Ugh why am i doing this?

Ive fallen for a girl i absolutely cant stand and i cant get her out of my head, everytime i lie in bed trying to go to sleep she pops into my mind again. It's about to get to the point where im going to rape her, kill her, and throw her into a lake and hope i never think about her again.

She thinks were friends but i dont think so, she always comes to me and whines to me about her emo problems. "oh chris my best friend hates me", "oh chris my boyfriend just dumped me", blah blah fucking blah its like im her emotional tampon, The typical "person you cry to about all your problems" guy.

I just dont get why i like her, shes a whore and i cant stand it, sitting across from her watching her make out with a guy she just met 3 mins ago, then 15 mins later watching her make out with that guys brother is insane.

Why do i do this?
Why do i listen to her bitching?
Why are you listening to my bitching?
Why am i compelled to hang out with her?
Why do i obsess about her?

Could this be that emotion called "love" that i hear ever so much about?

What do i do?

Should i cut all ties with her, ignore her and hope she goes away?

Should i just tell her to fuck off?

..This isnt me...this isnt me at all, ive never "fell" in love before its scary, if this is what love is i dont like it...

Someone please help me ive run out of all ideas, if i see/speak/hear of her again i dont know what ill do.



God help me....

Fuck dude im in a very similar situation, my best friend is an whore, the only guy she hasnt fucked is me, its not like i asked her or flirted with her or anything. I used to be cool talking to her but eventually i started liking her and tried to get her out of my head.I fucking hate the shit she does and ignore her but she keeps calling me everyday and keeps telling me her love stories, i just cant get her out of my mind

By the way let me answer questions


Why do i do this?
Because your probably attracted to her
Why do i listen to her bitching?
Because you care about her
Why are you listening to my bitching?
WTF
Why am i compelled to hang out with her?
Cause you cant get her out of your mind and you want to spend the most time possible
Why do i obsess about her?
Thats a mystery, i dont even know why im so obsessed about her

This may not be the situation, but it seems to me what may be happening is that you are desiring what you can't/haven't had.

I had a similar problem with a girl who was close to me and yet would only speak to me about her problems with other guys w.o. ever responding to one of my advances. I finally realized that I wasn't even attracted to her and in reality, she wasn't even that attractive herself. Once I finally pushed her away, the strangest thing happened. She chased after me!

It always seems to be the one thing you can't have is the one thing you want the most.

I know a girl just like that,she's an attention whore too.

Get this,she was telling me how she had the urge to kill her stepdad last night and went so far as to grab a pair of scissors.

I just thought to myself: 'hunni i have the urge to kill you right now, just shut the fuck up,your the reason he treats you like a "dumb little slut" fucking emo'.

Seriously just tell her off next time she bitches about her "problems" it might hurt but it might just might make her rethink the way she acts. :)

First off, It's not LOVE, It's LUST.

Secondly you have feelings for her, because you see guys hooking up with her, and you can't. It's a 'only wanting, cause you can't get' thing.

Also you see her performing sexual and loving actions (kissing other guys), so your subconscious has related her, to sex and love, in your mind.

NOW...

You have three options..

[1] - Do something horribly mean to her, so she doesn't want to see you again. That way your (weak?) will-power wont have a part to play in not seeing her again.

[2] - Have sex with her (Ask her, rape.. as you suggested) to find out what all the hype in your emotions is.

[3] - Just ignore your feelings, let them come out when your going through a mid-life crisis or something, and breakdown mentally, because this small matter would've brewed up to something significant.

Is she by any chance remarkably hot with huge breasts?
That might be your answer right there, and it doesent have anything to do with love.

Fuck her, sure. But wear a condom, and dont expect the relationship to be 'exclusive'.

wtf how did you know

she does have huge breasts

You obviously like her if your falling her!

Dude, the exact thing happened to me almost. I hated this guy, I thought he was the biggest asshole in the world, the only reason I hung out with him was because of my bestfriend, at the time and his at the time. I didn't even think he was "ok" until about 2 months of hanging out with him. Then, after about a year I got a "crush" on him. I told my bestfriend and she made fun of me and thought it was disgusting. I couldn't get him out of my mind.

Now, here I am, 3 years down the road, I still love him as much as I did in the beginning, we're bestfriends now, he loves me as well but I don't think it's in the same way I do.

You can't fight love, it just happens. It's uncontrollable. You just have to go with it. You'll end up appreciating her, I know it. Even if you don't want to now, there's nothing you can do.


I don't think it's love quite yet, but I believe you're on the verge. There's not much you can do. :(

Edit: Of course, it's probably nothing like that and you're just a horny teenage boy and you see her as a vulnerable, easy target. In which case, wear protection. If you fuck her, you have a choice to make. You can either be like all the other guys and be a dick to her, unless you're having sex, she'll eventually stop bitching to you about all of her problems, you won't be her emotional tampon any longer. Or, you can have sex, continue being nice, and she'll fall head over hills for you because you're "not like the other guys" and you can continue being her emotional plug. rofl. Good luck, my fellow north carolinian!

