hey, not really new here actually been watching the boards for years, usually post in BLTC but have had to change names numerous times cause i keep getting new emails-
that said..
my problem is this (and please, serious thoughts/replys only no immature bullshit thanks)
I've been married to my wonderful husband now for about a year and 6 months, dated him another year before marrying. Most the time things are GREAT-i mean, ive been in several long term serious relationships before and they never felt like this! We can talk about ANYTHING, we like (most) the same things, he's absolutely fuckin hot, i really couldnt think of much i'd change about him if i could....sure, he DOES drink a bit more than I'd like, not to the point of losing his job or anything but just getting all slurry and hazy, but i do LOTS of substances myself and could never be with someone who didnt allow me my fun. anyway, so its all good, except..well..once and awhile we have problems...in bed. I mean sometimes its hot n heavy, and i definately still find him totally attractive, but sometimes i'm just NOT in the mood! i'm only 23, shouldnt my libido be at its peak?? but sometimes no matter what, sex just feels like something i have to do, like i want to keep him happy...ive told him this sometimes but of course it doesnt go over well, i mean its not that he doesnt try, it's ME! it just seems like men get SOOO easily aroused, no problem, but for me sometimes it takes awhile, i mean like sloooow foreplay leading into something, but then sometimes even when he does that i know he's only doing it hoping it leads to one thing and that ruins it for me. I just sometimes wish we could you know, cuddle or even make out but not have to go all the way to intercourse, but then i feel like a terrible cock tease!! I KNOW i have to talk about this with him, ive told him i just have a low libido and that i wanted to go slower, and he tries. But i know deep down he thinks its an attraction thing, like how come he cant see me naked without getting all "excited" but i see him naked and instead want to touch him and cuddle? I want to be a good wife, yes, thats part of it (and bullshit if you women's lib's think that keeping your man sexually satisfied isnt part of it, cause believe me it is!) but also, I miss my own wild and craving days...any ideas? please write with serious answers...sure ive tried "spicing it up, i used to be a stripper into S&M for god sake, and yes he's "doing it right", when we have it our sex is amazing...i just need to know whats wrong with me that i dont CRAVE it more!! thanks guys...now im off to a bed where my husband just gave up on my getting him off after i tried for 40 min and he could tell my heart wasnt in it and satisfied himself...is that what i have to look forward to?? first porn (which in some cases im ok with) then the real thing????

Gah.. if only someone would re-invent the paragraph..

That out of the way, I think it's pretty normal for you to not be gagging for it all the time. I mean, if the majority of the time your sex life is satisfactory and he pleases you, then the occaisions where you're not into it could simply because you're not in the mood. I think thats a pretty normal female feeling.

Threads like this make me happy I'm single:)

paragraph lulz.

It might be an idea to explain to your husband that when you're not in the mood it's really not because of him. Otherwise he might start to think you're not attracted to him or that he doesent satisfy you,ever, and get all sad and puppy eyed and it really sucks when they do that.

break out the handcuffs and the kinky shit