Not sure how many people on this site would know what it
feels like; but I need to ask:
This girl and I used to be in a relationship, and we were in love almost 2 years ago, when this relationship failed 1 year ago, I remained friends with her.
After tons of fights, lonely nights, depression, and basically me longing to see her she has stopped talking to me for the past 2 weeks. We've tried so many times to fix our relationship with eachother, but it just doesn't work anymore. At this point, I pretty much wallow around feeling empty without her, and I don't really think she gives a shit about me anymore or any of the things I did for her, but
Today I go onto myspace and see a picture that has a very significant meaning that relates to me, so I honestly don't know if she still has any feeling for me left or if that picture is just a coincidence.
We used to spend everyday together, and basically had an amazing chemistry.
I need to know a few things:
Why would she put that picture in her heroes section under myspace, even when she has a boyfriend?
Does it mean she still wants me in her life? (the picture basically represents me....long story involving several bad acid trips and a very crazy band...)
How do I get her off my mind?

I don't know how she got me off hers, but whatever she did it was effective.
How do I be able to sleep again?
How do I regain the ability to talk to other girls?
I just can't do it. It doesn't feel right, I'm not as good at it as i used to be, and I generally just am never interested in any girl other than her. All other girls are boring.
I don't really talk to anyone anymore, I really just want to be alone ALL the time.
How do I get rid of this?
I'm tired of sitting in my house all day getting stoned when 2 years ago I'd be out with a crapload of friends doing something fun.
Please TOTSE, for the love of my goddamn sanity;
Help me become alive again, I never used to be so goddamn-
reclusive before this heartbreak
tell me how to get out of this shitty phase, and how to move on with no trace of her in my brain at all. The very sight of her makes me sad.
This isn't who I am, I used to be pretty popular, but after her I just stopped talking to everyone.

You know I remember back in high school physics class - when I should have been learning - I got the idea for a comic strip character that was basically just some dude that had hooves and a horses head wearing a backwards baseball cap. I decided to call him "Harold the horse-faced homeboy" but I could never think of anything to write except for his two catch phrases "That's outNEIGHgeous!" and "HAY what's HOOFening?"

yea fuck you too jesus

yea fuck you too jesus

If it helps I could post my awesome guide for young guys getting over their first girlfriend. But only if you give me feedback on my Harold the Horse-faced homeboy idea, as I think it has potential.

If it helps I could post my awesome guide for young guys getting over their first girlfriend. But only if you give me feedback on my Harold the Horse-faced homeboy idea, as I think it has potential.

I wasn't saying it to you
It did make me laugh when I read it, so it's good.

but why would she post that picture on her myspace?
It's DIRECTLY related to me and she put it in her heroes section, does this mean that maybe she looks at me as a defining person in her life? Or if she wants to come back to me?
Because I'd go back with her anyday.
I'm very curious about that. if anyone would like to go on aim for more details (I don't like to give the whole story jsut here plus its really long and she has an account as well i duno if she still uses it though)

Yeah I just broke up with my girl yesterday. Bummer eh?

This was your first girl? You have my condolences. The first breakup is always the worst...

Right, here we have rabbitweed's breakup survival kit:

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Memento's

All that crap you have of hers? Get rid of it. If you can't bear to see her preciously crap poetry and laughable artwork destroyed, get a shoebox, chuck everything - I mean everything – in it, and tape it up. Why tape it up? You'll be far less likely to open it that way.

Ditto for crap on the computer. Maybe chuck all the pictures, email etc. on a CD and shove it in the shoebox as well. At the very least, put it in a folder you won't come across often.

Best case scenario is if you burn it though. Especially if she's been a bitch.

Communication

By all means, get some closure. Let her explain herself, and explain yourself. But after there's nothing new to say, THAT'S IT. Block and delete her from MSN, delete her from your phone, don't visit her...if you share work or study areas change your habits to avoid her. Write some contact details down if you really think you'll forget them and want to talk to her again in the future, but the key is to make it an effort to have to talk to her. By the time you're done adding her number to your cell again you may well realise it's a bad idea to call.

