I've been going out with this girl for almost 4 Months. The thing is I'm getting kinda bored if you know what I mean. Everytime I see her it's the same thing; nothing ever changes.
knowing there's a bunch of other girls who like me make this even harder.
I think one of the problems is she's a lot less mature than me and sometimes I just take a step back and roll my eyes. One of the good thigns is that she puts out. I was her first and so I'm really afraid that I'll mess her up if I break up with her because she's really in love with me.
Should I just stay with her and hope things change? =[

Please give me some advice.

~Thanks.

What about asking her for a break?
If so how would I do this?

Tough break for your girl. Tell her you need some time to yourself to work some things out. Hopefully she'll accept that and you can go back when you're ready.

Be warned, this could blow up in your face.

What if I don't want to in the end?

Whats boring about it?

And who says its your fault.
Have you tried doing anything new and exiting?
Buy a pair of cuffs, i think that'll get her ovaries all in a tussle.
Or whatever womenfolks do when theyre in heat.

Boring as in there's nothing to do.
We're too young to drive so we just chill around town/at mine/ at hers.
We go to a movie or something sometimes but it gets expensive.
Sexual everything's fine.
I just, I'm not sure if she's the girl for me but I don't want to break her heart.

Dude, it's a reciprocal thing.

You can't expect her to know everything to do.

That's one of the things that fucked me off about my ex...Whenever she wanted to do something it was up to me to come up with the ideas.

Pub?...No, boring.
Pictures?...No, nothing I wanna watch.
Walk?...No, I'm tired.
Go over me brother's?...No, we don't get along.
Read together?...Not in the mood for reading.
Go clean the garden for me?...Fuck you, you insensitive bastard!

No fucking winning with birds mate.

But yeah...Sit and chat to her about it...Just tell her nicely that tings are becoming monotonous and you think there should be more exciting things to do.

Do it the managerial way...The comment sandwich...Start by saying something positive about the relationship...Then bring up the negative side of things...Then finish with another positive. It works.

Yeah man, that's exactly it.
She can't think of anything to do; it's always up to me.

I've had a chat with her and she agreed and said I hope this doesn't break us up.
But nothing changed.

I think I'm gunna say some good things, and then ask for like some room/a break but then say I still wanna see her.

No no NO
*Smacks Atticus_ellis with rolled up newspaper*

'Taking a break' is the bullshit pussy way of breaking up without saying it. Save your breath.


Really, she'll hurt for a while, but it's important to break up with her now rather than in a few months. If she's smitten with you now, that's not exactly going to go away.
And for your self, you shouldnt be with someone you dont want to be. Regardless of how it might hurt her, you are your first priority.

Well I'll show you what happened:
(Yes I did it online)

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Atticus says:
Emily, we kinda need to talk.

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
ok

Atticus say:
I really love you, and I love being with you. You're truely an amazing and beautiful girl.

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
your breaking uo with me?

Atticus says:
No

Atticus say:
Just listen

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
ok

Atticus say:
I sure that you agree things are becomming more and more monotonous lately. Like things are getting old

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
yeah.

Atticus says:
I think that the best thing for us would be just to step back for a while just while we both clear our heads.

Atticus says:
Like, that we take a break so things will be fresher etc

Atticus says:
Like it was when we first met.

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
so we are breaking up?

Atticus says:
Well, so we just take a break from each other and sp there wont be as big a pressure on us both.

Atticus says:
But I wanna still see you.

Atticus says:
I wanna still meet up with you and spend time with you, but just I think we should take a step back you know.

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
I just dont wanna loose you completely

Atticus says:
Me either. I just think we shouldn't make things official for a while so we can step back.

Atticus says:
But I still wanna see you.

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
by step back meaning what

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
no hugs, kisses or anything?

Atticus says:
Of course we can.

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
by step back what do you mean?

Atticus says:
Well so like, we're not quite bf and gf but we're still seeing eachother.

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
ok

emily; life is unkind at the best of times. says:
im gonna go

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Well I guess this way I can still see her but I don't have to be tied down which is what I want.

