Fucking Hell...Three of these.

Keep that bitch rollin' guys.

I never clicked on the other threads.
I find I talk to people better when I have zero thought process, so i'm not 'stuck in my head' it's a lot easier then you don't have to think about what you're going to say. Plus, if you guys get a tugging feeling in your stomach when you see a hot girl, keeping your mind clear helps.

-B.

was gonna make a new one but this is perfect.

"how do I end this fucking dry spell..."

I'm 20, and haven't had sex since I was with my last girlfriend (I went out with for two years before I broke up with her about a year ago) she is the only person I've ever had sex with, and part of my reason for dumping her was to "play the field". I've sort of dated a couple other girls, mostly out of desperation. Probably could have fucked them had I found them more attractive and felt more motivated to put the effort in, but it just wasn't there. I would have just ended up feeling desperate instead of better. Lately, I've really started to beat myself up for the death of my sex life.

Me: There's no way I'm not a hot/cute guy, I lift weights, have a relatively new car, smoke, drink and I have a job working for a local wal-mart store (where there are many chicks)

I'm definitely on the shy or quiet side and have a hard time coming outta my zone, but I'm also mature, smart, wise, clever, have an of-the-wall sense of humour and kinda an attitude, etc etc etc

Why have I lost my game? women rarely ever talk to me anymore and I need to get it back...hell of a dry spell, how do I end it?

I have a job working for a local wal-mart store. I'm also mature, smart, wise, clever.


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5char

Why was the last one closed? It was only 3 pages.

Thats your problem, you think that there suppose to come to you. You think, "Since I am good looking, work, have a nice car, woman are suppose to be all over me."

Nope.

Its built into human nature, men are suppose to approach women, its rarely the other way around. So you already got the basics down, the next step is to gain confidence. I've stressed this so many times, but since its a new thread, I'll state it again. So this is what you do.

Approach, approach, approach. Not even if you don't like the girl, just do it out of spite. Do it more and more, and you'll feel more comfortable. Still shy? Than get one of your friends to force you into a group of girls, see what happens. Still cant concentrate? Ok then heres a tip.

We all know, probably happens all the time, where we see a hot girl, and you know you want to approach her, but you just can't. Then you lose your chance, and you have that deep feeling in your gut that you hate. You feel stupid that you never did anything. Now, another hot girl comes by, and this time you manage to force yourself to go talk to her, and instantly ask her for her number. She turns you down. You may be a bit disappointed, but you feel good that you actually went up and talked to her. So whats the point of all this?

Getting turned down is better than not doing anything at all.
You feel more relaxed and confident when you actually try to get with a girl. So, every time now you see a hot girl and you can't build up the courage to go talk to her, but you know you want to, always remember this tip. You'll soon hear "Hi, my name is rageoholic..."

Thats your problem, you think that there suppose to come to you. You think, "Since I am good looking, work, have a nice car, woman are suppose to be all over me."
Nope.
Its built into human nature, men are suppose to approach women, its rarely the other way around. So you already got the basics down, the next step is to gain confidence. I've stressed this so many times, but since its a new thread, I'll state it again. So this is what you do.


You gotta put in the effort, get into that state of mind. If a girl is coming to you its more than likely shes looking for a handout, or wants to put out some ownage. Not saying it cant happen this way but it shouldnt. Any respectable girl will be expecting you to put out all the moves on her, the best she can do is signal you. Your really making it harder than it really is.

With me i cant explain how it works but somehow i make a mental connection with the said opportunity and if it looks simple enough ill will force myself into saying whatever knowing that there isnt a god damn reason in the world not to do so. Like i dont even plan the shit ahead i just act. Dont have time to think about getting rejected or damn this is a stupid idea, just cancel out that thinking and go with it.

No it was 10...Which is why I closed it.

No it was 10...Which is why I closed it.


Maybe when you're on 10 posts per page.

