I am shy and don't like talking, and I am in a public speaking class with a guy that's pretty outgoing and cool. He's three years older then me and he's a frat boy. I was skeptical too when I heard his first speech about himself, but he actually doesn't fit the stereotype. So, since I am not as outgoing as he is and I am in a public speaking course (which makes it even worse), how do I initiate conversation without seeming too obvious?

If he's not an asshole, this should be pretty easy...

Simply ask him for some class help. Compliment him that he is outgoing, speaks freely etc... And tell him that you are quite shy and have some trouble speaking in front of people.

Have a public speaking speech prepared and -with you being shy and all- could you maybe give me some pointers on how to loose my nervousness. You might even watch my speech, but just you, too many people might make me all disoriented...

The main thing is: talk, chat, ... Not just think and moon over a person... Go out to the person and have a chat, once you get over that, it'll just come natural...

haha a girl asking advice, thats cool ill help the best i can. If you can just sit close to him and make small chat..examples: Do you like this class? Hows ur speech coming? That was a good speech.....just simple stuff if he thinks ur hot he should have no problem returning conversation otherwise just keep talking to him and he'll get interested. Just dont worry too much about it and ull be ok, all there is to.

He seems to be shy though too, is the thing. The first speech he gave, he started shaking incontrollably, like I do minus the emotional aspect. So, asking for help would kinda not help either one of us. I might try sitting next to him, however I just befriended him on Facebook. Would that make me look bad if the next class I sat next to him? The class only meets one a week, by the way. It makes talking to him a little harder, however I am not complaining about not having to talk infront of people more then once a week!

do you really think he noticied you befriended him? And why did u do so in the first place? If you guys never had any real conversation i wouldnt worry about that, if anything if i was him and i seen that u added me id be almost expecting to chat with you.

All women know how to seduce, because it doesn't involve a lot of work on their side.

Sure it will. You help him, he helps you.

Approach it that way.

that's what i was about to say. send him a message on facebook asking if he wants to get together so you guys can practice your speeches in front of each other.

send him a msg on face book telling him u want his hot body, and if hes into u then im sure hell respond. if theres no answer then maybe hes not into u or hes gay

Just open your legs. He's a frat boy all he will want is your pussy and fuck the shit out of it.

OMG QFT

Yeah, see that's what I am afraid of.

Just come up to him, say "Sex?" in a seductive voice, and wink. That would do the job.

Or sit next to him during class and at some point start massaging his crotch.

Or, better still, ignore this post. I'm just horny.

POST PICS

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Just try to start conversation with him, period. Screw the "OMG that is too obvious" shit. You can't just sit there and wait for him to make the first move, my fiance did that with me. It makes life a lot harder. Don't worry about making a fool of yourself because if after talking to you for a bit he starts to like you, he will just think its cute.

This might seem nerdy. But how about starting small talks through face book? Get to know him, what he likes, etc...
Then just start regularly chatting in class. "Hey, nice speech. Inspired by someone?" etc..

Like someone said, don't moon over him, just try and become friends with him. If things escalate from there, awesome, if not, you at least have a new friend.

Nah, if you start chatting online, but acting like you don't know each other in real life, things will get awkward.

In truth, the longer you wait to take action, the more awkward things will get. There is a reason why 3-second rule was created.

Starting to chat online wouldn't be too bad until you guys feel comfortable enough to hang out outside of school, whether its to do work for your class or not. But using your class as an excuse to talk to him or hang out with him is a bad idea.

What the hell? Why does she need an "excuse" to talk to the guy? This is bullshit. People strike random conversations all the time. Just say "Hi, how're you getting on?", or anything of that sort, or comment on something, and take it from here. It's not rocket science, don't overthink it.

What if the conversation dies right after the, "How are ya?" Do I have to think of another question or do I just leave it?

There is a reason why 3-second rule was created.They disproved that on MythBusters...

You should try to keep it going (and so should he, of course). Of course, if his reaction is really negative, then best to leave it.