So you pussied around like a big fat faggot and couldnt even give her a yes or no answer when she asked if you were breaking up.

Chill the fuck out.
This is so hard for me.

i'm gonna have to agree with her. You seem to be taking kind of a childish way around this instead of being more mature about it. You also seemed to make things kind of unclear. From what i gathered from your convo with her you want to take a step back, nothing official, but still want to go out with her, talk with her, and do all that sexual stuff.....so what really changed? Maybe you're just using this as an excuse to see other women while keeping her on the back burner. Although from how much you seem to care for her that doesnt seem the case. If you're getting bored with her I suggest just getting to know her better. In the time you've been together i'm sure you've gotten to know each other, but if you're starting to feel this way you might as well try to move into a more mature relationship and get to know each other on a more personal level.

wtf dude?

How is taking a break gonna help?

Why didn't you just tell her what Psycho_B8 said?
That she needs to think of some fun stuff too?

Really, you should wear a helmet for what you did, it was dumb.
Apologize to that poor woman.


Atticus says:
Well, so we just take a break from each other and sp there wont be as big a pressure on us both.


Whu?
Huh?

wtf dude?

How is taking a break gonna help?

Why didn't you just tell her what Psycho_B8 said?
That she needs to think of some fun stuff too?*

Really, you should wear a helmet for what you did, it was dumb.
Apologize to that poor woman.

* I already have.

She's so upset. I just want to give her a sence of satisfaction.
She's not one one for me. But she think I'm the one for her and it breaks my heart.

At least you still care. At least you feel bad about it. Better than she might get from a lot of guys. She might not know it, but you do.

You do realise that the break works both ways right, sunshine?

How's it gonna feel when you see her with her gums round some other guy's lips and you ain't got the right to say shit?

Bad move mate.

Oh, excuse me.

I interpreted it as tho you were in love wit hher and wanted to stay wth her.
But since you dont then...

I think you need to break up with her.
Its just cruel to keep her around just because shes company.
Especially if you keep saying that you love her alot and stuff, when its not true.

I know.
Thanks for the advice though.
I've made it clear that we're not together anymore.
I want to be able to dates lots of girls you know..

How'd she take it?
You sure you're not gonna regret this?

She's mad of course and upset.
Crying to me.
I said I still want to she her though which is true.

Then why arent you with her?

Cmon, go to her house and have hot makeup sex,
It pseudo scientifically proven that the hottest kind of sex is sex with your ex.

Ok I got out of this all of one thing.

You are bored of her, and want to see other girls, but want to use her for sex.

You fucked the break concept up when you said you'd still hug/ kiss/ etc.

I see a break being that you talk like friends and no physical shit happens. So, if you wanna see other chicks then by all means do, and enjoy it. But, if you were her first, then she is used to being with you and if you two still "hook up" when you are with other girls then it's basically cheating with the cop-out of a "break". I just suggest you either stick with her, or, completely leave her. That, or let her know she is now only a fuck buddy.

*Waits for the "I want her back so bad but she has a boyfriend" thread*

I've had these same problems with my girlfriend. I realized the reason it got boring was because the relationship basically turned into revolving around sex, and sexuality. So basically I asked her for a month without sex, and even trying to refrain from completely sex based jokes/dialogs etc., and it seems to have helped moving our relationship to a more mature relationship, but I still have the problem of the activity thing, and i've just gotten to the point where if she or i can't think of anything, we don't do anything.

You're in the situation where you have no real obligation to her...But be aware that out of courtesy/decency, you don't let her actively know you're dating. If you do, in fact get dates after this.

It's sod's law that says your well just went dry!

But yeah...It's pretty mean what you did dude...You basically fucked her off so you can go do exciting stuff but you'll still let her think that she has a chance of being with you by hugging and kissing and shit (she will think this)
The middle ground is never a great palce to be...She won't know whether you actually want her around for her or just because you're bored (ironically you will go back to the boring one for entertainment)

This is a potential sticky situation.

That kinda the same with us.
After we've gotten past all the Sexual stuf I found there's nothing left to do..

That's exactly it.
I don't know what I want at the moment.