Well I dated this girl for 6 months, and in those months we had sex maybe 2 or 3 times, even though she always was a generally horny person. So about a month ago we broke up for no real specific reason, it just kind of ended with us not feeling connected anymore. The thing you have to understand about this girl is that she was always VERY possessive and had me basically on a leash.

Now, I really did love this girl with my whole heart and she meant everything in the fuckin world to me, and i was the same way to her, but something just happened at the end and we ended up calmly splitting up.

So about a week after the breakup I got drunk and fucked this slutty bitch that goes to my school. After that we continued to talk and we've hung out quite a bit since then and just fooled around and all that shit. So then we're talking one day and I find out that this slutty bitch and the the ex girlfriend I just told you about know each other pretty well but they absolutely hate each other for some reason I really don't care about.

Well, about 4 days ago me and the ex started talking again and we decided to hang out. Well, hanging out turned into getting laid like 6 fucking times in those four days, meaning I've fucked her more this week than I EVER fucked her in our relationship. I feel closer to my ex girlfriend now than I EVER did when we were dating. It's like all those feelings came rushing back and THEN SOME.




So the dilemma is this; I've got two bitches to deal with, and both of them absolutely hate each others guts, and neither of them know I'm hanging out (much less having sex with) with the other.

So I'm just confused because I think I still love this ex girlfriend, but I don't want to get back into a serious relationship where I'm so controlled, even though she tells me she's changed and it wouldn't be like that. She tells me she is still in love with me and I really can tell shes nuts about me. This isn't some stupid sophomoric shit like in high school, i know what love is, and I know I love this girl too. I told her that as of now I'm just very confused and I need to figure some shit out, which is true, so in the meanwhile we are fucking (for some reason) while I get my head figured out and as to whether I want to date her again or not.

But if I were to date my ex again and she were to learn that I fucked that other girl, it really would not be pretty...


Alright I've given you as much info as i could I've just gotta get this shit figured out, I haven't been this stressed in forever and any help is greatly appreciated.

This isn't a problem. You seem to be doing better than you did before, so why would you want to revert? Personally, I do better outside a "declared" relationship, so maybe you should consider not calling it anything and just letting it be what it is.

Meanwhile, try not to piss off the slut (fallout would be everywhere), maybe keep screwing her, maybe not. Just try to have excuses for her / for her time with her.

If need be, blame it on being heartbroken + the alcohol. Should work. Call the slut ugly (to your love - whom incidentally its no surprise you still love each other. Good for you!)


In short: step outside what society has told you you have to do.

Or maybe I misunderstood the question.

Alright I've given you as much info as i could I've just gotta get this shit figured out, I haven't been this stressed in forever and any help is greatly appreciated.

You're going to have to choose. And if you're going to choose the ex, rather than the one night hook-up, you better be completely honest and up-front about what happened right now.

You could always ditch one and pretend it never happened, but eventually one will see you with the other and shit will hit the fan. Communicate and get it over with. There isn't a whole lotta win to be had in this situation unless your ex decides not to take it personally, or if your new gf is cool with you dumping her.

well what stands out to me is the fact that these feelings all came rushing back only after you had all the sexing. i think you need some space to clear your head...easier said than done but honestly, i'd stay away from girls for awhile and figure out your OWN thing before you get any deeper into this particular situation. you might just find that it solves it.

Ok, you never told us what exactly your dynaminc is now with girl #2. Do you have any feelings for her, or is he just a partying/fuck buddy? If you don't have feelings for her, then just keep on keepin on and wait for the fallout.

The reason I say this is because you absolutely should NOT get back with your ex, and you have to keep your emotions in check. I say that for two reasons. First, she sounds to me like she is using sex as her "control"....her way back into your life. Cmon, all that time and she didn't want it that often....and now she is some kind of nympho? BULLSHIT! She misses the leash, the control, the games she played with you.....and whether consciously or unconsciously, she realizes she has to give up that ass to be able to woo you back. She's playing a role, this is NOT the real her as you can already attest to....and it's just another typical female headgame. "Cmere, no go away, cmere, no go away, cmere, no.......".

