Last night I went to the bar with the girl I like. She likes me, we decided to take it slow, for 3 months weve been on and off. And at this point at night we were the closest we have ever been. Happy, over the top. Then the guy she used to see came up (recently she said she was happy he was over her etc etc.). They havent seen each other in a while and went to get a drink. They took a while (talking I imagine). Now my friends started poisoning my mind with doubts, and slowly I was making assumptions. She actually came back and told me she hopes im not mad, it was all good etc etc, in all honesty. Then she goes out for a smoke with her neighbour, and the guy goes and talks to her the whole time. She comes back and says she will go home to check on her friend. I say alright. Then I get up to get a drink I see her leaving with a friend and that guy. So I begin assuming she is going to chill with this guy, and I start getting pissed (jealous). I actually go up to her and ask her where the fuck she is going with that guy (I am kinda drunk at this time). I said it pretty loud, he most likely heard me.


All in all, she was indeed, just checking on her friend and the guy was just chilling with her for a bit before walking to the bus (through my bro, I found out this was actually true). So fucking simple, and I made such crazy accusations. I just lost major trust points with her. Although through this experience I learned from it, in her PoV, I am a little lower. And I resent it so much. Well there you go Totse, just felt like ranting, letting it out.


TL;DR version: Girl chills a bit with someone she used to see, I start building up momentum with my doubts and confront her for something utterly retarded.

Why the fuck couldnt she check her friend with you?

Why was this fucker so special?

dont trust her. If she's on talking terms with her ex and doesent pull out a machette when she sees him, dont trust her.

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Although yoyobek is a bit excessive. Yea don't trust that bitch. You have every right to be jealous. I mean if anything she should feel better that your jealous. I mean considering you were drunk you definatly didn't over react. Being drunk isn't an excuse for anything but if you OVER REACT it does help explain it.

Dude trust me we have all been jealous and over reacted. Theres been plenty of times with my ex whos still my friend where I was like "WTF IS THIS BULL SHIT OMFGDMF she must be fucking around or something" And then come to find out i was just being over jealous. Luckily for me most of my major jealous moments I never said anything and was smart enough to wait till i got proof before making an accusation. But I mean i know she never cheated and never would have its just human nature to have some doubts.

Fuckin' aye.

I can't trust girls who are on talking terms or actually friends with their ex(s). It's weird and suggests to me that she's keeping him around just incase things get boring and she needs to see a familiar face hovering above hers in the early hours of the morning.

But I'm a paranoid fucker.

Ask her why you should trust her when she's basically ditched you to go check on a friend and didn't ask you to accompany her but the ex could come along.

I thought I was the only guy who was over-jealous! My girlfriend HATES it, and so do I!

What the fuck do you do when you feel jealous but you know that you have no right to be upset?

I would have reacted exactly the same, except with more instructions to the ex to fuck off.

I can't trust girls who are on talking terms or actually friends with their ex(s).

But I'm a paranoid fucker.



I look at the whole buddy ex thing like this: you thought they were cool enough to go out with, so they're probably cool enough to hang out with.

Not that I don't see where your paranoia comes from. It's all a matter of trust, I suppose.

I look at the whole buddy ex thing like this: you thought they were cool enough to go out with, so they're probably cool enough to hang out with.

Not that I don't see where your paranoia comes from. It's all a matter of trust, I suppose.

And cool enough to fuck behind your back when you end up arguing with each other over a poxy telephone call you recieved from a friend who is an out-and-out lesbian, known by your girlfriend.

You have more self restraint then me. I told my girl I don't really give a fuck if she wants to chill with guys and be a little flirt but if I ever see it happening the guys getting fucked up.

I probably would have thrown a flower pot at his head or something.

Now your probably thinking why I would say to my girl that it's alright for her to be a little flirt and shit but I wouldn't care if she fucked another guy really it's kind of an open relationship like that but I don't want to know about it, she comes home to me and if guys don't have enough respect for me to leave my girl alone they'll get fucked if I see them with her.

ESPECIALLY if it was her FUCKING EX, FUCK THAT SHIT! If I ever saw any of her ex's i'd fucking smash them if they were or weren't with her.

Umm...no. If this girl is still able to remain friends with her ex, she's probably a cool person, and the fact that you overreacted so much just goes to show how insecure you are.

Blame it on the alcohol and see if you can start fresh again. Learn from this mistake and don't fuck up like that again. She'll either dump your ass or the ball will always be in her court.

Only pick up a chick in a bar if you intend on fucking them. Even then I don't suggest it.

And cool enough to fuck behind your back when you end up arguing with each other over a poxy telephone call you recieved from a friend who is an out-and-out lesbian, known by your girlfriend.

Ah, I see the connection. Trust can lead to broken trust, which leads to paranoia. It's not like all girls keep their exes on a string to fuck on call. There isn't pure evil behind every intention, or in this case, every friendship.

I think it's easier to blame things on benzos then alcohol IMO...
But then again... you would have to have taken some benzos for that to be a valid excuse. One day if you take benzos and do something stupid, like me, you'll have something to blame.

I don't think this post is making much sense.

Sorry it must be the kpins...

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Umm...no. If this girl is still able to remain friends with her ex, she's probably a cool person, and the fact that you overreacted so much just goes to show how insecure you are.


Why am I insecure? Because I beleive that if you're going out with a guy you should show him some respect?
That if there's a problem it should be him you're turning to, not your ex?

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Why am I insecure? Because I beleive that if you're going out with a guy you should show him some respect?
That if there's a problem it should be him you're turning to, not your ex?

QFMFT!

I would have done the exact same thing, if not worse.