So theres a girl you really hit it off with about a week ago and 2 days after that you end up having sex with her. So you start spending more time with her and meet her friends, only every friend she has is a guy... well thats the way it seems.

So then it turns out that just about every single one of these guys is completely nuts for her and worship her every move.


K now you've got the perspective. So what I'm doin here is trying to keep this girl on her toes... I think she is SO used to having guys following her and worshiping her every step that she just needs a guy to show her that shes NOT all that.

So I've been trying to play this girl by doin shit like making HER call ME, blowing her off every once in a while, ya know just shit like that that is making HER the one doing the chasing here. It's worked for me before and it seems to be working now, EXCEPT one problem.

That problem being the other guys kissing every step she takes!

How the hell am i supposed to win this? Can I win this? If Im looking to date her then how the hell is that gonna work with them all over her like that?

I don't think you should blow her off. I mean, she's going out with you after she's had all that attention, so you must mean something more than them.

Talk to her and tell her that your not comfortable with the guys all over her. That, or talk to the guys. They're probably just used to the single girl, when now, she isn't single and so you have to make it clear to them.

I had the same problem with my girlfriend being close to this one guy and they where all touchy feely, so I told her how I felt and it stopped right away.

Hope all goes well.

If you blow her off too much she'll just be like "well fine! I can go out right now and get a guy who will treat me better!"

If you really want her, you have to treat her like a princess.

LOL god but that brings back memories!

I had pretty much the same problem with the girl whom I later married.

ALL and I do mean ALL the boys where she worked wanted her.

I found that the threat of copious amounts of violence and general Bad Medicine worked well.

Although one evening I did have to go next door and borrow a knife (neighbour was a chef) because one of her admirers was a bit of a slow learner. Hell,he was infatuated with her but real bad.

Are you guys a couple?

LOL god but that brings back memories!

I had pretty much the same problem with the girl whom I later married.

ALL and I do mean ALL the boys where she worked wanted her.

I found that the threat of copious amounts of violence and general Bad Medicine worked well.

Although one evening I did have to go next door and borrow a knife (neighbour was a chef) because one of her admirers was a bit of a slow learner. Hell,he was infatuated with her but real bad.

This is why we are two little bald peas in a pod...Great minds think alike!

I had that with a girl a couple years back...loads of male friends who worshipped her and, even though I was with her, they kept trying to get in there with her.

Threats of violence, arms held behind backs with mean whispers in their ears...That worked for most. A couple needed a nice close view of my bald head (by close I mean crashing into the birdge of their noses!)

It works wonders buddy boy! ;)

Haha well according to the two mods, violence IS the answer!:)

And no Radical Wanker we're not "officially dating" but we might as well be, and when we ARE is when these other guys are gonna be a problem.

Spoken like a full blown woman.

dude....you are doing ALL the right things. What you're doing is the only thing you can do if you ever want to get this girl. she's used to guys falling all over her, doing what ever she wants... she expects it. girls like that need a challenge. they want someone who wont do whatever they want... if you start doing whatever she wants, youll end up in that crowd of guys always drooling over her, doing whatever the hell she wants...

you have to play hardball with her....dont do what she says all the time...dont text/call her when she expects it....sounds like i dont have to tell you how to play this, because you're doing it right.

dont worry about those chumps chasing her....they're all guys she knows she can get, but doesnt want. these girls like the whole 'chase'....and you have to make her think she's the one pursuing you, not hte other way around....

just keep doign what you're doing.

dude....you are doing ALL the right things. What you're doing is the only thing you can do if you ever want to get this girl. she's used to guys falling all over her, doing what ever she wants... she expects it. girls like that need a challenge. they want someone who wont do whatever they want... if you start doing whatever she wants, youll end up in that crowd of guys always drooling over her, doing whatever the hell she wants...

you have to play hardball with her....dont do what she says all the time...dont text/call her when she expects it....sounds like i dont have to tell you how to play this, because you're doing it right.

dont worry about those chumps chasing her....they're all guys she knows she can get, but doesnt want. these girls like the whole 'chase'....and you have to make her think she's the one pursuing you, not hte other way around....

just keep doign what you're doing.

Yeah see that's the mindset I have about this whole thing. Last night I was with her and one of these guys I was talking about and the guy started getting all cuddly up to her on the couch they were on so she whips out her phone and starts texting me... even though I was just on the other couch. Haha well the dude didn't seem to take it too well and said he felt like a third wheel so I told him to fuck off and he left.

That made my night.

Haha well according to the two mods, violence IS the answer!:)

It's not the answer...Maybe try being a little diplomatic at first like "Mate, she's with me...Keep your fuckin' hands away from her or I'll remove 'em."

Oh shit...Even when I'm being diplomatic, I'm violent...What have I been doing with my life?!

Okay okay...Try this one...

"Mate, look...Keep away alright? You're pissing me off."

Ahhh fuck it.

There's obviously something she likes about you and not the guys worshipping her. Maybe that's the fact that she has to work for you, and maybe it's something entirely unrelated. If anything I'd talk to some of the guys worshipping her and tell 'em to fuck off, but I don't think you'll have that much trouble keeping her, considering she hasn't gone for any of those other guys before now.

Spoken like a full blown woman.

Nope, just one who knows that if a guy treats a girl like crap she's generally not going to be thick enough to stick around.

Nope, just one who knows that if a guy treats a girl like crap she's generally not going to be thick enough to stick around.

from what i've seen over the years, i've found that the opposite of what you said is more often the case. if you treat girls too good they get bored and leave....

from what i've seen over the years, i've found that the opposite of what you said is more often the case. if you treat girls too good they get bored and leave....

I think girls who are looking for more of a long term relationship tend to go for the guys who treat them like a princess because they know they can keep a guy like that in it for the long run.

Women who go for the "tough asshole" type guy are probably just looking for a one night stand or whatever...

just makes sense to me.

I never really approved of the mind games thing, if you're going to do it, at least it do it right, it can backfire very easily. Don't worship her and treat her like a princess like all the other guys have done and will continue to do, but don't be mean or rude either. The most important thing is that when you're with her or talking to her be totally focused on her, make her feel good and show her a good time. But when you're making plans tell her you're busy once in a while, don't call her right away, you know the drill. The whole point is to give her enough attention that she'll want more, but keep her anticipating or else you'll become boring.

I know what you're talking about and I agree with pretty much everyone who has put their advice in here to a degree.

When you're with her and this entourage of guys who follow her, I say mark your territory in a obvious but not over powering way.

Try when shes talking to them, or any situation where they are focused on her, coming up behind her, wrap your arms around her and give her a good kiss on the neck/lips. Then keep your arms around her and just let her keep talking to them or whatever.

This will give you 2 reactions which you can gauge from here:

1) She will really enjoy the kiss and the close-ness and let the conversation keep going which generally means shes all yours and these guys are just there to talk at.

-or-

2) She will get uncomfortable with you doing this which means she doesn't hold you as the lone male in her group. Or she has problems with PDA, which is a whole different story.

Violence is often a bad way to go unless one of these clowns is stepping out of line when you are 100%.

Yeah, see her and I really aren't even at that stage yet. Our relationship is almost a secret to these guys just because of how much complete fucking drama it would cause. We've already had sex and when we're alone we get all close and that but around her "guy friends" we kind of keep it on the DL. It's only a matter of time though before I guess I'm officially dating her and then I really don't give a fuck who we're around.

And god damn, I hate drama and situations like this. They usually just tend to snowball into one huge mess. Oh well, I guess I'm just gonna wait it out and see what happens.