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| Sex and Affection Anything and everything about sex and relations. Please try to keep this forum on-topic, since things tend to wander a bit. Search through old topics before posting a new one, as questions get repeated a lot here. |
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#1
 2007-09-01, 07:54 |
Running Free 
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 This doesn't happen to me.....
So today I was out with my dad and a friend, we were getting licensing stuff for my car.
I'm standing in line waiting, and this guy behind me starts talking to my friend and I, we chat for a bit, then just go back to waiting.
So when I am inside standing with my dad at the counter, there is this really, incredibly cute girl working at one of the other desks. I look at her for a bit, she looks up, glances over at me, catches my eye, smiles, goes back to work.
I, of course, am over the top just cause of this. So then my friend and I are sitting on a bench inside the office, and the guy I was talking to before is getting helped by this cute girl.
The guy looks at me and motions me over, and basically initiates conversation between her and I. He did for me, what I did not have the balls to do myself.
So yeah, long story short, I got her number, was going to hang out with her later in the evening, but was unable.
So now what? I wanna see her again, and I am pretty sure she wants to see me as well, but she lives a fair bit away.
Not necessarily a relationship, but it would still be nice to see her.
Any ideas of how I could work around school and shit?
TLDR Version: Got number from cute girl while she was working, meant to see her, but didn't, want to see her again, what should I do.
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#2
2007-09-01, 07:56 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Funny thing this...You're gonna disbelieve it at first but roll it around in your head a few times before you cast it aside as impossible......
Call her and arrange something.
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#3
2007-09-01, 08:06 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Sounds like a fun way to meet someone, you should really go through with it and make something work. Call her and ask her to a movie or w/e
good luck!
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#4
2007-09-01, 08:40 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
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Originally Posted by psycho_8b
Funny thing this...You're gonna disbelieve it at first but roll it around in your head a few times before you cast it aside as impossible......
Call her and arrange something.
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Yeah, I have trouble believing it's that easy :P |
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#5
2007-09-01, 08:58 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Yeah, I have trouble believing it's that easy :P
and thats why you wont do anything.
i bet you also usually have trouble believing its that easy to just walk up to a cute girl and talk to them. well even though someone else helped you, it really wasnt THAT complex was it?
neither is this. pick up the phone, press all 7 numbers that were given to you, possibly 11 if the area code is different, and talk to her about doing something. and even if for some odd reason you both come to the conclusion that it cant be done, which is really really unlikely assuming you both actually WANT to do something together, then at least your mind will rest easy knowing that, and knowing that you tried.
you said yourself this doesnt happen to you. well it did this time. are you gonna let it pass without doing anything about it? if so, then why should something like this ever happen to you again?
call her.
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#6
2007-09-01, 15:23 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Ofcourse it doesnt happen to you.
If you dont intiate conversations with women yourself you proably are going to see it as ''luck''.
Alot of average guys have this.
If she smiled , acted friendly , and gave you her number.
These ar all indications of intrest.
Meaning that she likes you.
If you blow this by acting all shy , you will lose your alure.
Women like confident guys.
Men that are secure and know what they want.
Half the battle is already won my friend.
Just do this its very simple.
Call her *ring ring* '' Hey how you doing , this is <insert name here> from < name the place you met her at > you want to catch a cup of <insert prefered beverage here > , great so lets meet up <insert date here> at <insert time here>. Hey , listen i really got to run . ill see you at <repeat destination , time, and date, here>. Bye.
Keep it short , simple , and straight to the point . When your on the '' date '' if you want to call it, remember its not an interview. Dont ask her the standard '' What school do you go too '' , '' Do you have any brothers or sisters.''
Be intresting , dont be the average joe . Dont compliment her . rather tease her playfully about something. Women enjoy this even if they deny it. Never give her a straight anwer other then no. If she ask you lets sit over there , say no lets sit over there better. Just arrange it in a manner that you are doing so PLAYFULLY. This establishes that you are a secure , confident , funny guy. Which is the opposite of every other normal guy who has been saying and doing the same shit for as long as she's been pretty. Be COCKY & FUNNY , dont mistake that for arragonce , watch Tom Cruise in Top Gun too see what I mean.
I basically layed out the entire format to you.
This shouldnt be that difficult considering half the work is already done.
Go out there , be confident , come back and post back your results.
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#7
2007-09-01, 15:27 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Keep it in mind for the future.
Make that call.
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#8
2007-09-01, 15:28 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Ahhhh, it all comes back to confidence doesnt it. Im still working on that part.
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#9
2007-09-01, 16:26 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
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Originally Posted by Lobo
Ofcourse it doesnt happen to you.
If you dont intiate conversations with women yourself you proably are going to see it as ''luck''.
Alot of average guys have this.
If she smiled , acted friendly , and gave you her number.
These ar all indications of intrest.
Meaning that she likes you.
If you blow this by acting all shy , you will lose your alure.
Women like confident guys.
Men that are secure and know what they want.
Half the battle is already won my friend.
Just do this its very simple.
Call her *ring ring* '' Hey how you doing , this is <insert name here> from < name the place you met her at > you want to catch a cup of <insert prefered beverage here > , great so lets meet up <insert date here> at <insert time here>. Hey , listen i really got to run . ill see you at <repeat destination , time, and date, here>. Bye.
Keep it short , simple , and straight to the point . When your on the '' date '' if you want to call it, remember its not an interview. Dont ask her the standard '' What school do you go too '' , '' Do you have any brothers or sisters.''