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5char

wut wrong with that? school and courses cost money...a guys gotta work (to get money?)

thanks for the advice. I mean, it's basically the same kinda shit that I give to myself, but hearing it from someone else always helps for some reason, not really sure why even but it does. I'm convinced that the problem really isn't what I do, but what I think to myself that causes me not to do. Any specific tips on how to be more sexually aggressive? I mean I know approaching all the time is absolutely correct, but could you be more specific?

wut wrong with that? school and courses cost money...a guys gotta work (to get money?)

thanks for the advice. I mean, it's basically the same kinda shit that I give to myself, but hearing it from someone else always helps for some reason, not really sure why even but it does. I'm convinced that the problem really isn't what I do, but what I think to myself that causes me not to do. Any specific tips on how to be more sexually aggressive? I mean I know approaching all the time is absolutely correct, but could you be more specific?

Hmm...Can you be more specific, ha ha. Give me an example of a time where you weren't sexually aggressive.

You sir are almost disturbingly like me....cept I work for the USN.

Hmm...Can you be more specific, ha ha. Give me an example of a time where you weren't sexually aggressive.

I just can't take the lead very well, yknow? When I actually say something, it's always perfect and witty, but I more often just sit back and let some other guy take the torch and get the girls hot, while occasionally spitting in something clever. I just lack that open "flirty-ness" that the players seem to have down.

*waits for CarbonB to come and ruin this thread as well*

Part III? This is turning into a soap opera..

Bumpp

Oh shittt i just found my calling, i dont want to jinx myself now, but if i do work here, im putting my name in the hall of fame....

Lets just say, found a dime girl, totally respectable looking, worth my time..lets see how the play-book works on this. Going to be a fucking task in itself to get anything off the ground with this girl, but ive started with 0 before, wouldn't be the first time. All i can say is DO WORK!

I just can't take the lead very well, yknow? When I actually say something, it's always perfect and witty, but I more often just sit back and let some other guy take the torch and get the girls hot, while occasionally spitting in something clever. I just lack that open "flirty-ness" that the players seem to have down.

Your doing the right thing, well half of it anyways. You already got the cocky/witty/funny shit down, so now you just to get more physical. Thats where Kinesthetics come in. Always remember, kino is probably one of the best ways to flirt with a girl. If your new to it, keep it simple at first. Simple hand on the shoulder, hand on her lap, hand on her back, simple things. After awhile, up the antes. Get more flirty, pass your fingers through her hair, wrestle with her, put your arm around her, anything to give her a message. After awhile, there can be some serious petting, stroking, and...um, well, again, you should know the rest.

Maybe when you're on 10 posts per page.

Lol Moderator got fucking owned.

Yeah, it would be great if those links were found in this thread.

Hmm rageoholic, I kinda know what you mean. Today I'm better looking than the average guy, I'm pretty funny, smarter than most guys and yadayada...

I just totally lack the... Doing part. Just like you said I can easily say a couple of things now and then that a girl will like, but ultimately I'll let some other douchebag take her home cos I held myself back. Shyness sucks.
You'd think alcohol helped, but sometimes not even that is good enough. When I first started drinking at the late age of 18, I instantly enjoyed the freedom it provided me with and started talking to like every girl I met, made them all laugh and all was swell.

Today it seems my insecurities have become nearly immune to alcohol, only on a good night when I reach a special degree of drunkness can I properly charm girls. It sucks.

how many 9 year olds can fit on my dick at once? I can benchpress at least 3 at a time so probly something like that.

My cock is 7 inches.

You're an idiot.

You're an idiot.

and you're a guy who proves day after day that he's got nothing better to do than post shit nobody cares about on a website all day highlighting your own social shortcomings more than anything else....

Plus you eat cock for breakfast.

and you're a guy who proves day after day that he's got nothing better to do than post shit nobody cares about on a website all day highlighting your own social shortcomings more than anything else....

Plus you eat cock for breakfast.

Interesting, I was contemplating the exact same thing. Except I wasn't thinking of myself. Can you guess who I am thinking of?

Harhar :P

Interesting, I was contemplating the exact same thing. Except I wasn't thinking of myself. Can you guess who I am thinking of?

This guy is always so clever!

CarbonB for s&a KING!!!!

Interesting, I was contemplating the exact same thing. Except I wasn't thinking of myself. Can you guess who I am thinking of?

lamest response ever. You lose.

You must be thinking of your alter ego hothomostud69 that you post with on gay chat rooms.

