My last gf was into some pretty rough shit, and we dated for quite a while, so I got hooked. Now, normal sex is boring for me. I want to get bitten hard and scratched and slapped and all that good stuff.

However, the last girl I was with complained that I was too aggressive, and that turned out being a massive turn-off for me, so I stopped.

Wtf? I'm not all that rough. Since when do girls like gentle sex anyways?

see here there's "making love" and there's fucking which is what guys always do. Chicks "make love" sometimes while you're fucking them which can throw off their rhythm.

Fuck 'making love'.

I'd be so bored with vanilla sex.

Funny, I get off on "making love" to my GF and being all deep and sensual, whereas she just wants hard rough abusive sex.

Well, for me at least, the type of sex depends on the mood. I don't always want to be thrown over and fucked with my hair pulled being called a whore, sometimes I like the soft gentleness, sometimes that's really great. All depends.

I know.

I'm 19, and I'm already bored with sex.

"You're to aggressive. Don't leave any marks on me. I'm going to close my eyes and just chill while you do whatever."

Fuck that.

I know.

I'm 19, and I'm already bored with sex.

"You're to aggressive. Don't leave any marks on me. I'm going to close my eyes and just chill while you do whatever."

Fuck that.

donkey punching=win

I know.

I'm 19, and I'm already bored with sex.

"You're to aggressive. Don't leave any marks on me. I'm going to close my eyes and just chill while you do whatever."

Fuck that.

I love having marks left on me. Scratches, bruises... I love being able to look at them after and think about how I got them. ;)

I love having marks left on me. Scratches, bruises... I love being able to look at them after and think about how I got them. ;)

Girls get pissed whenever I leave marks.. probably because they're cheating on me. Ah well.

I know.

I'm 19, and I'm already bored with sex.

"You're to aggressive. Don't leave any marks on me. I'm going to close my eyes and just chill while you do whatever."

Fuck that.

That's not regular sex, that's BORING sex. Just lie there and let you do it? What the fuck?

And I agree with Kephri, marks and scratches are always cool to look at after, "WOW! Look at the size of it!" haha.

That's not regular sex, that's BORING sex. Just lie there and let you do it? What the fuck?

And I agree with Kephri, marks and scratches are always cool to look at after, "WOW! Look at the size of it!" haha.

might've been exaggerating a bit... but you get the point.

The instant you realized it was a man, not a woman you were butt fucking.

I love having marks left on me. Scratches, bruises... I love being able to look at them after and think about how I got them. ;)

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Girls get pissed whenever I leave marks.. probably because they're cheating on me. Ah well.

Probably...? Lol.

That's not regular sex, that's BORING sex. Just lie there and let you do it? What the fuck?

And I agree with Kephri, marks and scratches are always cool to look at after, "WOW! Look at the size of it!" haha.

You sound 10.

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Probably...? Lol.



You sound 10.

Carbon, gtfo my thread, stop trying to flame people in it. No one likes you, no one thinks your funny.

Dude, just get over cb. He's not worth your trouble and he's here to stay.

I'm sorry she doesn't like it rough, my fuck buddy really likes it rough. It's awesome, I've never fucked a girl so into it before. Spanking, hair pulling, being called a whore... She loves it.

Cb is awesome.
And there is nothing wrong with making love. I find it hard sometimes to empathise with people who find it erotic when they are scratched etc. That just seems weird. I don't care what you guys think - nothing beats the sensual feeling when you connect with a girl on a deep level when making love.

Hmmm, I hope this drunken post makes sense in the morning.

:( lucky.

I'm probably just going to wind up having another sexual relationship with said ex. Fuck it.