Basically, start with commenting on something, best if it's an open question as opposed to a "yes/no" one. If absolutely nothing comes to my mind, use a simple "How're you / what're you up to". In fact, "What're you up to" is probably a better option, because it's more likely to get the conversation somewhere. If you ask "How're you" and he just answers "fine", then you'll have to struggle. If he replies with "fine, you?", then you'll have to speak a bit more, e.g. ("I'm alright. Spent the whole night working on.. "), and hope that he picks up on it.

Hope that helps.

is just closing your eyes from nerves and not knowing where to look when they look at you seductive?
if so, i am one hot momma.

but yes, as everyone says, ask for class help. make sure you actally even just smile at him before you decide to appraoch him requesting the class help though.

They disproved that on MythBusters...

It's a conspiracy to get us to buy more food

*Picks up a cookie from the floor and eats it*

is just closing your eyes from nerves and not knowing where to look when they look at you seductive?
if so, i am one hot momma.

..you are higher than a motherfucker, aren't you?

is just closing your eyes from nerves and not knowing where to look when they look at you seductive?
if so, i am one hot momma.

but yes, as everyone says, ask for class help. make sure you actally even just smile at him before you decide to appraoch him requesting the class help though.

True. Make lots of eye contact with a seductive look. That's a definite sign of interest that most guys can read.

..you are higher than a motherfucker, aren't you?

no.
i'm just a happy person,
who has giggles over a russian boy who is rather a fan of eye contact.

i am glad this thread was made so i didn't ave to make it (:

is just closing your eyes from nerves and not knowing where to look when they look at you seductive?
if so, i am one hot momma.


Not knowing where to look? Oh come on.
You just make eye contact, then slowly shift your eyes to his crotch, then look back up into his eyes, and lick your lips seductively.

no.
i'm just a happy person,
who has giggles over a russian boy who is rather a fan of eye contact.

i am glad this thread was made so i didn't ave to make it (:

Okies, you sound like you know what you're talking about, next thing on your agenda is my letter?

Not knowing where to look? Oh come on.
You just make eye contact, then slowly shift your eyes to his crotch, then look back up into his eyes, and lick your lips seductively.

thanks, now i'm jkust going to think of this and unconsciously stare at his crotch.
thankyou so very much

Just open your legs. He's a frat boy all he will want is your pussy and fuck the shit out of it.
Yeah, see that's what I am afraid of.

God damn, not all fraternity guys are beer drinking asshole jocks.

Anyway, sirlicksalot, don't let the fact that he's a frat boy have any influence on what you think of him. If there's an open spot next to him in your next class, sit down. If not, wait until after class, give him a smile and say hey. Take it from there.

Buy him a lego set

Buy him a lego set
Shoulda gone for the Erector Set joke...

Lol I was definitely on the same thought track when I read the Lego post

Hey OP, you're in Rochester?

I'm in Syracuse, what school are you at?

Anyway, a girl once got me into her apartment by asking to borrow a book. I went over there, she had some cool friends, I ended up hanging out for awhile and then when they left, things went from there.

Or if that doesn't work, just be honest. I'd be thrilled if a girl just straight up told me that she wanted to hang out.

...

All of you people who keep referring to the OP as a girl must not have noticed the SIR in the front of his name, he's clearly a gay young man - which is why he was afraid that the frat guy might only be interested in pussy!

I say, go for it. If he's not buying what you're selling he'll let you know; and if he is, well, problem solved.

thanks, now i'm jkust going to think of this and unconsciously stare at his crotch.
thankyou so very much

My pleasure :p

Post pics of you and him so we can see if you're in his league.

thats what i thought after i saw the name.. if hes a frat boy its likely hes not gay. the mission statement for a frat is pretty much: get pussy.

if ur a girl just pick a moment where you arent gonna get yelled at by the prof, make some sort of observation about him or his work thatll go somewhere and run with it. once youre talking you should be able to make it clear that youre interested in him. with these things in place things are prepped to move in some sort of direction.

Yes, everyone I'm a girl. I always get that question in every single one of my threads. I'm not a gay man liking the frat boy!

Thank god for that.

Although, in line with the good ol' Totse tradition, I have to add "pics or it didn't happen".

I bet you're hideous, so the best chance you have is going to one of his frat's parties, getting him drunk, and praying he'll get it up. Then tell him you're preggers.

lol what a dick ^. +1 post in a girl's thread.