Why, not just go up to one, and say hey your very beautiful what's your name? I have the same problem however, I work at a grocery store to and see them every day, and the only thing I do is go up to them, and say hi, how are you today? Anything you need? That sounds really stupid lol.

Normally you shouldn't compliment a girl on her looks. Not before you get laid, at least. That's what they say anyway.

Normally you shouldn't compliment a girl on her looks. Not before you get laid, at least. That's what they say anyway.

Hmmm.. atleast I haven't tried that yet then.

All you need to do is look at my Bebo.

Bebo?

Okay, I've heard some decent advice for guys who look okay but lack confidence.

But what if you're ugly? How do you trick girls into liking you? I know it can be done, because I've seen ugly guys pull in decent chicks before. How?

Dont compliment a girl unless she asks you, or hints..and then id still throw in some jokes.

And as for ugly guys doing work. Throw on some nice clothes, look appropriate, and just TRY...all you gotta do get out and try and have the game down.

True story. It's very hard for a man to really be THAT ugly, without a way to fix it. Masculinity is not supposed to be pretty anyway.

True story. It's very hard for a man to really be THAT ugly, without a way to fix it. Masculinity is not supposed to be pretty anyway.

What if he is THAT ugly?

What if he is THAT ugly?

chloroform?

What if he is THAT ugly?

Porn industry. He should go and work there.

Edit: Oh yes. And pics or it didn't happen.

CarbonB for s&a KING!!!!

Lol.

lamest response ever. You lose.

You must be thinking of your alter ego hothomostud69 that you post with on gay chat rooms.

Hey an idiot is telling me what HE thinks is fucking important...hysterical much?

Why, not just go up to one, and say hey your very beautiful what's your name? I have the same problem however, I work at a grocery store to and see them every day, and the only thing I do is go up to them, and say hi, how are you today? Anything you need? That sounds really stupid lol.

Now I KNOW you don't get any women. Even though in a man's mind this is what first attracted him to the girl, girl's want to feel like they are being selected not only on their looks but other intrinsic qualities.

Normally you shouldn't compliment a girl on her looks. Not before you get laid, at least. That's what they say anyway.

I wouldn't say until you get laid, just wait until she is comfortable with you and is comfortable enough to know you are being sincere when you call her pretty, beautiful, best thing in your life, ect.

Okay, I've heard some decent advice for guys who look okay but lack confidence.

But what if you're ugly? How do you trick girls into liking you? I know it can be done, because I've seen ugly guys pull in decent chicks before. How?

If you think this is about "tricking" girls you're in the wrong fucking thread.

Dont compliment a girl unless she asks you, or hints..and then id still throw in some jokes.

And as for ugly guys doing work. Throw on some nice clothes, look appropriate, and just TRY...all you gotta do get out and try and have the game down.

I would say this is true. However here is an example of when you should compliment, so picture whatever gets your dick hard sitting on your lap. Girl says, "God, I hope I'm not hurting your leg! I'm sooooo heavy!" when we can all see she weighs no more than 120 lbs.

This is VERY VERY VERY common, this is the only time you should compliment, and throw it out there real nonchalant. I would say, "Come on now, what do you weigh? 110?"

This is also a good opportunity to push her off you and get up immediately after you compliment her. She will associate sitting on your lap with "feel" good moments. Which is what we want.

^^^ yea but you should realize those times when to compliment them, that part of knowledge should not be thrown away...Good ol comments/sacarism, works/confuses the best if you can nail that tone perfectly.

Bumpz

I haven't followed this thread, but I did read the original one.

Last night I went out and tried the cocky-funny routine, and it worked like a fucking charm. I had been drinking and reached a nice level of inebriation, not out-of-my-mind drunk, but most of my inhibtions were gone.

Anyways, it was me, 2 guys, and 2 girls...I was into one of the girls, and indifferent about the other. I started taking the piss out of both of them though and kept it up for most of the night. I didn't end up getting with the girl due to certain shitty circumstances, but I could tell that I was having an effect on both of them. They were laughing, a bit shocked, and...I dunno, I definitely was keeping their attention for the entire time.

