So, I am a man, and I have been fat tell about 19 (240lbs). I am now 21 (180lbs)and in ok shape.

I am so insecure with my looks it pisses me off. I have recently started dating, actually attractive girls, and of course I have to ask them if they think im hot, 1-10...most girls give me an 8, i figure to be nice...

But no matter how many girls tell me this, I never fucking believe them. I am so bad with my looks, smell, style, and all that shit!

I actually will walk around and see what I think are better looking dudes and it pisses me off even more. I don't fucking get it.

Then i get pissed off that there are ugly fuckers who don't give a shit!

Totse, what are your secrets!

It sucks man. You might learn to get over it you might not. It will probably take a lot of time. If your asking girls out and they're saying yes then they are obviously interested in you and thats all that really matters.

I used to be heavier and I have stretch marks on my upper arms/arm pits and I still have a bit of a stomach + I also have bigger nipples then normal but just this last Sunday I let some cute girls write all over my chest and stomach. Was I self-conscious? Yes. Why/how did I do it? Because girls like self confidence and being able to lift your shirt and say "hey, ya I do have a bit of fat on me" takes balls.

I went of on a crazy rant but my point is, just deal with it and fake confidence, it turns into real confidence. Also it looks kind of gay if you ask girls how hot you are unless your clearly fooling around or your in a intimate relationship.

EDIT: Also... STOP GIVING A SHIT! Do you know why a lot of those ugly guys don't care? Because they have realized that they are who they are and they cant change that other then with diet and exercise which can only change weight/muscle not facial structure etc... Learn to love yourself buddy, I know it's hard because you've been over weight most of your life but you can still do it. When you love yourself others with love you too. I know that sounds gay but it seems to be the truth.

Dude... Don't ask girls you date if they think you're hot, that's so unattractive. 1-10? Please dude, that is not cool.

Also the dude is right about faking confidence, it'll turn into something pretty close to the real thing.

Yeah man...Don't do that whole 1-10 thing...It will make you look like a self loving fag who can't control his douchbaggery.

Serious though dude...The sooner you just become comfortable with who and what you are, the easier it will become.

I dont think about that man, just look at the basics, if a GIRL is talking/dating you, and it seems fine(like shes not out to use you) wtf more do you need. Who cares what you rate...obviously your worth something to them. If you can continue to snatch more attractive chicks that should be an indicator that you have what it takes, whether they rank you a 8 - 9 or 10, thats just for personal pride trying to get those rankings.

Only thing looks matters for is first impression, cause if u see a average looking girl there isnt going to be that push to talk to her versus a attractive girl thatd ud wanna hit up ASAP. Could be the same thing with a girl checking you...but more so if you act like you have what it takes, that confidence theyll pick up on it and itll just override the rest of that bulshit.

men aren't insecure

GIRLY MEN are insecure.

wtf man? I was kinda insecure about my skinnyness for a minute because I thought people might allude to me being a cokehead and falling down an elevator shaft but I wasn't really insecure. It was just whenever someone said something about me being skinny I'd tell them I'd punch them if they said it again (and I would have) but they didn't and I stopped giving a fuck if people thought I was skinny because I was a cokehead who broke his back.

So the answer is: stop being a bitch and threaten to beat anyone who disrespects you.