yeah self explanatory.

I used to always last a long time with my girlfriend but then we moved in together and it seems that every time we have sex is quick. so i need some tips because she isnt as turned on as she once was.

Try taking it slower. Or when your fucking her, just stop before your gonna cum and start sucking her tits or playing with her clit a bit or something to get her going even more. Then just let that feeling die down and start goin at it again.

ive tried something like this before. i think another reason might also be because i dont get it alot so when i do get it all i can think about is fucking her hard and then i come.

Try jackin off like an hour before you fuck her. Maybe less than hour. See what works for you i guess.

Meth.

Alternatively, rub your penis with an anesthetizing agent (lidocaine, benzocaine, cocaine)

right before u cum think of your mom and unless your some sort of a sick freak, that should work

hahah have u tried that?

Premature ejaculation is usually caused by 'performance anxiety'. Lol do you have 'performance anxiety'?

No but ive had high stress levels for the past 2 months..

Where r u from lol I'm just curious.

tense the PC muscle the ENTIRE time. even while your getting a boner, tense it up. it will take longer... but u will get harder, and last longer, and have a better orgasm.

works with anything. fapping/handjobs... blowjobs, teh secks

didnt really believed it till i tried it.. both arms got sore... more than once. good shit.

How often is not enough? Once a week, a month? If you live with her, and you guys have sex less than 3 times in one month, something is wrong. This is, of course, assuming that you two used to fuck like a couple of bunnies when you didn't live together. Just tell her that she makes you wait too long, and by the time you guys do it, you're too excited to please her. So, if she complains about the quality of the sex, it's actually her fault. (Do NOT tell it to her like that, but get the point across.)

Seriously, why is it all about her? We have to have sex on her time... blah blah blah... Girls have to be in the mood... = 99% psychobabble mind control bullshit. The longer she holds out, the more you do her bidding. She's using her (albeit whorish) mind, and you're salivating like Pavlov's dog. Break the chain, man. *80's Dokken flashback*

Tell your girl that having sex strictly when she's in the mood isn't fair to either one of you. For reasons previously mentioned, it makes the sex quick, sloppy and animalistic. She doesn't get off, and you feel inept. Tell her you want to make love instead of "fucking". To make love, don't you have to be in a loving mood? I bet she wants you to please her on her time, but expects you to do a good job. If you don't, it's your fault, right? The romance must be gone... NO. She's gotten selfish. If she wants to have good sex, do it on your time for a change. If she won't roll over for you, she ain't a good mate, and I'd lose her. And before some female chauvinist goes on a rampage; submission of the female is very important. It doesn't show weakness, it demonstrates deep trust and love. A truly secure woman will understand. A female competing for dominance in a relationship, to me, shows lots of insecurity. OP: get a grip before you get taken for a ride.

As for dominance, I'm not talking about actual sex play, role playing, S&M or anything like that. I'm talking about her being the boss all the time. I, personally, like it when a woman takes control and assumes the active role during sex. It doesn't make me fee like a sissy, I enjoy seeing her live out her fantasies - I get off if she's enjoying herself. I can't get off by pounding a lifeless vagina lying on my bed. When I'm on top, I like to see the woman rubbing her breasts, or pawing the covers, usually with her head back, back arched, and eyes closed. I don't care if she's not looking at me, or yelling my name. I hope she's in her own world, without thought, pure ecstacy. An it harm none, do what thou willst, right?

Now, I know this post has a VERY male slant. Trust me, I would be this adamant if the positions were reversed as well. I hate when men objectify women. It pains me to see a woman with low self-esteem thow herself into the arms of an asshole who doesn't love her. She gets attention, but her needs are not fulfilled, and the cycle continues... I guess the best advice I could give is: you have to love yourself first. Everything you hate about yourself - others feel the same thing. They may not show it, or even realise it yet, but we've all got skeletons in our closets. It just depends on the mask you're wearing to show affirmation or insecurity. What I would seek is a man who can love a woman so much, and can express that unconditional love in such a way, that she actually learns to love herself. This is wholeness. Awakening the part of each others' souls you never knew existed. It's also one of the greatest sacrifices a person can make - to be truly naked in front of another; to give one's self to another.

You can be equal, but you still have polarity. A healthy relationship should be dynamic. When it's dynamic, things will run so smoothly that it will also appear static, but will never be boring. Yeah, Lao Zhi say "Yin/Yang... [azn philosophy]", but it works. A man needs a mother figure, a woman needs a father figure, a man wants to be a father, a woman wants to be a mother, a girl wants to be a daughter, a boy wants to be a son. Intimate relationships are very much influenced by imprinting, and satisfy a person on far more than the level of ordinary perception.

A favorite of mine is the yab-yum (father-mother) position/concept of Tantric Buddhism. You imagine yourself as the Godhead, your consort is your faithful wife. Without her, you are powerless. Without you, she is equally impotent. You worship each other as God/Godess, Father/Mother and Husband/Wife. You don't really even have to have intercourse to exchange sexual energy, but that's more along the lines of SOTD...

Since this hasn't been an issue all the time, you might want to explore what has changed besides the move. Since you and she agree that she has been orgasmic in the past, it sounds like a condition you might be able to work with.

I agree with the various delay suggestions above. The anaesthetic suggestion would probably work too well and you wouldn't be able to do anything at all.

Usually the more sexual experience you have, the less likely you are to blow early. All of us have had the problem at one time or another.

Buy Durex "Performa" condoms. They're the brand I use as they contain a little anaesthetic in the tip. Not enough to make you lose all sensation and not be able to blow, but just enough to delay it whilst still feeling fucking awesome!

My orgasms are always explosive when I use them. Fucking feels like I'm gonna shit myself or something when the moment comes though!

Yeah Ill look into those condoms.


When we didnt live together we use to fuck all the time and it was great and now that i live with her its like once a week if that.so i dont know.

When we didnt live together we use to fuck all the time and it was great and now that i live with her its like once a week if that.so i dont know.

That probably is the reason. When you're getting it all the time it WILL take longer to blow your load because you're still filling up from the last time. If you wait longer to have sex then you're gonna be too horny and just blow it in minutes.

Those condoms will help, though they may be called something else wherever you are. Definitely made by Durex though.

As I mentioned in another thread, lots and lots of foreplay beforehand will help her reach orgasm in time too. Lick her pussy till she's just about to cum, then stop and do something else, find and finger fuck her g-spot for a 'lil while till she's just about to cum again and stop. Keep doing this and switching what you're doing for a little while so she's right on the edge then bang away! With any luck you'll cum together.

She wont give head or take it.

Flick her off laying beside but almost under her, and half way through put your cock in her and either keep it fully in or gently fuck her, while still rubbin' her off until she cums. Then start fuckin' her harder and last however long you can, of if ya like when you can tell she's close to orgasm, start fucking her hard and cum at the same time.

It's not so much a tip on how to last longer, but when you don't feel you'll be able to last long enough, it makes the most out of what time you allow.

She won't let you go down on her? Wtf? All I ever here are women complaining their guy won't do it or don't know how to do it properly O.o''

Fair enough though, each to their own. Docta's suggestion is the next best thing and a favourite position of mine. Penetration is a little more difficult but the fact that you can play with her clit at the same time makes up for that.

Jesus H. Christ! And you went on a second date with this uncurious cunt?

i didnt ask for help on here for you to talk shit about my girlfriend


but thanks for the help, all those who put input.

i didnt ask for help on here for you to talk shit about my girlfriend

Lol, sorry dude but you sure came to the wrong place!!