So, in all the girls I've ever gotten head from, NONE of them have wanted me to cum. Bull shit I know but reality. They would go for a few minutes and then stop for a long time to prevent said cumming. Anyways, I'm with a new girl now. She was giving me head for about 10 minutes then stopped, looked up and said "are you even fucking close?" I was amazing and at the same time felt really awkward...she kept going for about 5 more minutes and finally gave up. She said the other guys shes been with usually take like 5 minutes. What gives? How long does it take you to cum from a typical blowjob?

how much time do you spend going down on her? maybe she's trying to tell you something.

I never come from blowjobs, no idea why but it never happens.

Same here, didn't think it was possible.

that makes me feel better... i haven't been able to make my boyfriend cum from them, even after going at it for more than an hour.

If I just relaxed, I would never cum from a BJ. I have to make myself cum. You know, tense all up and stuff.

Does your girls ever use their hands to assist in the blowjob? Becuase I cum from every blow job ive had. I mean she doesn't use just her mouth but damn fucking shit it feels so fucking good. I mean when shes just sat there and sucked it not useing her hands to help shes gone for a while and I don't get even close but yea. Also if the girls don't at least finish the job id call em a cunt and tell em to fuck off.

Does your girls ever use their hands to assist in the blowjob?

Yeah. When my girl friend started to do this, it helped. A LOT.

No, I really wish she would. Any way I could get her to use her hands without straight up telling her?

I can't cum from head either, I'll get really close but I always have to crank it out to cum at the end

If she's got her mouth on your cock, there's really nothing you could say that would be too personal or awkward.

If you're afraid to communicate in a relationship, you don't deserve to be able to come. Reap what you sow.

If you can't just tell her to use her hands, you shouldn't be having any kind of sex to begin with

Fucking kids. Oh I'm having my cock sucked but I'm too embarrassed to tell her to rub the shaft while at it

If you can't just tell her to use her hands, you shouldn't be having any kind of sex to begin with

Fucking kids. Oh I'm having my cock sucked but I'm too embarrassed to tell her to rub the shaft while at it

Seriously. If she's giving you head, she wants to please you. Tell her what gets you off.

Why are you all being so fucking hostile? I was just wondering if there would be a more subtle way as to not ruin the moment. Don't get me wrong I'm not afraid to tell her I just like perserving the mood.

Fucking kids? Shut the fuck up.

I dont understand how you consider you guiding her to better pleasure you as a way to ruin the moment.

Seriously, man. That's noob shit.

Just be like, "jerk it" or "give me your hand" then put it on your dick. Or just get head for a bit then when you think your close just rub yourself out into her face. Thats what most people do in pr0n

say "BITCH PUT SOME NECK INTO IT OR I'M GETTIN SOMEONE ELSE"

I came after 2 hours of head only time too:(

same here, and it doesn't matter whether or not she uses her hands

Dude tell me you married that girl? Dude if I found a girl that would suck my dick for more then a half hour in one session id fucking marry her right then and there. Dude 2 hours? are you kidding me thats like the greatest thing ive ever heard of in all my fucking life. The longest ive ever gotten head was like 10 miniutes and even then she switched from hand job to blow job and mixed it up. Damn dude a blow job for that long if you didnt marry her give me her number and ill fucking marry her.

Dude tell me you married that girl? Dude if I found a girl that would suck my dick for more then a half hour in one session id fucking marry her right then and there. Dude 2 hours? are you kidding me thats like the greatest thing ive ever heard of in all my fucking life. The longest ive ever gotten head was like 10 miniutes and even then she switched from hand job to blow job and mixed it up. Damn dude a blow job for that long if you didnt marry her give me her number and ill fucking marry her.

One time a couple years ago I sold my roomate some E and he took it and his GF came over and she doesn't like hard drugs. She blew him for like 40 minutes, I left came back almost an hour later and she's still blowing him because his doors closed. I hear her go "WTF is it broken or something" and he's like "just a little bit more" and she keeps going until finally she's like ok fuck this and gets frusterated and leaves. My roomate comes out a couple minutes later with a big smile and goes I just got blown for like 3 hours and didn't come and she didn't even know I was on E" and we laughed then got drunk. He told me he was like "cmon don't you know how to suck a dick? it ain't doing anything for me"

She was giving me head for about 10 minutes then stopped, looked up and said "are you even fucking close?" I was amazing and at the same time felt really awkward...she kept going for about 5 more minutes and finally gave up. She said the other guys shes been with usually take like 5 minutes.

I hope all the women reading this know this is an example of how NOT to treat your man.

Seriously, that's fucking rude.

