Inspired by a conversation I recently had with some people, I've decided to make this thread. Simply, would you be able, and willing, to stay in a relationship without oral sex? I encountered varying answers, so I'm curious to see if it also reflects totse's opinion.

Personally I could. It might be a girl thing.

Unless the relationship was based entirely around oral sex, of course.

i've been in one for almost a year.

depends what the relationship is based on. if you want head everyday I can't see it turning out everyday.

I'd miss it, but it's not like I NEED it.

I mean God, I love it, but it's not like I'd die without it and if the relationship was good in every other way then why not.

And I suppose you could encourage your partner into it... So, hypothetically, what's the reason I wouldn't be allowed oral? neither of us have tongues? Overly buck toothed to a petrifying extent? Pure stupidity?

A committed relationship? ABSOLUTELY NOT!

I wouldn't be with someone in a deep relationship that was so inhibited/embarrased/turned off by oral. If you are that gaga over someone, why should there be such restrictions.....especially regarding something that is so fun! And chances are if they are that lacking for any sense of adventure in the bedroom, then they are probably a great big bore with their clothes on as well.

I like this thread. Because of my incessant fear of germs and OCD and all that, I have a hard time going down on anyone.

Of course, likewise, I can easily live without ever getting a blowjob. No big deal for me.

Pussy.

Pussy.

Yes, pussy, I dislike putting my face in it...

No, if my girl is unwilling to put my dick in her mouth, that says a lot about her trust in me. Also, I like head, so...

I am going to have to say that I wouldn't stay in the relationship.

I'd be able to handle it too.

Giving and receiving oral are both fun activities, pleasurable too not like it's necessary.

Umm ya.
WTF is wrong with some people? What does putting somebody's dick in your mouth have to do with trust? Some people just don't like doing that, everyone has stuff they like and stuff they don't.
I never gave head to anyone and probably never will, that doesnt say anything about me though, except that I dont like the idea.

Exactly. You perfectly understand the situation too. If a girl is too immature to suck a cock from an unrelated guy who cares about her and she is willing to fuck, it just goes to show a lot about her overall emotional and sexual maturity.

Exactly. You perfectly understand the situation too. If a girl is too immature to suck a cock from an unrelated guy who cares about her and she is willing to fuck, it just goes to show a lot about her overall emotional and sexual maturity.

OMG I feel like I just fell into the land of stupid.

OMG I feel like I just fell into the land of stupid.


Not stupid in the least. He makes many great points as well. To me this is like taking your girl to an amusement park and when you get there she tells you she doesn't like rollercoasters. Or at the beach and she doesn't want to go in the ocean. Going camping and she doesn't want to get dirty. It very much IS indicative to her adventurous attitude towards life. Sorry, but that kind of inhibited mindset (again, clothes on OR off) won't cut it with me. Maybe a couple good times here and there.....but NOT in a committed long term relationship.

I understand that in a way.

I have had bad experiences with guys going down on me and it is something I have not been able to move past, as yet.

Maybe. With the right man....maybe.

Not that I'm trying to pump you for more info, because probably you would have already divulged more info if not for such a personal nature. But I gotta tell you, the vagueness of that scenario intrigues me and I wish you could elaborate more.

*Nudge nudge* Who knows, maybe the sex therapists at good ole Totse could help?! : )

I am contemplating trying to have a relationship without any sexual contact at all. dont know if my girl would like it though... then again... i dont know if i could do it either...

i <3 blowjobs

Not that I'm trying to pump you for more info, because probably you would have already divulged more info if not for such a personal nature. But I gotta tell you, the vagueness of that scenario intrigues me and I wish you could elaborate more.

*Nudge nudge* Who knows, maybe the sex therapists at good ole Totse could help?! : )

AKA

"Let me beat off to you're storys"

If a girl isn't willing to do oral, then she must be pretty boring in bed. I don't think I'd want to be stuck in a relationship with lame unadventurous sex..

Oral or Anal. 1 or the other, or both, but not neither.

Nah, I'm just kidding. Of course I could stay in a relationship like that, but eventually we'd reach a point of trust and I'd be able to go down on her and she on me, right? Because I can stand no oral for a year or two, but not forever. It's the easiest way to spice up a sex life, just add some tongue and the magic is back.

Seriously, fuck no oral. If the girl doesn't think my penis is delicious looking enough then she can gtfo.

Same here.

Same here.

What is it that you girls like so much about giving head anyway?

Not stupid in the least. He makes many great points as well. To me this is like taking your girl to an amusement park and when you get there she tells you she doesn't like rollercoasters. Or at the beach and she doesn't want to go in the ocean. Going camping and she doesn't want to get dirty. It very much IS indicative to her adventurous attitude towards life. Sorry, but that kind of inhibited mindset (again, clothes on OR off) won't cut it with me. Maybe a couple good times here and there.....but NOT in a committed long term relationship.

