind works.

Just because you stated the obvious she got pissed?

......so many loser guys on here.

Probably to get high.

Lol, damn, keep those coming.

No doubt you don't get pussy.

Dude, I was joking. Sorta. It was like a tongue-in-cheek comment.

I wasn't even going to make a serious comment on the whole situation, but now I feel as though I must...

My honest opinion, is that maybe the OP was coming on a bit too strong. But it also depends on how long they've been going out, and various other things.

IMO, the drug is practically irrelevant here. The issue actually seems to be deeper than that. It is definitely based on how the girl was feeling before the ecstasy was even taken. She obviously had some pre-conceived plan to not have sex with him yet, and the drugs didn't lower her inhibitions enough to bypass that barrier. So it's obviously a pretty strong barrier.

There is a problem here with her, in that she's not totally comfortable with him yet. They need to overcome that particular obstacle before they start getting high on whatever drug and try fucking again.

There was nothing wrong with his approach. They're already in a relationship, so he had every right to at least attempt to have sex with her.

So now it all comes down to just talking it out, and gaining that bit of trust. The ecstasy has little to nothing to do with the whole situation. IMO, the chick is a bit of a prude. Perhaps justifiably so, but she kinda is. We may disagree on that particular point, as it is something that isn't set in stone, and a lot of people have different opinions about.

Anyway, this post is getting a bit long, considering it's in response basically to a one-liner insult aimed at my supposed sexual reputation. Kind of a low-blow if you ask me. But I guess on this particular evening, it got my attention and inspired a much longer post.

Ok these things all make sence.

Should i go w/ the complimenting her about her beauty or w/e?

People say flattery gets you nowhere. That's bullshit. Compliment her. Just seem sincere when you do it. If you can't pull that off, don't bother.

Back in the days when I consumped copious amounts of MDMA we would snort some to get an immediate buzz while waiting for the pills to kick in.

I wondered that. Sorry I was confused, I assumed he'd been snorting crushed E pills for some reason. Which would be a bad idea.

I dont know why, but I've allways had a better and longer high ingesting pills than any other method. Especially if you drink a lovely cool glass of coke with ice cubes and lemons right after.





To thread starter, Ecstacy can bring hidden emotions right to the surface, it can make people totally open, utterly sensitive. It can also make them scared if they're not that used to the drug. She was probably freaked out.

If you want to repair this situation rather than move on to another girl, get the girl to come to your place again, only with no drugs involved this time. Serve her a glass of wine, maybe cook for her, tell her you're really sorry and that E makes you talk utter bullshit. Then you proceed to tell her that she's beautifull ect ect bla bla bla..

Even if it's a lie, it will sound good to her. Flattery does work.

she's a fucking cunt.

I find that when girls take E they want sexins more than a guy does. That's weird that she sprung shit on you like that. Musta done somethin or she might just be a crazy bitch.

You should have said You think about rock N roll alot too...

then sell her on ebay... (theres a necrophiliac's section right?)

Flattery also doesn't cost money and helps to stop those occasional trips to the emergency room. Faking sincerity is easy, but the real thing is even easier.

qft. Most girls would rather you be straight forward, even if it means you wont get laid. Just stretch the truth. Tell her 'I wasn't expecting to have sex, I would never expect that of you. But now that we've started I wouldn't mind finishing because you're so good at kissing/look so good wih your shirt off/other compliment'. And tell her you'll love her even if she doesn't want to.