I'm still a virgin, and every time I'm with a girl, I can't get a hard-on. I'm 16, so I'm thinking this shouldn't be a problem at my age. The worst part is, every time it happens, it makes me more nervous and more under-pressure to get it up the next time, and I'm afraid the longer this goes on the worse it's going to get. Can anyone here offer any advice?

Viagra...Hours of fun...Around 8 to be a little closer to the mark! ;)

Or just chill out and enjoy.

Don't say shit like that!

OP: DO NOT TAKE VIAGRA!
Viagra is meant for people who can't an erection because of the valves wont let the blood flow in. If you take viagra you could damage your penis and NOT ever be able to get another erection without it.

Alcohol.

Just enough to get a little tipsy, though. Don't get piss drunk.

Alcohol sounds about right.
And mix in some coffee.

Viagra is meant for people who can't an erection because of the valves wont let the blood flow in. If you take viagra you could damage your penis and NOT ever be able to get another erection without it.

I still get raging boners for no reason! :p

What can I say...I got bored a couple times! :D

Self-hypnosis.

You know all that shit they do in the movies when they are nervous. Like stand in front of the mirror and repeat "I can get an erection" over and over.

Might seem stupid, but your subconcsious mind is really listening to you and eventually will start believing.

A long time ago i got real nervous real easy, so I started to repeat "fuck what ppl think."

It works, it's basically like self brainwashing/propaganda.


Just don't repeat the words that you don't want to happen, like don't say "I won't have a limp dick" cause then you empathize on "limp dick" and that's all your mind pays attention to, so it would have the opposite effect.

I will try the self-hypnosis thing, for sure. As to the advice about alcohol, I find it even more difficult with any amount of alcohol because of the whiskey-dick thing. For the record, I can get erect when I'm in a comfortable environment eg. in my room or whatever, so I don't think it's medical.

Does anyone else have any experience with this or advice?

It happened the first time I had sex with my girlfriend, but then I got more comfortable around her and it hasn't troubled me much.

I DO lose erections quickly, though. Not all the time, though. IDK, it sucks.

Yea it happens bro, what will help is becoming completely open with everythings, think of it like this:

The reason you can't get it up is you're a virgin and scared, even more so if you're with an experienced girl. Sooo much shit is going through your head you'll be like "omfg now what do i do? ", "hmm, my hand suppose to be there like that?"- lol makes you want to keep your little friend hiding.
So, try doing something like this:
Tell yourself you -know- you have no clue what your doing, but it doesn't matter because no one does their first time.
Tell yourself it doesn't matter if the sex sucks, because your still getting it which is better than no sex.
Also tell her. I had the exact same problem with my first girlfriend/sex partner- I straight up told her "Hey, i'm the virgin...so you guide me :)" - Made me relax after I knew she was comfortable with it and was willing to guide me.

this is your answer. couldnt have said it any better. you just have to talk yourself into relaxing and believing you can do it and not worrying about it. i had the same problem when i was starting out with the ladies and totse gave me this same advice, and it worked.

dont go for the viagra or alcohol or any other shit like that. you gotta learn how to do it on your own first before you start throwing other shit into the mix.

Good advice =]

everytime im with a girl i get a hard on,
you shouldnt be having problems,