Secondly, how do you know for sure your ex doesn't know about the new chick? Women can be so fuckin catty and vengeful to each other. It wouldn't surprise me in the least if she found out you were with #2, and add to the fact how much she hates her......that she could very well be fucking your brains out NOW, just to spite the new one. You could be just another pawn in their feud, the "trophy" to be taken from the other one.

If you have feelings for # 2, then tell the ex she had her chance and it too little too late. If you don't have those feelings for #2, then just keep fucking them both and who the hell cares what happens if/when they find out about each other. But do NOT get back with your ex, and especially don't let your heart fall again. She is a game player, nothing more.

You had no idea that your ex and the slut knew each other let alone hated each other.

And like MH said, You were heartbroken and drunk as a motherfucker. You were just trying to reach out to someone.
What right has your ex got to tell you who you can and can not screw when you're single?

Or just say fuck it, screw them both until it blows up in your face, laugh, get drunk and go out to get more wimminz to fuck about with!

Or just say fuck it, screw them both until it blows up in your face, laugh, get drunk and go out to get more wimminz to fuck about with!

I think that's the best suggestion.

Just let the word spread man. Then kick back and watch the carnage as two girls kill each other over you.
One is a slut, the other is a control freak, you'd be better off finding chick #3 anyway.

1.tell the slutty girl that you don't really like her that much, and you're going out with ex again.

2.tell ex that you did fuck slutty girl but you didnt know they hated each other.

3.???

4.profit.

You're going to have to choose. And if you're going to choose the ex, rather than the one night hook-up, you better be completely honest and up-front about what happened right now.

You could always ditch one and pretend it never happened, but eventually one will see you with the other and shit will hit the fan. Communicate and get it over with. There isn't a whole lotta win to be had in this situation unless your ex decides not to take it personally, or if your new gf is cool with you dumping her.

DONT YOU DARE FUCKING LISTEN TO THIS GUY DONT DO IT IT WILL FUCK UP EVERYTHING. DO NOT TELL YOUR EX ABOUT THE SLUT DO FUCKING NOT DO IT!!!!

Sorry for the caps but DO NOT DO THAT. Let her find out don't tell her because its just going to ruin everything quickly. Maybe she will find otu later MAYBE not. But why do the thing thats going to ruin it 100% if you choose that why not choose the option that will give you a chance with your ex.

I did pretty much exactly what you did. Me an my girlfriend of about 8 months broke up for a couple weeks I got drunk with this bitch and she took advantage(yes she did) of me and I felt so guilty I told my ex about it I felt I had to because the guilt was so much we were each others first and when we were together she said "IM so glad your my only one" And the guilt was to much I broke down and confessed what had happend. Needless to say lots of kicking punching and screaming insued. I fixed it a little and we got back together but ever since I told her it wasnt the same she started loosing feeling and eventually we broke up this time for good. All I had to do was deal with the guilt and id still be with her. DO NOT FUCKING TELL her, the girl that took advantage of me didn't know my girl and vice versa so there wasn't already some loathing. Im telling you do not tell try to break it up with the slut and keep your ex. Just don't tell her if she finds out later oh well but don't tell her if you want to be with her trust me it will only end badly. Don't fuck up twice man. I did first fuck up was drinknig to much and second was telling on myself.



EDI- To those that say he had no idea about them hating each other that part doesn't matter. Girls are retarded, even though they were broke up she is going to think he is a fucker for having someone else so soon afterwards. Ive seen it many times before, especially her being controlling. Girls are not rational they want to break up and then if you wanta be with someone else when your broken up YOUR wrong. Even if this girl hadn't known the slut she will still be pissed off.

Damn, thanks for all the help guys, I wasn't expecting that. I think Apprentice is right about not telling the ex about me fucking the other bitch. That would probably create a lot of awkward and unnecessary tension if we were to date again.