Sooner or later everybody who fucks a lot runs into a roughie. I've had 3 or 4 gfs who were into S/M on the M side. And yeah, when you get used to it, you miss it when it's gone. My fave was a gf who told me this long story about how, if she got home late from school, her stepfather would beat the crap out of her. She ended it by saying that she wanted me to order her to be home by 6:00 p.m., and if she wasn't home by 6:00, she wanted me to wait for her with my belt. So whenever she wanted a good work-over, she'd come home at 6:05. So I'd whip her for a while, fuck her hard, whip her, fuck her until I got tired. You need to know, btw, this chick was seriously crazy. And I loved it.

Meh my man's a bit of a softy if I do say so myself. I asked him to bite my finger the other day, and he was so hesistant. I'd say "a little harder.. just a little harder" and he would say "Aww I don't wanna hurt you!"

It's cute but it'll get old.

Carbon, gtfo my thread, stop trying to flame people in it. No one likes you, no one thinks your funny.

I love CarbonB.

I love CarbonB.

well then you're a retard and twice the loser/creep he is...


On topic, I find smaller girls like it rougher for some reason....

I disagree. For instance, the chick I'm going to fuck tonight is almost as tall as I am. Which is probably why I'm gonna stop seeing her.

That's pretty damn shallow. I guess your lack of masculinity sends you running after a pleasurable night.

Step and be a fucking man.

Me or that guy ^^ I don't think I'm being shallow, I just got out of a long relationship, and I'm to broke to start dating, so I might have a laid back relationship with someone who I care about and have good chemistry with. I know it won't work out long term, but very little at my age does.

Oh i know I'm being shallow. I have a semi legit reason.

You're obviously not from the wrong side of the river (South London :p )!

She might be though...Or one of these "gothic" chicks who pollute Camden.

OP...Wait 'til you find a girl you actually like and it'll probably change...Or propose a compromise: Even days - love making, odd days - rough sex.

You're obviously not from the wrong side of the river (South London :p )!

She might be though...Or one of these "gothic" chicks who pollute Camden.

OP...Wait 'til you find a girl you actually like and it'll probably change...Or propose a compromise: Even days - love making, odd days - rough sex.

Yeah I'm Saaaaf of the river ;)

I do like rough, degrading sex... but I just get off better with the love making, simply because it's not what I want - love, commitment etc - and the whole acting like it is and leading her on like it is really flicks a switch in me :(

You sound 10.

Not really.

It's just a little funny looking down and seeing a huge lovebite. I was impressed at how evil it looked last time.
Eh, maybe you're just boring and no fun to hang out with. *Shrugs*

My fave was a gf who told me this long story about how, if she got home late from school, her stepfather would beat the crap out of her. She ended it by saying that she wanted me to order her to be home by 6:00 p.m., and if she wasn't home by 6:00, she wanted me to wait for her with my belt. So whenever she wanted a good work-over, she'd come home at 6:05. So I'd whip her for a while, fuck her hard, whip her, fuck her until I got tired. You need to know, btw, this chick was seriously crazy. And I loved it.

I just find that a bit odd. I'd laugh if she was thinking of her step-dad all the way through.

And wouldn't it be a bit annoying if one day she wanted to do something and would be back at 7 and didn't want sex or anything, or did that never arise?

I'd be so pissed off if mine did that. I doubt he ever would though, so I think I'm all set.

My tiny GF (5'1) used to love it rough, biting and spanking and whatnot.
Lately shes been very VERY 'in love' with me, and now shes more into 'making love'
Bummer. I kinda liked the rough stuff
It probably stems from my low selfesteem.

All these 10sec analasi people do about themselfs about how everything stems from somewhere are getting old.
Fuck you Dr. Phil

I don't get it. You want her to bite, scratch, and slap you?

Does it distract you so that you can last longer? or do you just love being beaten?

I hope you don't get hard from being beaten up. Maybe you had a crush on a bully in school?

Maybe you're looking for punishment from Mom, or Dad?

Really, not everybody is into pain. It's pain. Something most people tend to avoid or ignore, not seek.

This generation of BDSM is batshit crazy.

This generation of BDSM is batshit crazy.


