I am unhappy. I love the my girl to death but I don't want to be with her anymore. It will be hard to break up because we live together and have been for the last two years.

If I go through with this I pratically have NO WHERE to go. I am broke. I was just laid off. I could live in my car or stay at my moms until I have enough cash to get a place of my own.

I could try to make it another 3 months to save up some cash before (IF) I dip out of this relationship.

Here are my problems;

1. It's as if she NEVER wants to have sex. She is NOT sexual at all. I am very sexual. Horny 24-7. I have more fun masturbating than I do having sex with her. Sex is suppose to be fun, right? It isn't for me. Same position for 2 years. I'm always on top. I've never even hit it from the back. She is not spontaneous(sp?) about anything. Won't suck my dick. IS pratically afraid of my dick.

I don't know why she is like this. She's only been with 1 other guy before me. It's obvious she isn't experienced. She doesn't even try to make an EFFORT. Ever. She is just so innocent.

I'm fucking 22 years old and when we don't have sex (almost every day) and when I'm allowed to "cum" she lets me hump her ass cheeks. Kind of like titty fucking but instead it's the ass. It's good but I feel embarassed. I want some real sex.

2. I can't stop looking at girls. Is this a common problem?

What the fuck should I do?

How the hell did you get to 2 years with this girl?


It's hard to deal with, but if you're with someone you dont want to be with, you have to deal with it now, not delay it for Z amount of months for whatever reason. Because you'll keep finding reasons to delay breaking up and the next thing you know you'll be 40.


It'll be easier on her if you break up now rather than in a few months, because once she finds out how long you've been planning to leave her, she'll be destroyed.

Or perhaps that's a good thing?
If she's with you and she's unwilling to satisfy you, she doesent sound like a great girlfriend.

Have you tried talking to her about all this stuff?

Have you talked to her about it yet? Maybe the thought of losing you might scare her into making an effort to please you sexually. It seems to me that you guys are just friends, not boyfriend and girlfriend...And unless that changes, then I think you should end the relationship, probably sooner rather than later.

Spoke to her about the subject many times. She gets mad. She states that she does try.

Once on my birthday she gave me head for 30 seconds.

She told me that it isn't her fault if she doesn't have a big sex drive. Some girls are different. Some girls don't suck dick.

Whenever I share my problem with friends of mine or girls I know they tell me how sorry they are for me. Everyone seems to think I have it bad.

We were friends for 4 years before we got together. I've always liked her. I was the one who had to chase her. Once I asked her if I would ever have a chance with her and she said "never." This was like 6 years ago.

Maybe she is only with me because I'm "there." I was the nice guy who chased her. The guy who really loves her. Maybe she is just "meh" towards me.

Since I got laid off I get to collect unemployment for 3-6 months. I have the checks coming here. All my mail comes here.

I know I could get my address changed or even get a PO box but that's the start of my problems.

I have no where to go. I have like $15 to my name until I start getting my unemployment checks.

I want to keep her as a friend. She said if we broke up that she would never talk to me again.

You cant stay with someone because they threaten to withdraw their friendship if you break up with them.
.Can you?

\You seem pretty unhappy. Maybe moving back with your parents for a bit would be a good thing. it's really wrong to be with someone who you're not particularly into.

She sounds very immature. You'd probably be better off without her. But easier said than done, right? I'm sure it will be very hard for you since you love her, but why stay with someone who isn't willing to give herself fully to you? It does sound like she's just with you for the sake of being with someone, not because she's actually committed to the relationship.

I think it's very cuntish of her to say that she would never speak to you again if you broke up. If she actually loves you though, I doubt that she could actually never speak to you again.

In my expert opinion (lol), I think you should cut your losses, move in with your mom and try to get on with your life. Hopefully in time she'll either realise that she does want to be with you and she'll change her ways, or she'll atleast get to a place where you guys can be friends. If she does actually stay true to her word and never talk to you again, then she's a bitch and you deserve better anyway.

Good luck, I hope you can figure things out!

Anyway, perhaps now you're unemployed you're going to see the real cunt in her, and see how long it is before she kicks you out?


Financial change tends to bring out the real side of a person.

Those naked pictures I still have of her seem a lot less sexy now.

I would wait until I had the cash and then split.

Try to hold out until you can find work and once again have stable income, then try relationship counseling. You were just laid off, questioning your relationship with your girlfriend shouldn't be a primary concern right now.

Bring that shit up with her if and when you are ready to bail dude.

Once you're in the position to leave her, let her know that the whole no sex, boring sex, cold fish shit annoys the shit out of you.

Then you take it from there...If she refuses to believe that sex is an important part of a relationship and takes it badly then get outta there mate.

Maybe she'll be willing to make a couple changes...Maybe not.

Hope it all goes well dude.

Use that 15 bucks and go find some kind of female hormones that increase sex drive and slip it to her in some wine or something. and if that doesn't work then so find another girl that understands your sexual needs.

bin her

Her attitude about sex is never going to change. It is impossible to have a good relationship when you are so sexually incompatible. Get out as soon as you can, circumstances allowing, and stop wasting your time to find someone who you can be happy at satisfied with.