So today is the ex's birthday and I told her I've got a present waiting for her at my house, meaning she's coming over tonight to fuck me. :) I love birthdays. But then this is where what YouLookFourteen said comes in about giving her space. It will be the third day in a row of seeing (and fucking) her, so after today I'm going to tell her that I need to not see her for a few days or until I get it all figured out. Crazy thing is that she was the one thats been suggesting that to me all along, but the pussy is too good to back off from her!
So I guess I'm just gonna man up and give up the pussy for a few days or whatever and just clear my head out with lots of weed and maybe some alcohol. :)

And to answer DaGuru, no I have no feelings at all for girl #2. Simply a one time fuckbuddy that I thought was going to turn into something because of how she was acting towards me...

YEa give yourself some space and I know its hard same thing happend with my ex to. We didn't have to much sex while going out the last month or two before we broke up and then when we did it was like DAMN. And yes defiantly take my advice it is the best thing don't tell her because one she probably will be hurt emotionally and hate you and just ruin everything.

Don't f*ck her and then tell her you need some alone time. Just take the alone time.

The first ways just screams "I USED YOU B*TCH"... and you don't want to do that on her birthday. Maybe mention it (day(s) )later if she asks why you haven't been over or something.

just, dont make it obvious what you're doing. It's a good idea to give her some time.... build up anticipation, desire, keeps you somewhat in control, which is attractive to them....

And like MH said, You were heartbroken and drunk as a motherfucker. You were just trying to reach out to someone.
What right has your ex got to tell you who you can and can not screw when you're single?



I agree. Its not like you fucked the slut within hours/couple days of breaking up with the gf, so it's not like she can be all "you were straight off with another girl, you don't care about me" because you were upset, smashed, and eh, why not. You could tell your ex that she's got one chance, if she tries to control you again then you're off and there's no more second chances.

At least then you can say you tried if it all goes tits up.

And yea, you could try referring to the slut as some ugly tart or something n that it was shit. She might not get all paranoid and "he wants to fuck other girls =O I must be shit" n stuff. Eh.

Well I dated this girl for 6 months, and in those months we had sex maybe 2 or 3 times, even though she always was a generally horny person....

I stopped here because the thread delivered lulz

Alright so this is what's happened since I posted this. Even though it's only been a day or 2...

I've given myself space from her the last couple days and it helped a lot. Got some shit sorted out in my head. I told her I do love her and all that shit. Didn't and won't tell her about the whole "fucking her arch enemy" thing haha...

So now I've got her under my control which I never thought would happen. I told her I love her but I don't want to do the whole stupid "dating" thing. I just said that whatever happens happens and if we want to hang out then we'll hang out but theres nothing official, even though she'd rather it be.

Yeah it's crazy, she used to freak out if I even TALKED about me doing drugs or anything when we were dating but I actually convinced her to try Ecstasy with me this weekend!:D so that should be fun.

And yeah so that other bitch I fucked has backed off completely so I dont think i need to worry about her anymore, thank god.

I just dont know how to tell my girl that I really WOULD do that whole "officially dating" thing if she wasn't so controlling and nosy. Because honestly I would, the only reason I'm not is because of that. At least at this point she knows that if she gets that way then I can just stop seeing her for a few days since theres nothing official between us.

How long can I really keep that up though?

DUDE ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? YOU ARE EXACTLY SAME AS HOW I WAS!!!!!! No fucking shit dude. This last time we broke up same shit like you said with the drugs. Ok my ex HATED me to smoke, i quit smoking weed for her and cigerettes I never smoked em around her because she hated it. Plus she didn't like me drinking. Within 3 days of us being broke up we stopped at Circle K and I joked about tobacco "ok so we gonna get some dip,cigars, and cigs and have some fun right?" just kidding and she was like "Ok we can smoke a cigar if you want". It totally fucked up she hated smoking and here now we broke up we smoke together. And we ended up drinking together to. Thats so messed up how the same EXACT shit happend I thought I was only one.