:) <3

I don't know.. I think it might be because I'm (I know I've said this a ton sry) a full contact fighter, and I'm beginning to associate training (which i love) with sex (which i love).

I don't know.. I think it might be because I'm (I know I've said this a ton sry) a full contact fighter, and I'm beginning to associate training (which i love) with sex (which i love).

Where do you see the association? Sex isn't a competition.

It sounds like you have to work to seperate the two things. You don't want to become an abusive person without realizing it.

Where do you see the association? Sex isn't a competition.

It sounds like you have to work to seperate the two things. You don't want to become an abusive person without realizing it.

No, I could never be an abusive person. Period.

I was just throwing the idea out, there might be another reason.

It might seem like a competition to us. Really, during our relationship we were constantly "getting back" at each other, doing little things all the time. It wasn't healthy, but it kept going and built up into kind of a subconscious competition. And maybe that leaked over into our sexual life.

Carbon, gtfo my thread, stop trying to flame people in it. No one likes you, no one thinks your funny.

Ahhh this guy is still stuck on the "no one likes you!" routine. News flash, this is the internet.

Cb is awesome.
And there is nothing wrong with making love. I find it hard sometimes to empathise with people who find it erotic when they are scratched etc. That just seems weird. I don't care what you guys think - nothing beats the sensual feeling when you connect with a girl on a deep level when making love.

Hmmm, I hope this drunken post makes sense in the morning.

Thank you, this guy knows what I'm talking about. Scratching? Screaming? What the fuck? Seems like you are just having sex to have sex. Bad sex at that...

Sooner or later everybody who fucks a lot runs into a roughie. I've had 3 or 4 gfs who were into S/M on the M side. And yeah, when you get used to it, you miss it when it's gone. My fave was a gf who told me this long story about how, if she got home late from school, her stepfather would beat the crap out of her. She ended it by saying that she wanted me to order her to be home by 6:00 p.m., and if she wasn't home by 6:00, she wanted me to wait for her with my belt. So whenever she wanted a good work-over, she'd come home at 6:05. So I'd whip her for a while, fuck her hard, whip her, fuck her until I got tired. You need to know, btw, this chick was seriously crazy. And I loved it.

Am I the only one who would stop dating the bitch after she said that?

Meh my man's a bit of a softy if I do say so myself. I asked him to bite my finger the other day, and he was so hesistant. I'd say "a little harder.. just a little harder" and he would say "Aww I don't wanna hurt you!"

It's cute but it'll get old.

Hey, you could always walk dark always in scantly worn clothing. I am sure the rapist will make it a point to "not hold back", or be hesitant with where he puts his dick.

That's pretty damn shallow. I guess your lack of masculinity sends you running after a pleasurable night.

Step and be a fucking man.

I concur.

Not really.

It's just a little funny looking down and seeing a huge lovebite. I was impressed at how evil it looked last time.
Eh, maybe you're just boring and no fun to hang out with. *Shrugs*

Ouch, the man is stealing my insults. Do you honestly think calling me boring is going to alter my impression of you? How evil it looked? You're a moron.

I'd be so pissed off if mine did that. I doubt he ever would though, so I think I'm all set.

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My tiny GF (5'1) used to love it rough, biting and spanking and whatnot.
Lately shes been very VERY 'in love' with me, and now shes more into 'making love'
Bummer. I kinda liked the rough stuff
It probably stems from my low selfesteem.

All these 10sec analasi people do about themselfs about how everything stems from somewhere are getting old.
Fuck you Dr. Phil

Yeah sorry to break it to you buddy, psychology is real!

I don't get it. You want her to bite, scratch, and slap you?

Does it distract you so that you can last longer? or do you just love being beaten?

I hope you don't get hard from being beaten up. Maybe you had a crush on a bully in school?

Maybe you're looking for punishment from Mom, or Dad?

Really, not everybody is into pain. It's pain. Something most people tend to avoid or ignore, not seek.

This generation of BDSM is batshit crazy.

