I have a girlfriend, been seeing her for 1 year and 3 months.
She is pretty cool, Im now starting to get bored with her though.
I dont ever see her.

I just met a girl yesterday, who now seems to be my "dream" girl.
Everything about her is amazing and I think she is into me.

She has a boyfriend as well as far as I know.
She knows I have a mate as well..i think.

But anyways, How can I get close to her and possibly have a relationship in the future, without constraining my self in the "friend zone"?

Wait 'till you're both available. Seriously.

yeah man, if you don't wait and try to be around her while you're both attached you'll get stuck in the friend zone, and nobody EVER escapes the friend zone

nobody EVER escapes the friend zone

QFT!

the best way to avoid being in the friend zone is to be a dick instead of a tool. that's what i find works, anyhow.

she only seems like your dream girl because she is new and fresh to you. didnt your current girl at one point seem the same way? this new trick will get boring too.

bugrollio out

she only seems like your dream girl because she is new and fresh to you. didnt your current girl at one point seem the same way? this new trick will get boring too.

Go for long walks, flirt excessively, don't technically cheat, just have an emotional affair. Then when you both end up single, you can play off how you both wished you could have made out for so long and now you can. If you can't take it from there, well, you're beyond help.


Then again, when we ended up making out... i didn't feel anything, and, well, she has "stopped talking to me forever" three times now. and I either broke her heart or found a psycho. Or both. So be sure you actually want her. Maybe the friend zone isn't the worst place to be.

the best way to avoid being in the friend zone is rohypnol. that's what i find works, anyhow.

I lol'd.

Maybe you should try telling her to call you when she breaks up with her BF. She should be able to figure it out then.


And there is a way to escape from the dreaded friend zone.

You enter the enemy zone

Wait til you are both single.

Honestly.

If she'll leave her boyfriend for you, then what makes YOU any different than him. If she's the kind of girl that does that, she'll dump your ass the minute she finds somebody better.

And don't have an emotional affair. If you're just not feeling it (haha Blink 182) with your girlfriend anymore, break it off. Don't flirt/semi-cheat with this new girl. What's the point in even staying together if you're not happy. Break up with her now before you hurt her even more.

That's just my opinion anyways. Good luck.

I dont understand the 'you never get out of the friends zone' crap.
Has that seriously happened to all the guys in this thread?!


I'd find myself feeling alot closer and more willing to date someone who I'd hung out with as a friend before hand and knew he was cool.

Get to know the girl. But really, if you dont like your current girlfriend you need to end it. It's cowardly and unfair to continue it.

Yoyobek: Its happened to every guy since the begining of time.

Op: Break up with your gf and go out with the new girl. Its not that hard.

If you don't see any possibility whatsoever of salvaging your current relationship, then end it. There's no point in delaying the inevitable. And if you keep someone around when you aren't interested in them, then you are using them and being dishonest with them.

As far as the other girl goes, she has a boyfriend. You shouldn't even be considering her.

Maybe you should try to work on things with your current girlfriend if you can.

Alright, now that I got all the morally correct stuff out of the way...

I was actually in a VERY similar situation to what you are in right now. And I totally went about it in the wrong way. I put off breaking up with my girlfriend (until she ended up breaking up with me for other reasons). And I kept the other girl I was interested in around, just in case, (although I never cheated on my girlfriend), and after my girlfriend broke up with me, the other girl broke up with her boyfriend, and we spent like a week together, and then she got back with her boyfriend, and I was left all alone and fucked (not in the literal sense).

yeah man, if you don't wait and try to be around her while you're both attached you'll get stuck in the friend zone, and nobody EVER escapes the friend zone

That's utter shite. There's being friends with a girl, and being a hanger-on. As long as mutual respect is shared, you can be friends with a girl for years without losing sight of some sort of physical relationship.

Break up with your girlfriend. Now. You're wasting her time. She does not need a boyfriend who is bored of her and is just keeping her around until a better option opens up.

She has a boyfriend as well as far as I know.
She knows I have a mate as well..i think.




This alone is why our society is fucked up.

Play hard to get and when she is single, just become friends with your gf and start hanging out with your dream girl.

I've been in the friend zone and got out... If you are the guy they get everything to do and you are truly in the friend zone then stop being their friend, duh.

Maybe come back a month or two later and don't act like a bitch. I learned that at 14 (don't know if thats good or bad). Worked for me.

Anyways it's a good idea to not include her in your "options" while she has a boyfriend. Although that's just what I'm saying what I did was steal my (now as of three days ago) ex from my best friend while he was in the hospital. Not cool. Amazingly though he was such a cool friend that were still friends... he even built me an electric guitar, for free.

Anyways I now have 2 Ex's that want me back, one of them is a two year relationship that I sort of fell out of love/bored with and the other is a one month relationship that I haven't stopped thinking about over the entire 2 year relationship with the newer girl.

So fuck this, I'm drunk and my advice may not be the best.

Although that's just what I'm saying what I did was steal my (now as of three days ago) ex from my best friend while he was in the hospital. Not cool. Amazingly though he was such a cool friend that were still friends... he even built me an electric guitar, for free.

You'd best take a bullet for that man.

I gave him the opportunity to beat the shit out of me with a bat (brought one with me) or at least punch me in the face for a while. I was prepared to go to the hospital.

He denied my offer and only said "I'm mad at you, but I'll get over it"

You owe him when he needs it, not when you want to owe him.

He hasn't asked me for anything yet but I will do everything I can to do it for him when he does.

yeah man, if you don't wait and try to be around her while you're both attached you'll get stuck in the friend zone, and nobody EVER escapes the friend zone

*raises hand and clicks fingers*

You'd best take a bullet for that man.

Seconded. A friend like that is worth more than you know.