You think you're better than her because she's slutty. You don't hate her. If you're anything like me when i was 15, you think you can make her happier by being someone she falls in love with. Hey man, guess what: sluts is sluts foo'.

Shit, another person from NC. Anyway good luck with your situation. I was going to answer it and I realized I don't know what the fuck to do in that kind of situation.

Wow, same sort of thing with me, except that she's funny, beautiful, brilliant, and I can't find anything I don't like about her.
Except that we're best friends.
... I guess your situation sucks a little more, though.

maybe you're right, i'm leaning towards number 1, maybe i can get up the courage to do it.

Is she by any chance remarkably hot with huge breasts?
That might be your answer right there, and it doesent have anything to do with love.

Fuck her, sure. But wear a condom, and dont expect the relationship to be 'exclusive'.

Shes cute but by no means hot, i dont want to fuck her, i just want her out of my mind.

Edit: Of course, it's probably nothing like that and you're just a horny teenage boy and you see her as a vulnerable, easy target. In which case, wear protection. If you fuck her, you have a choice to make. You can either be like all the other guys and be a dick to her, unless you're having sex, she'll eventually stop bitching to you about all of her problems, you won't be her emotional tampon any longer. Or, you can have sex, continue being nice, and she'll fall head over hills for you because you're "not like the other guys" and you can continue being her emotional plug. rofl. Good luck, my fellow north carolinian!

I dont want sex with her, i dont have random sex with random girls, i used to but i stopped when i was younger, i usually just stick to fucking girlfriends.
Thanks anyway

You think you're better than her because she's slutty. You don't hate her. If you're anything like me when i was 15, you think you can make her happier by being someone she falls in love with. Hey man, guess what: sluts is sluts foo'.

I think youve hit the nail on the head, i do think she would be better off with me, i guess im trying to get her to stop being a slut and be with me.

edit: Does anyone know how i can stop thinking about her? it's getting worse now, 2 days ago she called me wanting to hang out i was so close to saying "look i'm sick of you, leave me the fuck alone" but instead of that i agreed and we spent the day together.

She didnt ramble about her problems or anything so i guess the day was fine, but yeah afterwards all day and even today im still thinking about her. I just want her out of my head....

I thought about just setting a get-together telling her "hey i dont think we should be friends anymore, i dont think i can handle this" and then just leave and hopefully ill stop thinking about her.

anyways thanks for all the help guys, keep em coming

I can say that you won't just stop thinking about her, I had the same problem about three or four years back. I loved this girl, but eventually I had to leave because she was tweeking all the time.

Her mother knew, so does her brother, but I don't know.

The problem is today I am supposed to go visit her brother and I guess she is going to be there which makes it awkward. I know nothing will ever happen, but I still care, and even though I barely see her once a year. I still think about her, not as much as when I left, but a bit.

It's hard, but I realize that nothing good would have came from it, Sure she would have been happier with me, And I was the best thing for her, At the time I guess she didn't realize that.

The last time I visited she told me she was sorry. I'm still not sure why she appologized but, I guess she felt the need to.

*shrugs* Girls.

Accept this: she seems to use sexuality as a way to get positive attention from men, which could stem from daddy issues (the sluts i've dated either had fathers who were emotionally unavailable due to alcoholism or physical separation) or some shit like that. I'm no shrink. But, you are someone who treats her well without demanding sexual gratification, which is apparently something she doesn't get from other guys. You're going to continue to be infatuated with her until you realize that you really have fallen into not just the friend zone but the friend abyss: you are essentially the wall she can lean up against after having 5 long island iced teas at a party, displaying her status as a sexual subject of others' desires. So, you can resort to being a friend to her, and perhaps discuss the one-sidedness of the relationship, or tell her that you can o longer deal with her. In either case, though, you're not going to be happy until you can actually accept that she's never going to look at you in a sexual or romantic way. If you choose to remove yourself from her life, she'll probably be crushed for a week and then find some other poor sod to cry on. Best of luck!

wtf how did you know

she does have huge breasts

Pics or it didn't happen.

Because even though she's kissed all them guys, she ain't kissed you or even tried to kiss you. She just keeps coming to you because you're such a great friend who listens to her whiny bollocks! You are nothing more to her than someone to bitch about life with...Much like a sibling.

This is probably annoying the shit out of you because even though she's a whore, you're not tapping it!

Kiss the girl and it'll all go away.

Just rape her. That should solve her boundary issues making her fear sexual contact. Don't kill her though. That's disgusting.

ehh i just decided to ignore her, no phone calls, no seeing each other, no contact whatsoever.

Maybe she will get the hint and leave me alone, i would just tell her to fuck off but i cant imagine myself doing it.

Hopefully ill stop thinking about her