So, seriously, get the fuck off the computer and actively try this stuff. I'm really feeling motivated now, since I did something and I saw results.

"Just DO IT" - Nike

"Do Work" - Rob Dyrdek/Big Black

Exactly, as TIAB said, "Anything away from the computer is progress."

The fuck, third page?!? Bumpz.

Exactly, as TIAB said, "Anything away from the computer is progress."

True, but don't make it like a routine to go try and pick up girls. Just go and talk to girls wherever you need to go, start going and doing activities so you know the routine.

If I went and sky dived 10 times before asking a girl to go sky dive with me, I would seem a lot more of a higher value guy since I know what the fuck is going on and I would be able to make her feel more "secure".

Same thing with going to cooking classes, dance classes, putt-putt, whatever you pick. Go there at least once before taking the girl so you kind of know your way around and can have something to throw in if she happens to be particularly knowledgeable about where ever the date took place.

Some funny stories to tell about when you were there before.

If I went and sky dived 10 times before asking a girl to go sky dive with me, I would seem a lot more of a higher value guy since I know what the fuck is going on and I would be able to make her feel more "secure".

Same thing with going to cooking classes, dance classes, putt-putt, whatever you pick. Go there at least once before taking the girl so you kind of know your way around and can have something to throw in if she happens to be particularly knowledgeable about where ever the date took place.

Some funny stories to tell about when you were there before.

While that is good advice, I think the real question is: Why are we listening to CarbonB?

Simply its the acumen and acuity that CarbonB subsumes and alees foward that begets him to a prominent cachet on this forum....

http://www.lolwut.com/layout/lolwut.jpg

Lol this is off topic but I love the reference in your name psycho.

"Who has influenced your music?"

*longest possible pause ever *

"Satan" xD Do you actually listen to gorgoroth? Or did you just find that hilarious? I don't listen to them- I just found it hilarious.

I love these threads.

Getoffmylawn, just stop. You won't win an internet fight with someone who is clearly more intelligent than you.
I mean, you had to use a gay joke for Christ sake.

While that is good advice, I think the real question is: Why are we listening to CarbonB?

Probably because I have better social skills than anyone on this board.

http://www.lolwut.com/layout/lolwut.jpg

To break it down, it means that I know what I'm talking about. Also I should serve as a figure head for anyone that thinks what other's believe makes you who you are.

I love these threads.

Getoffmylawn, just stop. You won't win an internet fight with someone who is clearly more intelligent than you.
I mean, you had to use a gay joke for Christ sake.

Lol, I like the name, and I like the comment :P

Probably because I have better social skills than anyone on this board.


I would be utterly shocked and disturbed if this were true. I mean, I obviously don't know you, but I know your personality on the boards has to be extension of your actual personality. That, and I saw a picture of you.

Now, I haven't been paying...any attention to you over the past several months/year, so perhaps you really reinvented yourself.

But otherwise...I doubt it.

I would be utterly shocked and disturbed if this were true. I mean, I obviously don't know you, but I know your personality on the boards has to be extension of your actual personality. That, and I saw a picture of you.

Now, I haven't been paying...any attention to you over the past several months/year, so perhaps you really reinvented yourself.

But otherwise...I doubt it.

haha wheres his picture at, i need another good laugh for the day? haha

Lets get on with something constructive eh?

So
- Be more dominating, but not arrogant, walk the line and make her feel secure by being decisive
- Be out going, talk to them, they won't come to you
- Retain your patriarchal position over them, whilst not being devoid of affection, show a softer side every so often.
- Talk about topics that would interest them, don't come across too smart or use language they wont understand.


How's that, am I on the right track?
Cheers boys

I would be utterly shocked and disturbed if this were true. I mean, I obviously don't know you, but I know your personality on the boards has to be extension of your actual personality. That, and I saw a picture of you.

Now, I haven't been paying...any attention to you over the past several months/year, so perhaps you really reinvented yourself.

But otherwise...I doubt it.

Doubt what? Oh that's right, you're the type of dip shit who rates social status based on how someone looks in a shirtless picture posted on a weight loss forum.

Let me ask you this then, where do you think you stand in your social circle? Would you say you rule it? How big is it? How many people do you talk to a day? What do you do for a living?

