Well basically I feel the very little amount of mojo I once had has dried up. I haven't had anything close to a girlfriend for some time now and I've lost all, I dunno, my skills or sense.

I can't pick up on how girls see me, whether they like me, are interested, whatever.

I'm under this shell, I feel I can't be who I am and it would be difficult for me to be that considering I'm still trying to figure out who I am myself. For this reason I believe explains that I tend to be often torn between two girls that are basically complete opposites and I don't know which way to go.

Another thing is (and this will sound really up myself or something) that I'm pretty popular, I mean just the other night I had all these girls coming up to me and wanting to talk, they come up and hug you, kiss you, try to drag you to the dance floor, whatever...sure that's normal right? Well sort of, I mean because a lot of the time you'd pick up on things and I'm not. Unless theres a girl that's going to do something really blatant I'm not going to be able to tell.

I'm also really picky which fucks me over. Soo I'll make some points into questions

1. How can I get myself out there?

I might not be completely ready yet but I want anyone interested to know if they are serious about wanting to see if we could work, that we can do some stuff together and see where it goes.

2. How can I tell when someone is interested in me, seperating cute 'common' shit like glancing over at me, winking, offering me a drink, inviting me somewhere, all that shit. I'm friends with too many girls for my own good. One would think one of them would like to see you with someone but that doesn't seem to be the case, and friends can become more than that, in fact the girl I'm liking is one of those instances, but I can't tell if someone/who wants that.

I think that's it. Just thinking too, one thing that I'm holding myself back with too is that because I am friends with these people that I don't want to fuck things up with that, and I'm not keen on the idea of being with someone a guy I know has been with, which brings into it too the fact I meet a lot of girls through guys I know.

I'd say I'm pretty average all around. Unless I like someone I will ignore them, another downfall - If things aren't going well straight away (meaning the first few times I see someone) I pretty much dismiss it even where the other person may have thought we were cool.

Fuck sorry, long thread.

One thing I have picked up on a lot of your threads is that you tend to think too much and over-analyse things. I know what you mean about not knowing who you are, so how is anyone else supposed to. I had that almost exact line of thought the other day. Maybe it comes with time. Try and conciously not think about it, as long as you recognise that you're stuck in a repeditive thought pattern you can break it.

But yeah, trying to decipher people's intent from their actions, ie trying to work out how they see you, is only going to bring you grief. Remember that not everything a girl does means something, and if you try to pin an action to a feeling every time, it will drive you insane.

That said, I do both those things extensively. So I'm probably not the best person to give you advice. But at least I can relate.

But if you want to try and get your 'mojo' back, try thinking and talking less. Consider being more primal, and instinctive. Tell your concious to go fuck itself. I've been questioning my sex drive recently, and am beginning to feel that thinking too much about sex kills it completely. It is only when I stop actively thinking about it that I feel something. It might be the same thing with you. You analyse yourself and your perception by others so much that you're missing out on who you are. Try adopting a more arrogant mindset, see where it takes you.

Re-reading this post, it doesn't really make much sense, sorry, bit stoned. Theres another thing that might help you think less :)

maybe you cant tell when girls are interested in you because none of them are actually interested in you.

after all you say youre average all around

Yeah that's a possibility too, though I have screwed up in the past by not picking up on it and having someone tell me later. Hasn't been a big deal until now when I want to know.

And average in my eyes, maybe not others. Here I think I'm well above that but I don't like talking myself up so I won't bother, but people much less than me seem to get some girls soooo yeah I'm not understanding that. I can only put it down to me not trying.