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That's a hard one.

If she actually doesn't remember then you could end up coming off like you did something without her consent, or that's how she may feel.

If she does remember and shes faking forgetting about it then maybe she regrets it or maybe she wants you to tell her.

There's so many possibilities. Either way after telling her or not I would ask her out If i were you, that's what you want right? To be with her.

She could just be choosing not to remember it.

well since she's like your best friend and you do flirt with each other, i'd say just come out and tell her everything. Worst case senario she gets mad but forgives you, best case senario she gets really emotionally flustered by knowing this, asks you if you liked it etc, and you end up going out.

well you could try telling her about what happened both what she did and what you did, then present the idea of going out to her. Citing that you like her as a reason.

I personally think your best bet is to tell her everything, then ask her out depending on her reaction.

I mean, she could regret what you guys did, but she'll just say that if you bring it up, better then not knowing.

Say your too drunk to remember.

i've never been drunk enough to forget something i did... i think she's just saying that so you don't bring it up again.

if you want to continue messing around or pursue a relationship, i'd suggest getting drunk with her again. preferably just the two of you.

char5

Good luck to you man. :)

I'm gonna ask her if she wants to try a relationship for real. And keep the details of that night vague, unless she specifically asks.

The only reason I've been holding back is because back in June I asked are we more than friends or what? 'cuz I need an answer. And I got shot down to being just a friend.

But lately she's been coming on to me more. So I think my chances are good.

Patience... exercising patience and discipline on this could be the difference between you getting to have a fuck buddy and her getting with some asshole that will treat her horribly (which she will spend every waking night complaining about to you) only to string you along further than she already has.

I always hear chicks saying oh i dont remember last night(not to me direct, in general conversations), and they didnt like sitdown-passout either, they made it home to their bed and slept the night away. Then proceed to say i dont remember anything from last night. I honestly think myself its a front most of the time, dont believe them or watch their facial expressions when your remind them. They purposely choose not to remember. Id say tho if u did something sexual with them and they are still hanging around you or acting more positively around you and not wigged out, dont worry about it.

Ive had my own personal times of them denying things they said to me after drinking and such its like whaaaa? Ill mention something they said to me and they were like what who said that? you!!! You werent even that messed up, you kidding me? ridiculous....

I have to rain on your parade(sorry). She was drunk enough to BLACK OUT, do you know how drunk that is, that is retarded drunk(I've been there before(its why i dont drink anymore)). You have to be honest with her and tell her what you remember but dont expect a relationship. Remember what happened last time you took a leap of faith.

truth hurts.

Sniff your finger, smile and say "Still smells like you babe...Wanna go out with me?"

Should work.

That's a hard one.


Pun intended?

Hey man, fuck buddies can lead to a relatioship. Fuck a couple more times, hint at a few things that make you see like a sensitive and emotionally understanding person who's also good in bed, and eventually some attraction will develop; either that, or she's just an unattached playa and you've got no chance. One or the other. Everything is black and white.

she doesn't really want to talk about you fingering her?

what is she meant to say?

Tell her you would like to be in a relationship with her. There. End. Of. Thread.

I'd tell her what happened; just don't go into extreme detail. Tell her that she was quite drunk and tried to make some moves on you. That sounds fairly non-commital while not necessarily making you a bad guy. See how she reacts. If she freaks out, it's either a show, which you can usually tell, or she really wishes she hadn't done anything and feels ridiculous. You can usually tell if she's not interested by how she acts toward you after she knows. Based upon those responses, you can decide whether to take things further or not.

Also, girls fake blacking out often, but there are those who really do get too drunk to know what they're doing. I happen to be a black-outer and it really fucking sucks. The feeling of asking my friends what I did the night before is one of the more painful experiences I've had with them. I hate knowing I've made fool of myself; hell, one time I even tried to kiss someone I detest more than anyone I know and then immediately got alcohol poisioning. So you never really know.

Naivete!! This is a girl we are talking about. Girls are the devil and play mind games just to save their own ego 99.99% of the time. I would say 99.99% of the time, she knows exactly what happened. Don't overtly state what happened, bait her into it or something. I am all but certain she is fishing for your reaction. I'm a 6th year college student and would say you'd have to drink A LOT of everclear AND smoke some good golden nugget to actually forget a fucking finger going in your vagina. It'd be like not remembering a girl sucking you off, this is all but logically impossible. She is fishing for your reactions, imo just be straight with her. If you want a relationship/more of a relationship, then just tell her and either get things going or stop wasting your time.

^^^^ see everyone knows .....

On a second note, girls arent suppose to be aggressive you know, guys are suppose to make the moves on them, but if they start drinking they figure oh i can act like a slut and just say i drank too much and blacked out not knowing what i was doing to cover up for me. Clutch to that I forgot and b-d'out just so i can not push the idea that i cant control myself when drinking. Amusing yes indeed!

Im not saying they cant black out, but considering what they drank sometimes, couple beers and a few shots...come on meng? You ever see women in general get loose all of a sudden after drinking a half/full amount of a single drink only? Ive watched em, how many of these have i had already? one! what?!?!

You should definitely tell her about it, but don't just jump right out and say it. Try being vague about it in the beginning.

Oh, she remembers. People don't forget as much as they say they do after a nights drinking most of the time.

She most likely does remember, and could be trying to see if he's honest enough to tell her.

Or she just fails at holding her alcohol/drugs/whatever and doesn't remember.

Nothing to do with being able to hold drugs and alcohol. When you genuinely can't remember after a hard session it's normally a sign of minor brain damage from drinking to unconciousness. And no, that doesn't include falling asleep when you're drunk and the previous night being a haze.

Just because you've never been that drunk does not mean it doesn't happen to other people.

She may have genuinely lost that memory (I've forgotten bigger things, as have a lot of people), but as she is a girl, and as girls like to play stupid petty mind games, she may still be lying. Whatever....

To the op: what you want still has not changed. Regardless of if you tell her or not, get with her afterwards. It seems like she likes you but is shy when she is sober, or something like that.

You'll never graduate spartan school if you don't go for this one.

I really like the term 'emotionally flustered' and I plan to borrow it.

So long as the girl isn't a munter, see how far you can push things. Nice one