k. theres this really hot girl in one of my classes. this girls sits in the mid section of the class but wont say anything to anyone at all.

im the only one thats talked to her cause we happen to have the same book, an even then its was for less than a minute.

today i talked to her an she's obviously one of those rebelious want to be's that thinks the norm is being social accepted an what not, an her not wanted to be the normal person an not socializing with people even when they want to talk to you.(have you ever talked to someone where you talk a paragraph an they give a 2 word answer.) <- that kind of person.

how can i go about opening her up(not that way) but just to get her to socialize with at least the class. its hard to get to know someone with the intent to flirt when they dont talk to anyone

edit: why a large percent of totseans have never had girls friends, i still ask for help cause im underneath you

k. theres this really hot girl in one of my classes. im not the average totse loser so actually talk to alot of girls, but this girls sits in the mid section of the class but wont say anything to anyone at all.

im the only one thats talked to her cause we happen to have the same book, an even then its was for less than a minute.

today i talked to her an she's obviously one of those rebelious want to be's that thinks the norm is being social accepted an what not, an her not wanted to be the normal person an not socializing with people even when they want to talk to you.(have you ever talked to someone where you talk a paragraph an they give a 2 word answer.) <- that kind of person.

how can i go about opening her up(not that way) but just to get her to socialize with at least the class. its hard to get to know someone with the intent to flirt when they dont talk to anyone

Wow, great way to get people to help you, huh?
Your just arrogant.

I don't know why the hell you'd want to date Avril Lavigne, but whatever you want.

Personally, I'd go up to her, be all like "Sucky sucky five dolla," then reach for her tits.

im not the average totse loser so actually talk to alot of girls

Hate to burst your bubble - all girls on the internet are actually 40yo crossdressing redneck guys.

~shrug~ SOMEONE had to say it...

how can i go about opening her up(not that way) but just to get her to socialize with at least the class.

...that gets into the ethics of spiking someone's food or beverage with sizeable quantities of MDMA. This is considered more ethical than coerced psychedelics (when not smearing cop-car handles or engaging in mass aerosol), which is more ethical than coerced datura... but, is it really ethical? Are you sure?

If not, you'll just have to write off her antisocial depression as it fits into her desire to conform by "the path of official, standardized nonconformity" as, well, "underlying incurable psychological issues," and accept it. Sorry.

fine, ill edit

My advice for you is to just keep on doing what you're doing. Being nice to her, talking, etc. It will probably take a lot of time, and it might end up not doing you or anyone else any good.
Some people just can't be helped, for whatever their reason may be. They might not want help, or think they don't even need it in the first place.

Perhaps your likelihood of success would be higher if you weren't of the variety of people to make wide-sweeping judgements of other's character with limited information to draw on. You ask a group of anonymous people, whom you have no idea what caliber person will read your request, and call them losers and question their social skills before even presenting the problem that you hope they will help you with; oddly enough a problem requiring more social skills then you currently have. Once finally getting to the dilema for which you seek assistance, you admittedly know little about this girl in question, and yet, on such flimsy premise make a wide sweeping generalization about her character; grouping her with people you claim consciously seek alienation out of a desire to non-conform.

Diagnosing her with such a character flaw as to be socially unaccepted, and claiming her a wannabe because of this flaw, I'm somewhat confused as to why you would want to date this person. You know nothing about her, what you think you know are assumptions of defects, and you claim her only social interaction with you was terse replies to your flow of diarrhea of the mouth. So perhaps it is you, afterall, that is the wannabe non-conformist emo-kid.

Regardless, making assumptions about her personality won't help you open her up because if you're wrong you'll just be making her close up more and more and more every time you talk to her with this mistaken premise in mind. Perhaps some deep pscyhological trauma has occurred, perhaps she's unsure of herself and shy, perhaps she just doesn't really associate with anybody you've seen her around because they just rub her the wrong way, perhaps she just plain doesn't like you.

There are many mental health issues gestating all throughout our public school systems, for a variety of reasons, stemming from many places but usually a feeling of isolation combined, simultaneously and paradoxically, with a feeling of being lumped up into a faceless group is a large factor. So I don't think saying "hey losers, help me speak loser to this loser chick." is going to be very affective in getting you laid.

Make her feel understood, and to do that you're going to have to actually understand her. And to do that you might have to use your brain.

The reason why this girl isn't talking to you or anyone else is that she knows you and your ilk all a pack of low-level idiots. She doesn't want to "come out of her shell", she wants to be left alone. If, as you say she is hot, chances are she's already fucking another anti-social guy and wants even less from you than the others.

it's weird ive always had a thing for the quiet/loner girls at school

anyways good luck

Ask her out to lunch during one of your minute long conversations?

if she accepts maybe in a different environment she'll open up, if not your in for a probably awkward lunch.

She probably has some kind of anxiety. You can't fix that. You can talk to her about it when your at a close level with her but that will probably only help a little.

CDAWG I know you post a shit load of porn and a lot of people respect you for that but your really dissing everyone around here by acting like an asshole. Calling us losers when you can find the time to scam thousands of porn site passwords? I think we would all be more then willing to help if you were nicer. I also think a lot more totseans have girlfriends then commonly believed and Yes we can and do talk to girls.

People post about their problems i.e. like not being able to talk to girls and maybe thats why you see a lot of threads like that and have come to a strange conclusion. Did it ever occur to you that people without those problems aren't posting about their success and that there may in fact be more of those people then the people who post their problems?

EDIT: Also for some reason a lot of anti-social people can read others like a book, so don't lie to her. Also unless your fucked in the head too, she may have trouble relating to you.

P.S. This is all coming from a fucked up 17 year old who's bi-polar, has major anxiety issues, OCD and is anti-social but has learned to cope with it,some of it at least.

Start off with, "Do you know how much a polar bear weighs?
her"No?"
"Enough to break the ice, hi my names CDAWG"

go from there.

Sounds good, just don't introduce yourself as CDAWG.

Pretty sure this is my 3000th post...so I might aswell use it on a good PWN

*Starts slow clap*

that made me laugh for a long period of time, thanks for the dopamine.

...thousands of porn site passwords...

Uhhh, link?!?

Uhhh, link?!?

http://www.totse.com/community/showthread.php?t=2040318

I'm a guy, but this may still be relevant: I was homeschooled for 5 years before high school, so whenever someone tried to socialize with me I got a little confused and annoyed. I'd humor them until something came up that required my full attention. It could be she's got something similar going on.

have you ever talked to someone where you talk a paragraph an they give a 2 word answer.) <- that kind of person.


Perhaps it's because people don't want to talk to an ignorant arrogant douchebag(such as yourself).

You can use that thought as the basis of your posts here.

Sounds like a good idea. It's usually not the norm,so she'll be flattered and date you.

Outsmart her somehow and then pretend to not give a damn. Antisocial folk hate being ignored.