I know, I dont advocate second chances, but Im thinking about breaking my rule.

I want to give her another chance. Maybe I like her that much, or maybe Im that fucking desperate...........Either way, Its a nugget in my brain that wont go away.

I dont think we could "be" (what the fuck does that mean anyway?) anything, but maybe we could.

Or maybe we are just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, year after year...........

I got lost for a second.......Where was I?

Yeah, Hed PE doesnt really deal with shit like this.

I love to hate her, I hate to lover her (Hed PE) is about the closest I can find so far.

Or maybe going psyco.........Ok, Im lost in my own head.

Thoughts?

Or maybe we are just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, year after year...........

Thoughts?

You fail at poetic musings.

*Dances*

Not poetic musings, thats fucking Pink Floyd.

Im just looking for some stupid advice, dont be a fucking dick man.

Your emotions are getting the best of you, for better or worse I can't say but hey. Can we at least know what happened beforehand, to help decide/etc?

Ok
Im giving the short version though


Met woman at work. Date woman at work. Get booted for pot usage.

I think she realizes Im not all that bad. She wants me back.

I never got over her for some reason or another (I obsess alot).

Now, Ive been talking to her on the text bullshit, and she seems to want me.

Im not sure a second chance is worth my time, but since Im so fucking lonely, Im going for it.

i say go for it...if you're obsessing over it, you obviously want it...don't let pride get in the way....but keep this in mind, she originally dumped you, which gave her the upper hand in the relationship....this now gives you the chance to gain the upperhand....do it if for no other reason than to get rid of her on your terms....leaving you on top....but if you dig her, stick with it for a while....especially if she's your only chance at getting laid.

speaking from personal experience....NO. dont break your rule. if you give her another chance this time, then itll be so much easier to give her yet another chance down the road, and then another and another etc. she'll start to do you wrong more often because she will know that she can get away with things, and youll let her.

i broke my same rule about 8 months back, and although im still with the girl, our relationship is nothing but problems. and we've both broken each other down to the point where neither of us have the balls to break it off. and its even harder to do that when you consider how much more time we have with each other now and how much more attached we've gotten to each other and how used to each other we are.

although she can be a great girl, if i could go back i would not take her back.

speaking from personal experience....NO. dont break your rule. if you give her another chance this time, then itll be so much easier to give her yet another chance down the road, and then another and another etc. she'll start to do you wrong more often because she will know that she can get away with things, and youll let her.

This is true.

Happened to me recently actually...after a girl broke up with me more than once and I thought I got over her so I started going out with another chick. Made a topic on it back a while ago actually.

Ex ended up calling me one night...fucked up on vicodin, crying, doing stupid emo shit. Ended up getting back with her and dumping the other girl.

Didn't end up so nicely, one day she just started acting different. Then she stopped talking to me altogether... she's liking an older dude I guess. She didn't even say it was over, she just assumed I got the hint which i did...

Do what you want man. It's obviously your choice. But just remember it won't ever be the same as it was before you two broke up and it's going to be hard to ever trust her the same again. Well, at least that's how it was for me.

An update: I got back with her. But this time Im gonna be a fuckload more cautious. And if she breaks my heart again (probably), Im gonna break her fucking nose and spit on her, maybe not in that order.

So, Im wishing myself luck.

Thanks for the advice though guys.