Only thing I've agreed with you on in a while. Keep up the good work!

I don't know.. I think it might be because I'm (I know I've said this a ton sry) a full contact fighter, and I'm beginning to associate training (which i love) with sex (which i love).

It means you have no idea how to express other emotions except for aggression. Even when you're having sex. Kind of sad...

No, I could never be an abusive person. Period.

I was just throwing the idea out, there might be another reason.

It might seem like a competition to us. Really, during our relationship we were constantly "getting back" at each other, doing little things all the time. It wasn't healthy, but it kept going and built up into kind of a subconscious competition. And maybe that leaked over into our sexual life.

Never become an abusive person? You're a fighter, that is abusive in itself. Leaked over into your sexual life? Your relationship is what BUILDS to your sexual life. Some fucking warped people on here.

I already said it wasn't a healthy relationship. But I wasn't abusive. This girl was the reason I started enjoying rough sex, she was into it, and we dated forever, so I got into it.

And no, being a fighter does not make you an abusive person. I enjoy training, I didn't say fighting. I hate the fights. But I have bills to pay, and my pt job sucks, so I take a pro fight here and there. I always feel bad afterwards, win or lose.

Ouch, the man is stealing my insults. Do you honestly think calling me boring is going to alter my impression of you? How evil it looked? You're a moron.

I'm not a man. And I'm not "stealing your insults", how the FUCK do you steal insults, that's retarded.

I don't see the point in you starting over something I said that wasn't even to you. Who really gives a fuck.

And no, I'm not a moron, and no I don't really care what you think of me. You're nothing.

I already said it wasn't a healthy relationship. But I wasn't abusive. This girl was the reason I started enjoying rough sex, she was into it, and we dated forever, so I got into it.

Maybe instead of comparing both of the girls you should just try a new angle? From what I gather you've not had a lot of sex and tried everything, so why don't you just slow down and appreciate it instead.

Didn't read the whole fucking thread, with that said... Just switch up dude, punish the punishable and be tender to the tender. Don't be so one dimensional...

Where do you see the association? Sex isn't a competition.

It sounds like you have to work to seperate the two things. You don't want to become an abusive person without realizing it.

id be more concerned if he started doing things in the ring that he did in bed. wait there's already fighting like that its UFC

Balance.

I have a question for those who are into "rougher sex".

Those who are not into it often think that there is no room for "deep love making" with those who do this. Is that the case then?

It seems to me that between two people who genuinely love each other that there certainly must be a part of that somewhere in the mix, whether before, during, or after.

Maybe someone would like to touch on that aspect of this. How do you express that with your partner?

I wasn't saying that "rough" was the only kind of sex I enjoy now, I was only saying that I hate it when girls aren't into it at all, which seems to be the case 90% of the time. Most "roughies" change it up. So yeah, deep love-making is possible.

I have a question for those who are into "rougher sex".

Those who are not into it often think that there is no room for "deep love making" with those who do this. Is that the case then?

It seems to me that between two people who genuinely love each other that there certainly must be a part of that somewhere in the mix, whether before, during, or after.

Maybe someone would like to touch on that aspect of this. How do you express that with your partner?

There is plenty of room for it if you really love the other person. I don't always want everything to be rough and painful, sometimes its nice just to be loved.

There is plenty of room for it if you really love the other person. I don't always want everything to be rough and painful, sometimes its nice just to be loved.

I think me n khepri should date ;)

My bitch loves biting and scratching. She likes marking me so that any other girl that looks at me thinks "oh wow.. hes marked" haha.

But, even when you do want it to be rough and painful...if you are with the one you love and who loves you in return...I would imagine that you still feel loved and fulfilled either way.

I guess what I'm wanting to know is the emotional connection throughout sexual intimacy, regardless of the "style" of lovemaking. If love flows between two people, isn't it there throughout it all? I can't imagine it being divided, if you know what I mean. Not between two people who genuinely love each other.

