My girlfriend has been cheating one me. I' found out today by snooping in her email (I had a feeling that I would find something). In a gmail chat with her sister she was talking about how she flirts with other guys and thinks they are hot. I know she has hung out with these guys alone and I do not trust them with her, but I have always trusted her 100%.

We have been dating for 16 months and I have never been a jealous type. In fact she gets jealous for me even talking to other girls. She tells me bullshit like "I love you so much that I don't even look at other guys or think they're attractive"

What do I need to do?

Do you define her flirting with other guys cheating? Or do the conversations and such she's had imply she's done more?

It's a tough situation.
I dont know what to advise, as I dont know if you want to keep this girl.
Common sense would say dump her right now, if you cant trust her, but the silly feelings like love get in the way, I know.


Do you want to be with someone you cant trust?
How do you think she'll react if you confront her with what you've found? I imagine she'll be pissed that you were snooping.

Some would say you had a right to find out, some would say you're in the wrong.

I would say break up with her. But as you've been together 16 months that will probably be hard, Talk to her about it. Well you would have to come up with how you found this out.

Just trust her and ask her not to flirt with other guys if she wants to stay with you. If she really loves you she will stop.

Need more information. Has she actually cheated, or do you just think she has because she's been hanging around with guys she's described as "hot" ?

Perhaps, while you make your mind up, you should start looking for other options - get talking to some new girls etc and see if you get any leads to follow, always nice to have something to help you get out of a relationship - be it another relationship, random sex, or just attention from females.

We have been dating for 16 months and I have never been a jealous type.
What do I need to do?

Ah you should of escalated your business to her and claimed that shit. 16 months? come on chief. Hopefully you have done something with her in those 16 months besides spend money on her...not to flame but u have to have the upper hand so she wont be messing around with other guys. Otherwise get the fuck out before "ownage" gets recorded on your record.

Flirting is not really cheating. Sure it's not respectable to do while in a relationship, but it might just be playful. She said that she thinks that this other guy is hot; come on man, you still think other girls are hot. I'd bet a thousand dollars right now that you beat it to other girls on the internet or in your mind. I'm not judging you, we all do it, but give the girl a break. If she's just flirting, you might just be being jealous. You guys need to work on trusting each other. Do what you want. you could break up with her, but you guys have been together for a while. Do you want to throw that away over a little flirting? Sit her down and tell her that it bothers you, but then you have the added issue of you reading her e-mails. I know that you were curious, but thats not cool man. People need to give each other space, but I think you guys will be ok if you communicate openly about your concerns and feelings.

Ah you should of escalated your business to her and claimed that shit. 16 months? come on chief. Hopefully you have done something with her in those 16 months besides spend money on her...not to flame but u have to have the upper hand so she wont be messing around with other guys. Otherwise get the fuck out before "ownage" gets recorded on your record.

we used to screw all the time but she hasn't been "in the mood " for a few months.

And I have no problem hooking up with girls, but I'm in love with this one. Even though I don't trust her.

I want to be as logical as I can with the situation. I told her that i looked in her email and saw the chat. She started to get really bitchy with me, so I hung up on her.

its implied that shes done more than flirt

This is a pivotal point buddy...

You can repay the favour by flirting with other chicks, kissing, fucking...Whatever. That way you're even.

Or you can just break it off with her. She's implied she's done more than just flirt and by this implication alone, I am going to tell you flat out you can't trust her further than you can throw her.

The problem with the first is even though you're getting the good stuff elsewhere, there's no point being with her any further because you're doing other chicks and you can't trust her.

I would say mix them...Repay the favour, have a good time doing it then just break up with her. If she asks why just say you aren't feeling it with her anymore and you have this sneaking suspicion you can't trust her therefore you're walking. Straight into the arms of one of the other chiks you were banging.

And if you really need some leverage, if it gets really tough with her, print off one of the emails and keep it in an envelope. Then give it to her before you wander off into the sunset.

I want to be as logical as I can with the situation. I told her that i looked in her email and saw the chat. She started to get really bitchy with me, so I hung up on her.

Wait, she's getting angry with you because she's the one being the fucking whore?


I know it's not cheating as such, but flirting is still pretty disrespectfull to the person you're actually going out with.

:(

sounds like a plan

You have fists, and a woman's face is malleable for a reason.

Nah mate. Don't get yourself in trouble by punching fuck out of her. The old bill will be on you like a tonne of shit.

Physical damage heals...It can leave scars but they are nowhere near as bad as emotional scars.

If you really wanna be a nasty fucker, take pics and email them to her after you've broken up with her...Not dirty ones as they can be used in a sexual harrassment charge against you (post those ones here!) but nice pics of you and your buddies out with a bunch of chicks, dancing, drinking, kissing...Just having a fucking great time! And you can say that they were taken when you found out she's a cheating bitch but before you broke up with her. Maybe they were...Maybe they weren't.

Then block her email so she can't email shit back to you.

I fucking hate people who do this sort of shit...They get treated nicely and given everything but they still treat their significant other like a cunt...People like these need to be made to feel like shit. It's always great when you can take what they did and shove it straight back at them.

Not that I'm bitter.

Here's the way I see it, OP:

You can a) Break up with her, which is the 'honourable approach' as far as I see it, or

b) Cheat as well. This will only get you in more shit, however, and people tend to hold grudges, especially when it comes to relationships.

I'd say do A, then get a proper girlfriend.

Fuck her sister. When your done cumming on her get dressed and go over to your girls house just start undressing her and have her give you head. Once she starts sucking your dick for a good 5 seconds to 10 pull her head off your cock and say "how did your sisters pussy taste?" then leave showing no emotion the whole time.

Filthy...Malicious...Degrading....

I love it.

Shes getting bitchy when you confront her because she doesn't want to come clean. Shes done something and if she DIDNT, then she would not be defensive at all. Especially considering how long you two have been together. I don't think searching in her mail was a bad move, I mean what should she have to hide from her long time boyfriend?

we used to screw all the time but she hasn't been "in the mood " for a few months.

RED MOTHER-FUCKING FLAG.

RED MOTHER-FUCKING FLAG.

This guy is reading my mind. Too bad this guy doesn't have the FUCKING nuts to break up with this bitch.

Filthy...Malicious...Degrading....

I love it.

Fuck yes

Too bad this guy is an apologetic pussy.

Same with my BITCH!!! Just don't care man, really. Not worth getting all worked up over some stupid slut. You could have a replacement in no time.

Same with my BITCH!!! Just don't care man, really. Not worth getting all worked up over some stupid slut. You could have a replacement in no time.

I've been thinking about this quite a lot because of some shit that's been going down in my life. At first, I told you to be understanding, but I'm starting to think that you should take a break from each other. You could always get back together, but maybe you're just not right for each other. Even if she hasn't actually cheated yet, that's where her mind is.

Bang her again first, though (obviously)

Ditch her. If she hasn't cheated on you yet, which is unlikely, then she will.