These are things that you don't know about me, and I don't know about you. However I would bet that my answers are going to be a lot more productive in the terms of social skills. You think because I'm a dick to the morons on here that I treat people like that in real life? Lol, I've already said I don't, and if anyone was to meet me in real life I bet they would be instantly charmed.

haha wheres his picture at, i need another good laugh for the day? haha

Ugh...this is why you are never going to progress as a human being.
Lets get on with something constructive eh?

So
- Be more dominating, but not arrogant, walk the line and make her feel secure by being decisive
- Be out going, talk to them, they won't come to you
- Retain your patriarchal position over them, whilst not being devoid of affection, show a softer side every so often.
- Talk about topics that would interest them, don't come across too smart or use language they wont understand.


How's that, am I on the right track?
Cheers boys

For the most part yes, but don't look to talk about their interests. Make them want to know YOUR interests. You can really tell if a girl is feeling you if she constantly wants to dwell on topics she knows you like.

Right.

I've moved to college today; studies haven't started yet, so I've been just hanging around. I've approached a dozen or so random people who've just started college as well, and made some small talk, that includes both girls and guys. However, none of the conversations really lasted more than 5 minutes, or struck any chords.

What'd you suggest totse? Just keep trying, or change something in my tactics? I don't see what I'm currently doing taking me anywhere.

It cant be always about you when your talking with a girl...some dude i know does shit like that, I cant even stand to talk to the dude myself, u ask him a simple question and he'll keep talking until you leave his presence. He had some girls interested at first, one chick asked him about his car, and he ended up talking for about 10mins straight and i look over later and the girls are just talking amongst themselves then whilst hes trying to regain their interest.

Ask them about something u can relate to, they'll start telling a story then you can pick out something they say, joke on em or take control over the conversation back to your side with something of relevance.

Well yes, I'm trying to ask them open-ended questions, but it's all boring crap like "What're you studying" and "How did you get here". Then after about 5 minutes I kind of run out of ideas. And the people on the other end are not contributing much either, so I'm left to do all the work.
With it being the first time that I see them and me obviously approaching when they're available, I don't really know what else to ask.

Ive done that before myself ^^^, stalled out, but then i try something diff to get them talking and then i hit a hotspot and its like a dam breaking free and letting all that water go...just wont stop.

Talking to the girls id be scanning for anything to joke on from what theyve said. Just gotta be nimble mentally to know what to say. I cant really provide too much help without examples.

Well yes, I'm trying to ask them open-ended questions, but it's all boring crap like "What're you studying" and "How did you get here". Then after about 5 minutes I kind of run out of ideas. And the people on the other end are not contributing much either, so I'm left to do all the work.
With it being the first time that I see them and me obviously approaching when they're available, I don't really know what else to ask.

I'm not a pro at doing this or anything, and I have my share of shitty conversations, but the good ones are never based around the simple question-answer, getting-to-know-each-other bullshit. The good ones are always about something...those that are good at approaching and picking-up girls, they tend to open with an actual topic that the other person would want to talk about. I mean, if someone says to you "Hey, what do you study?", what the hell could you say to that besides "[Your major]"?

Those types of simple questions are good for keeping a conversation going once it's already started, but you can't really start a strong conversation with that.

And be observant too. Sometimes you overhear or notice something, and then you can use that as a way to get the othe rperson to approach you. I was in a bar in Belgium a few months ago and I noticed that the small group next to me was speaking English. After a couple minutes I leaned over and say "Excuse me, do you have the time?". It was simple, and I actually needed to know. I said thanks and went back to my drink, and then the group engaged the conversation for me. "Hey mate, you speak English? Where ya from?, etc. etc. [insert an interesting 30 minute conversation here]" You don't always find nice opportunities like that, but sometimes you do. (You'd be suprised at how easy it is to socialize when you're travelling. Everyone wants to meet people, and everyone has a common ground in that they're all foreigners. Pretty much all fear goes out the window.)

When you can't find something like that, a good way to spark a good convo is to make an observation. In my experience, it should be something that amuses you and that you are sharing with the person next to you as a courtesy.

