I started having sex with my girlfriend a couple months ago. It, being her first time, wasn't too enjoyable for her the first time we did it. However, we've done it several times after, and it just doesn't please her.

She'll come over, and we'll have sex all night. We'll try different positions, different ideas, whatever... But the most she gets out of it is that it feels "good", but nothing unique or anything that's really supposed to happen with sex.

I'm sure she's attracted to me-- She's so wet sometimes it leaves large stains on my bed, before we've started doing anything besides kissing. I'm positive that isn't the problem.

One thing I'm thinking of is her being stressed, or not relaxing during sex. She's worried about a few things during it, or keeps asking if I'm enjoying it, instead of trying to find out what feels good for her.

I'm starting to get kind of upset about it, in a way... I've been with other girls and they've been satisfied, so to speak, and I'm fairly sure I'm not completely terrible in bed for the same reason.

Any ideas at all on why she is like this, or something we can do? Further details if needed.

Thanks.

tell her you want to play a game. for an hour, have her focus entirely on pleasing you. then for another hour, focus entirely on pleasing her. or 30 minutes each or something. while you're doing her, ask her to tell you what feels good.

that way there's not as much pressure on either one of you.

Actually, that's what it has turned in to-- Me asking her what makes her feel good the entire time. That's all I'm concerned with. The most I can get is a consistent "pleasure", but nothing even close to an orgasm, apparently.

maybe shes a lesbian. take a scuba diving expedition with some ice cubes

they say scuba divers do it deeper...

op, i have no idea. sorry.

This is a situation where you're gonna have to tell her not to worry about pleasing you and that you want to please her. Therefore she's gonna have to relax and start telling you what to do (which can be amusing at times!)

That's the only advice I can offer short of having me come over to do it myself! :p

She probably doesn't like it because its mandated like a doctors appointment for her. Its a well known fact women have to be in the mood (unlike men) to get turned on or excited during sex. If they are not in the mood or you dont get them horny first they will have a shitty time EVERYTIME. Tease her body, make her Vagin want the penis inside of her.

Hate to be a jackass, but maybe you're not any good at sex. Every girl can cum, it usually the operator. Does she ever get off on her own?

IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT

i had this friend (girl) that really really loved to have sex...but would never have an orgasm. the thing guys have to realize is that sex just isnt about the same things for a woman. i loved getting faded with this friend of mine and just asking her...what is sex for then??? and she told me that its about the feeling she gets when she sees the guy getting off.
although she did mention that it was frustrating never being able to come to a specific point, say a climax, a sense of fulfillment. but thats not your fault, thats the bitches'.

it also has to do with some orgasm delay thing that like 60% of woman have, you can read up on it in the DSM

that could be it as well. until i actually had an orgasm from sex, just having sex was enough for me. it actually kind of sucks once you can get off from it because then it's dissapointing if you don't cum.

ANAL

Nuff Said........