I always feel a connection during it. I love being submissive to him, and I always feel close to him when I am.

Most people would think I'm nuts, but being roughed up and called names makes me feel cared for; as long as he is the one doing it.

I think the biggest connection would be after a 'scene' or just after very rough sex. Its usually extremely intense during, but after you can just relax and hold each other and talk about it.

Lol? What the fuck? Yeah I am sure you take $500 fights to pay the bills. Three times...so how is that savings coming along? Oh, and context again my dear friend. I never said it made you an abusive person, but a fighter has to hurt someone.

I'm not a man. And I'm not "stealing your insults", how the FUCK do you steal insults, that's retarded.

I don't see the point in you starting over something I said that wasn't even to you. Who really gives a fuck.

And no, I'm not a moron, and no I don't really care what you think of me. You're nothing.

OMGZ!!? You're not a man!? Well let me just bow to your fucking pussy eh? How do you steal insults? Lol, so I was right about the whole "moron" thing? Yes, if you honestly didn't care you wouldn't make it a point to deny the insult, and defend your credibility as a valid poster. Sorry, you're a moron. Deal with it.

I wasn't saying that "rough" was the only kind of sex I enjoy now, I was only saying that I hate it when girls aren't into it at all, which seems to be the case 90% of the time. Most "roughies" change it up. So yeah, deep love-making is possible.

Who would of thought the majority of women don't want to be beaten while trying to sleep with the person they love? Hmmm.

There is plenty of room for it if you really love the other person. I don't always want everything to be rough and painful, sometimes its nice just to be loved.

So if you had to pick one for the rest of your life, which would it be?

I think me n khepri should date ;)

Yeah, hopefully you both die in the process of you getting the condom on.

I always feel a connection during it. I love being submissive to him, and I always feel close to him when I am.

Most people would think I'm nuts, but being roughed up and called names makes me feel cared for; as long as he is the one doing it.

I think the biggest connection would be after a 'scene' or just after very rough sex. Its usually extremely intense during, but after you can just relax and hold each other and talk about it.

LOL, you are not marriage material.

So if you had to pick one for the rest of your life, which would it be?


LOL, you are not marriage material.


I'd rather be involved in a D/s relationship where I could be happy than pretend to be enjoying vanilla sex with some boring guy. I'd go for the rough sex, it sure as hell isn't boring.

And how would you know if I'm marriage material or not? You don't even know me.

But, Khepri, if you have a deep connection with someone...how can vanilla sex be boring?

Sex is the physical expression of said love, some people express that in different ways. People find love with individuals they have commonalities with, sex is one of those "commonalities".... One has to connect, so to speak, with someone for there to be love..... different strokes for different folks.

I do understand that much. It's just the use of the term "boring" that I don't quite get. But as I've been thinking on this it does make me wonder if, for instance, her personality is one of a "thrill seeker" and that side needs to be "fed" in that way. Whereas other people might not find the same sort of thrill appealing and that also extends to other areas of their lives as well. They prefer peace and calm.

How could a "thrill seeker" find love in a "calm seeker"? Is that like oil and water? The two can not really mix?

*chuckles*

After all, the image of some guy "banging" me...is actually a rather boring one. It's probably the same thing now that I think about it. :P

I am a sexual thrill seeker. :P I would be fine with vanilla sex so long as I was with the one I love, but it just really isn't a preference. Vanilla to me is just lack of exploration, and I definitely want to try everything. :)

I've always had a hard time in a relationship unless the other person was also a thrill seeker, I just lose interest very quickly. It basically is oil and water. It just doesn't work well.. I could never be with someone I was unhappy with sexually.

Do you think you would leave someone if something happened to them where they could not satisfy that for you any longer?

If I love the person enough, I don't think that could make me leave them.

I know I would be unhappy about it, because its just part of who I am. I'd have a more difficult time being with someone who didn't understand that I really do need that in a relationship.

What reason were you thinking? To me, it would depend on whether they were just physically or mentally unable to do it, or if they just didn't want to.