Even though you may be curling up into a foetal position every time some cheesy pop shit she liked comes on the playlist/radio, let her believe you're handling the breakup in a calm, confident manly way by NOT TALKING TO HER FOR ATLEAST A MONTH. Longer if the relationship lasted more than a year.

"But rabbitweed, I miss her a lot and I really think crying into her phone like a little girl at 3am will win her over"

It won't. If you harbour hopes of being with the girl one day...this will just come back to embarrass you, and will turn her right off. If you don't want to be with her again...well, now she has something to tell her girlfriends and laugh about with her new boyfriend.

Freedom

All that shit you've wanted to do but didn't for her sake? Go ahead on do it. Hit on girls you've found hot, move to where you've always wanted to, start university, join the army, get into street fights, have gay sex, take drugs...whatever you withheld for her sake but really wanted to do, do it, or at least consider it. You're free to do that now and don't need her approval for anything.

If she comes crawling back

First off...don't count on it.

Second off, I think it's imperative that you get over someone and have a proper emotional break before you can get back with them again. If the relationship failed, there are generally reasons...and if it's come to this, they can't be solved really easily.

If you've had time apart, you feel you've both really changed...THEN TAKE IT SLOWLY. Even if you rushed together before, proceed cautiously, make sure it's good for both of you before you get invested in her again. Try not to have any pre-conceptions on how it will be based on before either...start afresh.

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I wish you all the best. I know not much will comfort you right now, but believe me, you WILL get over her. There will be another girl for you. She's not the only one...you'll be surprised how all those magical qualities you thought no other girls have were either not that great in the first place, or far more common than you think. My first girlfriend was very short, tiny, skinny as hell. She was very delicate and cute, it was great to be able to pick her up easily...I though all other women looked like freaky giants and ogres after I broke up with her. My next girlfriend was 6 foot tall, and I thought her body was absolutely perfect...she had nice long legs, it was so nice to be at eye level and I didn't have to stoop down when I held her hand...

You will love again. Good luck.

also why don't you hang out with your friends again? I suspect you've neglected them since getting your chicky friend. don't make that mistake again and remember good friends are hard to find.

Stop looking at her myspace.

I've had some very traumatizing acid trips and I don't know..
I just can't hold a conversation anymore. I feel as if everyone around me is just another generic idiot, which they ALWAYS are.
I just can't stand people anymore. She was the only person I would ENJOY talking to, I NEVER talk to anyone but my drug dealers at this point and well...even then, I'll get caught in a social situation where I just embaress myself.
For example, I was sitting on my dealer/friends bed when some more people arrived.

They all went into the TV room but I just didn't feel like embaressing myself (I sweat like crazy and almost breakdown when I'm around people I don't know) so I stayed in his room and pretended to be having an acid flashback so I wouldn't have to say anything.

It's fucking frustrating. Before her, I was very popular;
went to parties, had girls talking TO ME (but I never went for them, just her)
but now it's like I can't even talk about anything but drugs.

thanks for the guide rabbitweed, most of it is going to be fucking hard but..I'll give it a try I guess

*Came in hoping for hot totsean on horse action*

Same.

Dude, it's as tough as fuck to get on with life after that shit but it happens.

Just chill...Give yourself a rest and just enjoy life. That's what I'm doing now.

I can talk to any woman I want, I can sit around and do nothing if I so please without being bitched at to go do something, I can go out and get drunk then come home wasted and fall asleep without fearing the "morning after guilt trip"...It's all good stuff man!

Once you're comfortable being single again and you're really enjoying it, some bitch will come along and you'll have feelings for her...Then you're screwed again! Trust me mate!

All the best to ya buddy.

I'm in nearly the exact same position as you. :(

She broke up with me about two weeks ago and I'm sure I could get over her if she'd tell me if we were over for good. I ask her and she says she doesn't know or she tells me that she would've taken me back if it wasn't for this or that.

And now she's not even talking to me. Ugh, I want her so bad but if not that, I at least wish she'd tell me she won't have me back.

I'm rambling. Sorry, I can't say I have any advice for you.

-F☺rd