As far as getting back together offically just get back together after a while let things fall into place and then if she starts to get controlling put her ass in check. If she says "what your going out with your freinds and not me tonight WTF?" be like "yo i hung out with you yesterday today im with my friends you ahve to share" Or other scenarios just put her in place be firm but not a complete asshole. And it is ok to say NO to things. GOod luck with that man. Just hope things work out for you and that she doesn't find out.

DUDE ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? YOU ARE EXACTLY SAME AS HOW I WAS!!!!!! No fucking shit dude. This last time we broke up same shit like you said with the drugs. Ok my ex HATED me to smoke, i quit smoking weed for her and cigerettes I never smoked em around her because she hated it. Plus she didn't like me drinking. Within 3 days of us being broke up we stopped at Circle K and I joked about tobacco "ok so we gonna get some dip,cigars, and cigs and have some fun right?" just kidding and she was like "Ok we can smoke a cigar if you want". It totally fucked up she hated smoking and here now we broke up we smoke together. And we ended up drinking together to. Thats so messed up how the same EXACT shit happend I thought I was only one.

As far as getting back together offically just get back together after a while let things fall into place and then if she starts to get controlling put her ass in check. If she says "what your going out with your freinds and not me tonight WTF?" be like "yo i hung out with you yesterday today im with my friends you ahve to share" Or other scenarios just put her in place be firm but not a complete asshole. And it is ok to say NO to things. GOod luck with that man. Just hope things work out for you and that she doesn't find out.

Hahaha wow man that creeps me out a bit how similar it is. I did the exact same thing because I quit smoking weed and cigarettes for her too in the beginning, but after about a month or so I just couldn't resist and every time I was with friends I'd smoke and drink and all that shit behind her back. Well now I don't have to!

What the hell is the mindset behind girls when they pull shit like that? I guess we'll never know.

And yeah I'm gonna do the best I can with her whole "control" issue. I'll just remind her that that's how it used to be and how it contributed to us breaking up in the first place so she'll hopefully stop.

How long can I really keep that up though?

I've unofficially dated a girl for nine months (and counting). So you can make it last however long you need to.

How old are you and your ex? Im 19 and my ex was 17. I had a buddy with a girl a couple years younger to and she had the same thing she was against him smoking and drugs. So I think its something that just younger girls are weird im not sure.
Yea I myself was able to control it and didn't go behind her back.

Yea you just gotta put the girl in check. I mean my ex was controlling a tiny bit like with the alcohol and all that and when we broke up this last time I put my foot down. Before we broke up I straight up said "Ok when we break up im going to start drinking again im not going to be going out getting plastered but ive been wanting to drink a long time and my friends want to have fun so I will drink. And if we get back together im still going to drink probably not as much but im tired of being controlled." And she didn't get upset or anything.

Weird, you're probably right about that. I'm 17 and she's 16 but she was 15 when we were dating. I'm a senior she's a junior.

Oh and update number 2 today...

Out of the blue today I had like 4 different people (all girls) tell me that she cheated on me with this guy she met on vacation over the summer. When we were still dating after she got back from there she would be on the phone with him every time I hung out with her it was really fucking strange, I can't believe how whipped this girl had me... I just shrugged that off like it was nothing but now I'm realizing how incredibly fucking obvious it is.

This dude actually almost drove like 5 or 6 hours just to come stay with her and "look at colleges" but I told her no. At first I said it was ok for some reason... And the more I type the more I realize how retarded and whipped she had me. I feel like she had me brainwashed...

So yeah I'm going to call her tonight and ask her about it when she gets off work in a bit but I KNOW for a FACT she will deny deny deny.

how am I supposed to get her to tell me the truth about this shit? She'll never admit to it but theres really not a single doubt in my mind it's true...

What would you say to your girl to try and get her to tell you the truth about something like that if you KNOW she will probably lie about it..?

Do it in person. It makes lying harder. Well, it makes you want to tell the truth more. Still easy as f*ck to lie though.

Maybe admit to having cheated yourself (or if you want to be honest, talk about the fattie), talk about wanting to remove obstacles between you, that sorta shtuff.

Ask nicely? Sometimes that works in and of itself. Especially if she's getting tired of hiding it.