Yea, but there's always other things to do isn't there.
It's just something that some people don't like doing. It's a bit like a girl really wanting to put something in your ass and you not letting her so she finishes with you, "Well if he can't let me put a few fingers at least in his ass then he's obviously boring in bed. Fuck him."

Yea, I couldn't marry someone who I wouldn't suck off, but if it's just a relationship to see where it's going, like not a massive future plan, then it'd be a bit bleh, but it could be worse.

I could live without it, but I'd still miss it. I really like both giving and receiving.

There are so many fun positions and locations to just screw, the only major drawback I can see is "No road head."

There's always ~something~ you can do.
It does take away from foreplay though.

I have lived with it in the past. After a while, Ive just stopped thinking about it.

Oral isn't a huge part of my current relationship, but it's there and enjoyed very much. If I was able to cum from a blow job, it would probably be a different matter.

Ive almost completely layed off going down on her in the past few months, due partially to the fear of pregnancy gunk Ive read about in books. I do, however, find it very empowering going down on a woman.

I've been mulling it over, but I don't think I really want to get into it here. Thanks for asking though.

I might have made a mountain out of a molehill though. I might just need to get back on that horse and ride up that mountain just to see how tall it really is...or...isn't.

How's that for abusing analogies. :D

Kinda like how if the mountain won't cum to oc6, then oc6 will have to cum to the mountain. : )

Ive almost completely layed off going down on her in the past few months, due partially to the fear of pregnancy gunk Ive read about in books.

LOL @ Pregnancy gunk! Love that verbiage Docta!!!!

It all honestly, I kinda had my apprehension as well in regard to gunk. If she was clean and hygenic before, then same clean sweet pussy as always. Maybe, MAYBE...if anything it was a tad bit more "acidy" in taste. Only real major difference in going down on a preggo is that big hackin belly when she is in her third trimester. Not only does it inhibit certain positions and time/comfort level in those positions, but it kills the whole "eyes" factor. When I'm going down on a gal, I love making eye contact with my naughty baby blues as I'm lapping away with delight. Or just watching her facial reactions. But by month 8 you are just staring at a round mound of flesh! And depending on how big that belly is you may have breathing issues, so grab a snorkle and DIVE IN!

I'm lucky in that respect. Although my girlfriend's bump is pretty big, she's skinny and it's not exactly restricting my breathing the occasional time I venture down below. I haven't honestly noticed the inability to make eye contact.

I already do. 6-7 months. She doesn't like it. Big deal.

I'm engaged and I haven't had oral sex, or sex, for over 2 months....Damn it that sucks.

Shit, that does suck...

Why is sex minus oral automatically lame, unadventurous sex?

OMG I feel like I just fell into the land of stupid.

We can take it then that you have never/will never say, "I Love you! I'll do anything for you!... Except this & this & this & this & this & this... And that!? No!!! That goes with out saying!" :D

You would say that those kind of statements, eg: "I'd do anything for you!" are just hyperbole & should be taken as such?

I used to like eating girls out but then i realized i have a really short tongue and suck at it. As for blowjobs, i'd rather fuck any day. If i'm too tired to fuck, i'm not interested in getting my dick sucked to get it up.

Uhg, my ex had a very short tongue. However I'd take that over the talentless idiot I'm seeing (when I'm bored) now.
I agree. Sex=win.

Why is sex minus oral automatically lame, unadventurous sex?

Because if she's not willing to do that there's probably bounds of things she's not willing to do.

That and it would be a huge turn off if she thought your penis was so icky she wouldn't lick it.

If the girl had a scoaty pussy, with fungus and growth on it, I wouldn't mind.

I might bring up all the people who have the bareass thexxth (& yes, oral thexxth is thexxth) with multiple partners & STD's?

But of course I won't as folks generally get very uncomfortable with such talk & freak out. So...I won't... :)

Because if she's not willing to do that there's probably bounds of things she's not willing to do.

That and it would be a huge turn off if she thought your penis was so icky she wouldn't lick it.

but if you love her, shouldn't you not try to pressure her into doing something she's not comfortable with?

but if you love her, shouldn't you not try to pressure her into doing something she's not comfortable with?

Exactly! I didnt say icky, its just something that some people would not be comfortable doing. Theres tons of other stuff two people could do and it doesnt say anything about not being "adventurous".
Plus I never said Id do anything for anyone. Loving someone doesnt mean blowing them.

but if you love her, shouldn't you not try to pressure her into doing something she's not comfortable with?

well it's all hypothetical, because I wouldn't even consider being with a girl who wouldn't do that.