"are you even fucking close?"

she sounds like a huge bitch




the answer to your question is about 10 minutes.

i'd say about 15-20 minutes of straight sucking, but it is something you've got to concentrate on to cum. it's even harder after you've been trained to not cum in their mouth, and then you get one that will let you do that. you'll be too nervous trying to, and it won't happen or will take forever.

actually, fuck concentrating and tensing up. relax. if she's going to let you cum in your mouth, just get comfortable and clear your head and let the shit happen. just like masturbating.



edit: cum in your mouth. haha, i meant hers.

I hope all the women reading this know this is an example of how NOT to treat your man.

Seriously, that's fucking rude.

QFT...seriously, what a raggy cunt.

About the OP, I've never blown from head. I've had good head, then made my self blow in their mouth. But never ever have I blown from head alone. I need it hard and rough (sex) to blow, I really don't want a "hard and rough" blow job. Teeth would some how get mixed up into it and teeth ARE BAAAAD.

My ex bf always cums if I give him head. He cums after about 10 minutes. Bless him after the first time he was all like 'Oh. My. God. That was amazing!' apparently he hadn't cum before from getting head.

sex then having her suck u off just as ur about to cum is the only way i can cum from a bj except my 1st coz i took these random pill to make u horny "Crack-a-fat" they were called

You're either really good at your job, or he doesn't have much stamina..

if you want to come, either breasts or hands must be used.

usually takes me 15-25 minutes to orgasm.

a labor of love!

why don't you just say,

hey can you try this



keep it simple stupid

Just say, "Oh yeah, uhhh, mmm! yeah, oh, use your hands a bit" then when she does tell her it's perfect.

Alos, you could try having a conversation with her describing the best way to give head. You could explain to her, "Guys like a lot of saliva, and working or the head with your mouth. Also, guys love it when you keep your lips in a tight seal around their cock and breath through your nose. Wanking the shaft while your at it helps too" and then ask her how girls like getting cunnilingus, and proceed to perform that on her.

sign language

Grab her hand, put it where you want it. She ought to get the message.

A girl's mouth may feel amazing, but it just doesn't get the job done for me. Not without a hand getting involved. Usually takes 10-45 minutes, depending on how I'm feeling. And my girlfriend, god bless her, always sees out the job. Though if it's too long, I give her a massage afterwards, out of courtesy.

I've also never gotten a blow job from a girl that didn't swallow. Only person I know that doesn't is one of my friends, but she's near asexual as it is, so...

Canadian girls, eh?

Things rarely "magically" work out without communication. I consider myself pretty good at giving head, but guys usually have a certain way that they like it- the first (sometimes more) time with someone is a learning experience where the goal is to learn what makes them feel good. If you don't talk about it, it might just be mediocre every time.

If I just relaxed, I would never cum from a BJ. I have to make myself cum. You know, tense all up and stuff.

same. I let myself sit back and enjoy it for a minute or two but I try to come quickly just so she isn't down there forever. I remember one time it took like 15 minutes even though I was trying pretty hard to come, I felt bad for her, but holy shit, it was the most incredible orgasm I've ever had. I wouldn't be surprised if I never have another like it. I had pins and needles and strange numbness all over for about 10 minutes after the fact, it was intense. The kicker: I was seated on the couch watching South Park at the time. I think at that moment in my life, just for 15 minutes, I was a fucking king. I'm still young, but in my humble opinion, there are few things in life greater than getting great head while watching your favorite TV show. Holy shit how did this post get so long? I really need to back off with the digressions, I do that so damn much.

Anyways.. to the OP.. actually make an effort at having an orgasm, it helps a lot.

BJs are like a double-edged sword. On one hand, they can keep a completely impotent man in a persistent vegetative state at full erection for hours. On the other hand, it's sort hard to cum. Imo, it helps a LOT if you can control her speed by using hands (if she allows it) or just fantasize, that helps the most. I could go forever if I didn't fantasize or start fucking her mouth.

I don't want anyone thinking I'm trying to dog out people because of their age, because I'm not. But the truth is, most of what is being described on here can be all chalked up to inexperience, awkwardness, fear, hesitation. Basically chicks that haven't been around many cocks that much. Trust me guys....as they get older and less inhibited about sex they WILL get better. You'll have girls stroking your cock with one hand, rubbing your balls with the other, tounging the head with complete abandon....all the while verbally begging you to cum in their mouth, face, tits. Don't get me wrong....not ALL girls. Yeah, there are still some very less than eager, or will treat your dick like such an alien being you might as well hand them a Sudoku puzzle and they'll figure that out in less time. And sure in SOME of you guys cases, it is about you and relaxing and all of that jazz....but I put 90% of these cumming problems on the women's end. And I also agree with everyone else that said if you are too scared/embarrased to explain to your lover what pleases you (whether in the moment or a more non sexual moment) than you'll more than likely NEVER have good sex...and probably have no business doing it in the first place.

hands are important

spot on

+1 same with me