gtfo, cuntbag.

You suck at life. Alcohol is never an excuse. Quite clearly you don't care for your present girlfriend as you don't seem to have a great deal of remorse. She's quite right to be "stressing like a bitch" - how would you feel if she slept with a guy because she was drunk and then made the excuse "I was taken advantage of".

People like you make me angry.

On Friday I was at a party, the local slag, who apparently has a massive thing for me comes up to me and starts kissing me - i tell her i can't do that because i have a girlfriend. throughout the whole night she keeps harrassing me, i keep drinking more, my mates keep egging me on - and we end up having sex. 2 people catch us. even though i'm fully aware that it's not an excuse - by this point i am fully incapable of making my own decisions; i can hardly walk. i've obviously been taken advantage of.

my girlfriend has been alerted of this, and she's stressing like a bitch. i've told her that i don't have a clue what's happened and that throughout the night i keep pushing her away - so she's obviously trying to start shit (like she did before with my ex - true story).

the girl who i had sex with isn't talking to me - and is making out like i took advantage of her, which is truthfully a lot of bollocks because she took advantage of me in order to create some drama/have sex. i'm worried that she's going to be a whore about it and going to try to milk the whole scenario to get some attention.

what do i do man? do i explain to her everything truthfully, or just lie my arse off and hope everything falls into place?

man, i've spent 2 days just thinking and it will tear me apart from the inside if i don't sort it out.

thanks for reading, or for the advice if you can spare any :)



Wait, you fucked some infected skank, and you expect your girlfriend to not be a bitch about it?



Man, you really deserve herpes.

Hah, reminds me of a story my mate told me yesterday:

He was at this nightclub, some skank was wearing this like, feathery coat, with nothing but lingire underneaths, ended up sometime in the night running around with a marker and letting people write on her, so my mate, who was quite hammered at this time wanders over, gets run of the pen and writes: "I AM A SLAPPER" in big letters on her belly.

Fucking funny.

what's a slapper?

+1'd

To OP: You suck. You can't keep it in your pants so you blame everyone around you. Nice.

tell the truth completely.
i didn't think you were the type to do something like that. that's really, skanky?
if i were your girlfriend i'd be really fucking upset and pissed, i probably wouldn't be talking to you at all right now.

truth+grovelling+get your act together.

Really, what can we tell you?

Don't fuck girls that you don't want to, being drunk isn't an excuse. I've been drunk and nasty chicks started crap, and I just didn't respond.

There's no talking your way around it, you fucked up and did something really shady, and it's totally your fault. Your girlfriends has every right to be mad at you and if she broke up with you she it would be totally reasonable. If you genuinely feel bad about it and you can be sure you won't be such a fucktard in the future, then feel free to buy her flowers, apologize profusely and declare your undying love for her. You don't sound like you feel bad about it all, though, so you should break up with her and stop wasting her time and maybe get a vasectomy so as not to impregnate the next drunk slut with your idiot spawn.

what's a slapper?

Think skank.

Think skank.

ah, thanks.

op, what everyone else said. you suck.

I do genuinely feel bad about it. I feel completely alienated from everything at the moment - I feel sick when I think of myself, and what I've done - it's horirble and completely disrespectful.

I'm not blaming others, I just feel so annoyed with myself that after telling that slut to stay away from me for the whole night nearly, I eventually cave in due to the pressure of others telling me to 'go for it', and because a few people made me doubt my girlfriend. It makes me feel pathetic really. People I hardly know influenced my decision and made me disrespect someone i do genuinely love.

Even though I've been told 'to forget about all which happened', I still don't feel like I should be fully forgiven. It's going to be so hard to be my usual self with knowledge of what I've done.

I'm going round in circles here it seems. At the time this thread seemed like a good idea - to release some emotion which has been piling up inside of me for ages. I've hardly talked to anyone.

And thanks Isobutane! :D
uh, I'm going to despised round here, when's reg open again?

Love has no boundaries....... but fucking someone else after one day together with your girl-friend.... sure is pushing them!

This is a tricky situation, but from what you've written here (and elsewhere...) I know that you'd really like to be able to "resolve" this situation and go back to hunky-dorey land. Dude, I just don't think you can do that! You're a smart guy, and I can see you mean the best on some level, but you've really fucked up, and I don't see how the relationship with this girl you're with can ever work now. You either continue bullshitting, lying and bending the truth, whilst keeping your fingers crossed that those around you don't let slip/work out what's gone on...... or else you come clean, and apologise, cos damn, you really should be sorry!

The key to "fixing" this situation is not blame; "the skank", the alcohol, the peer-pressure, they are all just facilitated what happened, but no single thing caused it.... aside from you. Dude, you made the choice to well.... basically destroy your relationship as soon as it had begun. I'm affraid that's just the cold hard truth man! Even if by some miracle, your girlfriend attempts to "forgive" you over this..... could you really continue that relationship? You've been lying to her about it, and hiding the truth, and this will ALL come out eventually, be it tomorrow, or in 2 years. There is no way to sweep what has happened under the carpet, i'm affraid people have been hurt and betrayed, even if they don't realise it yet!

Screw what your peers, "the skank" etc think. You're a decent guy definitely, and man, you owe it to both yourself and your girl to be honest, and to let things run their course. Things running their course are not gona be happily ever after on this one - to put it bluntly, get out the ice-cream chum, cos you're single again, no matter what sweet texts you send your girlie. You can't change the past mate, you can only change your attitude and actions in the present and through that the future. Come on dude, you know that you can't outrun lies, and eventually they will catch up with you.

Best get thinking about how to let the truth out of it's deep dark cupboard, and hell no it's not going to be easy, but in the end, we are responsible for our actions, and you owe it to yourself, your girl, and well.... others, to clear this up.

Difficult fucking situation man, don't make it any bloody harder! Good luck... we all screw up, but it is the attitude to said crud which is what defines us as people....

Mellow, thanks once again man.

I've pretty much told you over MSN what I had to say about that.

Even though I'm pretty pissed about all the negative shit in this thread, it's all right - and I fully accept I've fucked up.

Life's such a bitch man - people, please think about what you do before you make these kind of decisions, long term > short term.

I don't hate you, rev. I don't have any advice, but I've been in your shoes. It sucks. I'ms orry man.

I do genuinely feel bad about it. I feel completely alienated from everything at the moment - I feel sick when I think of myself, and what I've done - it's horirble and completely disrespectful.

I'm not blaming others, I just feel so annoyed with myself that after telling that slut to stay away from me for the whole night nearly, I eventually cave in due to the pressure of others telling me to 'go for it', and because a few people made me doubt my girlfriend. It makes me feel pathetic really. People I hardly know influenced my decision and made me disrespect someone i do genuinely love.

Even though I've been told 'to forget about all which happened', I still don't feel like I should be fully forgiven. It's going to be so hard to be my usual self with knowledge of what I've done.

I'm going round in circles here it seems. At the time this thread seemed like a good idea - to release some emotion which has been piling up inside of me for ages. I've hardly talked to anyone.



Maybe I was too hard on you, it's really easy to be a jerk to someone you don't know. But the point is I don't know you, and I don't know how capable you are of fixing your problems.

The main thing you need to do is own up to what you did, just like everyone else said. And it sounds like you've acknowleged the issue, and that's a step in the right direction. All you can really do now is hope for the best, and don't let it happen again. You sound like a decent guy, so good luck to you.