Someone that just didn't want to do it would not be someone I could be serious with. If something happened to my boyfriend now and he were unable to do that for me, I wouldn't leave him.

Good.

I was thinking along the lines of physical more than anything else. As one grows older situations like that do come up.

But then you would also have to deal with his feeling (knowing) he is now at least partly inadequate, after knowing you so well.

I would definitely not blame him for any physical problems that could pop up, that can happen to anyone. I love him no matter what happens.

I'm happy enough just being with him, and maybe my sex drive will cool down eventually. :p

I like rough sex, I do also like being in control, usually. Wouldn't mind submitting once in a while but I wouldn't like it all the time.

I never really explored myself sexually - until I met Khepri. That kinda opened up a whole new... area of sexual exploration. Liking things I didn't know I liked, etc etc. The biggest of course was the D/s relationship I have with her, which, at times is really fun and such a turn on. Something about bending a girl over your knee and spanking here is something... well, magical for lack of a better term.

As for slow soft sex, I wouldn't mind it once in a while - set up some candles, play some Barry White, take it easy, make it long and slow.

If that was the only kind, I'd miss the feeling of being in power and the emotional connection that comes during and after play.

Lol? What the fuck? Yeah I am sure you take $500 fights to pay the bills. Three times...so how is that savings coming along? Oh, and context again my dear friend. I never said it made you an abusive person, but a fighter has to hurt someone.



OMGZ!!? You're not a man!? Well let me just bow to your fucking pussy eh? How do you steal insults? Lol, so I was right about the whole "moron" thing? Yes, if you honestly didn't care you wouldn't make it a point to deny the insult, and defend your credibility as a valid poster. Sorry, you're a moron. Deal with it.



Who would of thought the majority of women don't want to be beaten while trying to sleep with the person they love? Hmmm.



So if you had to pick one for the rest of your life, which would it be?



Yeah, hopefully you both die in the process of you getting the condom on.



LOL, you are not marriage material.

Having read that, has anyone here ever really, really hated someone to the point of wanting them maimed even without knowing them in real life? Goddamn.

Having read that, has anyone here ever really, really hated someone to the point of wanting them maimed even without knowing them in real life? Goddamn.

Karma <3

Why don't you just skip over his posts instead of reading them? Or...are they like an auto accident and you just have to look at the wanton destruction. :D

A glutton for punishment... perhaps?

How appropriate....

Will people stop quoting that fagot CB, I put him on my ignore list for a reason.

Oh, and I don't always make $500, I've made between $200-$1,200 per fight, I don't know where you got that from. I guess it's kind of an industry standard, so whatev. And yeah, I do take fights to "pay my bills", I don't get enough hours at my shit job (10 a week? ftw.).

I think I'd be up for either, rough fucking or passionate love making - just so long as it was with somebody who wanted me, who craved me, who needed me. The only thing I don't get off on is dispassionate sex, getting his rocks off.

Pain causes the release of endorphins, endorphins are opioids. Opiods cause excess dopamine release. If you've never felt an adrenaline rush in your life...I'm not sure what to say to you.

Gawd, what is it about short women? The one who used to come home late was 4'11".

Having read that, has anyone here ever really, really hated someone to the point of wanting them maimed even without knowing them in real life? Goddamn.

It's called get your emotions in check you little bitch.

Karma <3

Definitely karma, but on the internet? Lol, if you beoches ever met me in real life you would shit yourselves.

Why don't you just skip over his posts instead of reading them? Or...are they like an auto accident and you just have to look at the wanton destruction. :D

Lol.

Will people stop quoting that fagot CB, I put him on my ignore list for a reason.

Oh, and I don't always make $500, I've made between $200-$1,200 per fight, I don't know where you got that from. I guess it's kind of an industry standard, so whatev. And yeah, I do take fights to "pay my bills", I don't get enough hours at my shit job (10 a week? ftw.).