Be intresting , dont be the average joe . Dont compliment her . rather tease her playfully about something. Women enjoy this even if they deny it. Never give her a straight anwer other then no. If she ask you lets sit over there , say no lets sit over there better. Just arrange it in a manner that you are doing so PLAYFULLY. This establishes that you are a secure , confident , funny guy. Which is the opposite of every other normal guy who has been saying and doing the same shit for as long as she's been pretty. Be COCKY & FUNNY , dont mistake that for arragonce , watch Tom Cruise in Top Gun too see what I mean.
I basically layed out the entire format to you.
This shouldnt be that difficult considering half the work is already done.
Go out there , be confident , come back and post back your results.
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#10
2007-09-01, 17:06 |
Lobo
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
This is for the OP and anyone else who would like to tone their skills.
The most recently updated version of Double Your Dating by Deangelo ,those familiar with the game he is one of the guru's who speaks in the seminar.
Its a more organized , simplistic way of approaching women rather then the flamboyance of mystery.
here's the download link :
http://www.megaupload.com/?d=7QEDD1H2
you'll thank me later.
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#11
2007-09-01, 17:13 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Call her *ring ring* '' Hey how you doing , this is <insert name here> from < name the place you met her at > you want to catch a cup of <insert prefered beverage here > , great so lets meet up <insert date here> at <insert time here>. Hey , listen i really got to run . ill see you at <repeat destination , time, and date, here>. Bye.
In theory, yeah. But in practice that shit never works out like that. For a start, it doesn't even consider her side of the conversation. You've got to be far more flexible than that to actually communicate with someone, even for such a simple thing.
I swear. Nothing is easy.
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#12
2007-09-01, 17:26 |
Lobo
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
In theory, yeah. But in practice that shit never works out like that. For a start, it doesn't even consider her side of the conversation. You've got to be far more flexible than that to actually communicate with someone, even for such a simple thing.
I swear. Nothing is easy.
In between you would add ''fluff' talk , the point is to keep it as short and straight to the point as possible, without sounding like speedy gonzalez of course. This is mainly to minimize awkward silences and fall into the category of '' Lets just be friends zone'' by you talking to her as if you were her girlfriend. That was just an outline to point him more in less in the right direction. The words can be arranged anyway you like. Its the meaning behind it that counts.
In reality this does work most of the times.
Guys just contemplate to much and physche themselves out of it for whatever reason.
e.g.
''What if she has a boyfreind and he is really jelous and beats the shit out me ? ''
'' What if she laughs and tells her friend what a loser I am ''
''What if she totally blows me off and I look like a fool infront of everybody?''
Most of the time if you just approach a girl and say ''Hi'' you can usually take it off from there.
I highly doubt doing that will cause such a catastrophic event that it will totally ruin your social life and affect the outcome of you and other women.
Just get out their and be confident.
Thats it.
And If im wrong and she turns out to be a complete physco bitch , you were better of without her and it was better finding this out before you wasted money on dates and gifts ; even worse actually fell for her.
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#13
2007-09-01, 17:37 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Hey maybe this is just really obvious so no one said it but it's a good idea to ask her to a public open place, like a restaurant or something. This way she doesn't have to worry that you're some sicko rapist or something of that sort. Seriously girls are always thinking about that stuff.
I wouldn't ask her to go to a movie because then you spend your 2 or 3 hours or whatever with this girl sitting there silently, where as at a restaurant or what have you you can talk to her and reel her in a bit. Anyway good luck let us know how it goes.
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#14
2007-09-01, 17:42 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Yeah, I have trouble believing it's that easy :P
How easy do you want it?...She just magically appears on your doorstep, soaking through from the storm and needs to come inside and warm up by the huge roaring fire with you and a bottle of fine wine?
As fun as that could be, it's about as likely as finding rocking-horse shit!
So stop being a pansy and call this chick, apologise for missing meeting up with her, ask her if she wants to go out some other time and take it from there.
Not rocket science!
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#15
2007-09-01, 17:46 |
Lobo
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
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Originally Posted by jarmungand
Hey maybe this is just really obvious so no one said it but it's a good idea to ask her to a public open place, like a restaurant or something. This way she doesn't have to worry that you're some sicko rapist or something of that sort. Seriously girls are always thinking about that stuff.
I wouldn't ask her to go to a movie because then you spend your 2 or 3 hours or whatever with this girl sitting there silently, where as at a restaurant or what have you you can talk to her and reel her in a bit. Anyway good luck let us know how it goes.
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Agreed.
Spend the least money possible.
Make her fall for you , by being YOU.
Dont just be another guy who buys her shit.
This sounds completely ilogical to us guys , but chicks have their own weird way of thinking , not even frued could figure it out.
A rule of thumb is never do anything for a chick you wouldnt do for a guy freind if you havent intiated any sort of sex or sexual activity with her.
You dont need to BUY her anything in order for her to give you sexual gratification. Believe it or not , women want to FUCK just as bad as the next guy. Society , religion , and goverment has just condemned this kind of thinking and they would be labeled a ''slut''. So in sense you dont have to PAY for something that she wants just as much as you do.
Im telling you if you approach a women with this kind of mindset it will set the sexual tone down.
After that is done and you really like her , then its alright to court her normally , but with certain limitations that difer you from the next guy. |
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#16
2007-09-01, 17:59 |
Running Free
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
Alright, thanks a lot everyone. Calling her tonight when she gets off work.
The only problem with setting something up is that she is going to be about two hours away from me.
Not that the distance is a problem, it just makes being flexible a bit difficult.
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#17
2007-09-01, 18:54 |
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Re: This doesn't happen to me.....
God damnit....
Start your engine.
Pun intended.
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