I dunno, just converse with people. Go get drunk and talk to people at the bar. You tend to talk a nd notice what works well and what doesn't.

I'm not a pro at doing this or anything, and I have my share of shitty conversations, but the good ones are never based around the simple question-answer, getting-to-know-each-other bullshit. The good ones are always about something...those that are good at approaching and picking-up girls, they tend to open with an actual topic that the other person would want to talk about. I mean, if someone says to you "Hey, what do you study?", what the hell could you say to that besides "[Your major]"?

Those types of simple questions are good for keeping a conversation going once it's already started, but you can't really start a strong conversation with that.

And be observant too. Sometimes you overhear or notice something, and then you can use that as a way to get the othe rperson to approach you. I was in a bar in Belgium a few months ago and I noticed that the small group next to me was speaking English. After a couple minutes I leaned over and say "Excuse me, do you have the time?". It was simple, and I actually needed to know. I said thanks and went back to my drink, and then the group engaged the conversation for me. "Hey mate, you speak English? Where ya from?, etc. etc. [insert an interesting 30 minute conversation here]" You don't always find nice opportunities like that, but sometimes you do. (You'd be suprised at how easy it is to socialize when you're travelling. Everyone wants to meet people, and everyone has a common ground in that they're all foreigners. Pretty much all fear goes out the window.)

When you can't find something like that, a good way to spark a good convo is to make an observation. In my experience, it should be something that amuses you and that you are sharing with the person next to you as a courtesy.

I dunno, just converse with people. Go get drunk and talk to people at the bar. You tend to talk a nd notice what works well and what doesn't.

Ok, I see what you mean, makes sense. Thank you.

Write out how the conversations went. Hard to help if no one knows what was said.

It cant be always about you when your talking with a girl...some dude i know does shit like that, I cant even stand to talk to the dude myself, u ask him a simple question and he'll keep talking until you leave his presence. He had some girls interested at first, one chick asked him about his car, and he ended up talking for about 10mins straight and i look over later and the girls are just talking amongst themselves then whilst hes trying to regain their interest.

Ask them about something u can relate to, they'll start telling a story then you can pick out something they say, joke on em or take control over the conversation back to your side with something of relevance.

Yeah, I never said to talk about your interests for 10 minutes. Obviously girls don't find oil changes a stimulating conversation.

Well yes, I'm trying to ask them open-ended questions, but it's all boring crap like "What're you studying" and "How did you get here". Then after about 5 minutes I kind of run out of ideas. And the people on the other end are not contributing much either, so I'm left to do all the work.
With it being the first time that I see them and me obviously approaching when they're available, I don't really know what else to ask.

You aren't supposed to be asking questions...

Write out how the conversations went. Hard to help if no one knows what was said.



Yeah, I never said to talk about your interests for 10 minutes. Obviously girls don't find oil changes a stimulating conversation.



You aren't supposed to be asking questions...

Today has been a lot better. I've started to recognise some people, we had actually stuff to do so the conversations kind of started without much effort. So yeah, it's definitely getting better.

I'm sure my conversational skills will get better the more I talk to people.

Today has been a lot better. I've started to recognise some people, we had actually stuff to do so the conversations kind of started without much effort. So yeah, it's definitely getting better.

I'm sure my conversational skills will get better the more I talk to people.

Yes, because despite how old the saying is, practice really does make perfect.

See you got idea as a whole agent.You know what you have to do in that general sense.

Just talking openly here not targeted on anyone. If you cant converse to everyone in a normal sense...how can you expect to talk to some female(s) you find attractive in a deeper sense. Itll choke u up like a drumstick in a fat chicks throat.

You can see this shit in person. Say like your at a restaurant. Guys are talking all normal then the waitress comes up, a hot one at that, she says what can i get you guys, and you watch as everyones voice changes tone and the guys be talking like someone squeezed on their nuts. Its like why the fuck are you doing that shit. My friends brother does this and it pisses me off...its like no wonder ur girl has you owned, throws up this soft/friendly sounding tone.Its like lets all talk in a tone that shows we are a nice guy, puts us ahead of the game and shows we are a real male.....must be what they are thinking in their heads.