Stop your pussy lips from flapping bitch.

If that was true then wouldn't people become aroused whenever they feel pain? There has got to be more to it than that.

No, just because endorphins are released into your brain does not mean you are sexually aroused. How did you make that connection?

Actually, I thought he was making that connection. Thus, my question. :p

I see then, I would think that arousal from pain is just a learned habit. Like anything, most people's sexual preferences are learned through their environment. Funny that these fucked up girls actually want to reenact the traumatic events.

I see then, I would think that arousal from pain is just a learned habit. Like anything, most people's sexual preferences are learned through their environment. Funny that these fucked up girls actually want to reenact the traumatic events.

I doubt all girls are that way, I know I'm not. I've never had any 'traumatic' events that had any hand in my sexual preferences. I think some people are just wired differently.

If that was true then wouldn't people become aroused whenever they feel pain? There has got to be more to it than that.

I'm sure there's more to it. Some people are thrill seekers while others aren't, so while arousal from pain may be a learned habit I see a legitimate basis for the idea. Maybe it just depends on the way you choose (subconciously?) to interpret the signal. Orgasm is also a dopamine release but it affects you differently from, say, jumping out of an aircraft. Then again...I dunno. Brain works in funny ways, point is it shouldn't be all too shocking that pain could lead to arousal.

I doubt all girls are that way, I know I'm not. I've never had any 'traumatic' events that had any hand in my sexual preferences. I think some people are just wired differently.

I prefer the Bio-Psycho-Social model of psychology. Your genetics, Life experiences, and social pressures all influence your sexual preferences.

Think of a clear plastic cup, with a line drawn around it near the top. You also have a glass of water. Now, If the person has an inherited genetic predisposition towards a certain sexual behavior, you add water, depending on how big an influence it is. For life experiences, you add more water, depending on how much it effects the person. For social pressures, the same. If the combined water fills up to above the line, the person has the "fetish" (homosexuality, bdsm, whatever). If it's below, the person does not.

Using me as an example, I have high testosterone, and my family has a tendency towards violence. I also have life experiences of my mma training and fighting, and being rewarded for winning (wrestling, fights, etc.). For social pressures, it was what my ex was into, so I had pressures to conform. So, I'm into pain during sex.

Easy enough, eh?

I doubt all girls are that way, I know I'm not. I've never had any 'traumatic' events that had any hand in my sexual preferences. I think some people are just wired differently.

Ahhh, so you are telling me that sexual fetishes are wired into the fetus?

I prefer the Bio-Psycho-Social model of psychology. Your genetics, Life experiences, and social pressures all influence your sexual preferences.

Think of a clear plastic cup, with a line drawn around it near the top. You also have a glass of water. Now, If the person has an inherited genetic predisposition towards a certain sexual behavior, you add water, depending on how big an influence it is. For life experiences, you add more water, depending on how much it effects the person. For social pressures, the same. If the combined water fills up to above the line, the person has the "fetish" (homosexuality, bdsm, whatever). If it's below, the person does not.

Using me as an example, I have high testosterone, and my family has a tendency towards violence. I also have life experiences of my mma training and fighting, and being rewarded for winning (wrestling, fights, etc.). For social pressures, it was what my ex was into, so I had pressures to conform. So, I'm into pain during sex.

Easy enough, eh?

Please stop talking about fighting and your over compensation for a small penis. It's getting REALLY old.

Ahhh, so you are telling me that sexual fetishes are wired into the fetus?


I'm not claiming to know anything about it, because I really don't know how it works.

I'm not claiming to know anything about it, because I really don't know how it works.

Read my post.. ^^

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I also have to manage pain on a daily basis, and I'm certain that influences my thoughts on it as well. I also can't do things that I used to do anymore because of the pain involved. It does make the sexual experience less enjoyable for me at times. There are times when my hands hurt so bad that even pursuing self-pleasure becomes out of the question for me.

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Do you have arthritis?