So I had a bad day yesterday, and topped it off with a really bad morning today (which consisted of a flat tire and getting told to go home by my boss because I looked like hell). I was going to give my boyfriend a surprise as planned because I thought he was coming home today from being away for a month and a half. Turns out, I sat waiting in my car for him to reply to a text message for a half and hour. I went home and shortly after I got a phone call from him, with a bunch of noisy people in the background, telling me he wasn't home yet and he thought we should break up.

I am kinda glad I didn't give him the surprise. He didn't even give me a good reason why. THat's what bugs me the most. The only thing I can think of is that he didn't want to wait around, like I did for him, his senior year while I went to college. I just can't believe I waited around for him for two months putting up with all of this shit. I kept thinking optimistically about everything, which isn't me at all. "Oh he has a good reason for why he didn't call me tonight" or "He's probably doing something for me right now." I don't know... I guess I just need someone on my level. It doesn't help now that I don't have anyone to hang out with friend wise. No one's called me all summer ha....

I don't know... I've just never been broken up with. I always break up with the other person, so now I know how it feels.

So Totse, in short, you were right and I was wrong.

Wow. That fucking sucks. Go get wasted, and try to remember the good times.

Good luck.

Damn. I've been following this story a bit. He's a dick head.

Fuck that guy. >:[
I'm sorry.
Seriously, find someone to go out with, anyone, and just have a good time. It will help.

There's not much to say other than "That's life". You just gotta deal with the problems as they come, don't be all depressed about it.

- Kaizer.

Well, to hell with him then.

You were sweet and decent enough to want to do something nice for him, and he threw it in your face.

He doesent deserve you.

Chances are he met some nasty disgusting skank.
But dont worry, she's going to be an utter whore who will fuck him, his brother, his best friends, his father and his sister, and share her herpes with all of them. Before stealing his money and leaving him sick, sad, hurt, hating himself for losing you, and incredibly scared because his penis has gone black and smells like almonds.

So be it.



Do you have a picture of him? Or even just a first or second name. yoyobek@yahoo.co.uk

I'm sorry that my first guess was correct; I hoped that it wasn't. Your idea was quite sweet, it's too bad he didn't deserve it. It's easy to make mistakes like that when you care about someone.

At least you're heading off to a new place and are going to be surrounded by new people. It'll make things far easier for you, I'm sure.

As the other people have said. To hell with that bastard.

You seem like a nice girl, and you were even planning a surprise for him! Whatever the reason was I am sure it was as you mentioned and not actually from something because of you, or you did.

Your just gonna have to move one. Which I know can be pretty hard.

*shrugs* I have always had a problem with putting everything I have into everything I do. I did it with my school work, family, relationships, and work. I guess I'm just a very passionate person, and most of the time it comes back to bite me in the ass.

I was also thinking how weird it is for him to dump me a day before he got back. Wouldn't you want to see me first before you decided you didn't have any feelings for me anymore? I don't know. And I just got my dorm assignment. What do you know, App State really knows how to put the cherry on top of a bad day. I got the worst out of the freshman dorms - No air-conditioning, smallest room size and no micro-fridge permitted. But I have a sink! Thank god, there will never be a time that I can't wash my hands!

...No AIR CONDITIONING?? That's horrible!

And your boyfriend is a tool. You're going to meet awesome guys in college...Seriously, there's just no comparison.

Wow, that seriously sucks, if you cared that much, I'd kill to have a girl like ou, but don't worry, it may be cliche but theres plenty other guys out there who are more suited for you.

He found someone else. Get hammered and don't worry about it. You'll find someone else. Most likely when you least expect it.

And the guy you find will be 100x better, and hopefully more mature.

Its been almost a day. Im curious about how you feel? Did you go out and have fun, or did you sit at home and mope? I wouldnt blame you for either choice. I just hope you say fuck that fucking asshole, and find someone else.

LOL, what you doin tomorrow?

I went out for a while. I went to the mall but didn't buy anything because I wasn't in the shopping mood. I went to the movies and saw No Reservations, but of course, like everyother movie, the couple breaks up dramatically and then happily falls back into place. So, it made me more sad then do any good when I was driving home. The movie was weird though. THey fell back together by her showing up at his front door, not the other way around.

I don't know. I hate to say it, but everything I do isn't fun because it reminds me of him. I can't listen to music, which used to be 1/2 of my down time, because the songs remind me of him and make me start to cry. I can't go on the internet and look at threads at totse because all the people with relationship problems I just feel like flamming for being as dumb as me. I don't know, I really miss him and just want to call him. He didn't even break up with me in person and tell me why, he did it over the phone.

I feel bad for you. At least you dont have to see him everyday. That bitch I work with is all up on the African guy, and hes a bigger drunk than I could ever be. No addicts my ass.

So, Im going out and getting fucking stone for the first time in 4 1/2 days.

DONT EVER DATE SOMEONE YOU WORK WITH!!!! Remember that sage advice, I didnt. Now look at me.

Jagger and pot, here I come!

Breakups are horrible. :(

I know the sort of sadness you're going through, it upsets me I cant do anything to help. If we were in the same country I'd invite you over to chill, or see if you wanted to hang out.
I couldnt make stuff better, but I could probably distract you with soo many guinea pigs you'd forget about the evil bastard shitbag who dumped you for a few hours.


You're attractive,otherwise you wouldnt have been able to get him in the first place, and you're in control.
You have your life and your freedom and he cant take that away from you.


If you're wanting distractions that wont remind you of him, I highly reccomend martial arts movies, with a mix of kids films like Ice Age. I laughed my ass off watching the second one the other day, and laughter will really make you feel a bit better.

If you're wanting distractions that wont remind you of him, I highly reccomend martial arts movies, with a mix of kids films like Ice Age. I laughed my ass off watching the second one the other day, and laughter will really make you feel a bit better.

Uncannily enough i'm coping with my present situation by watching old cyberpunk films (although I watched Die Hard 4 tonight as well cos IT HAS HACKERS AND BRUCE WILLIS IN!!111).

*is off to watch New Rose Hotel and drink that australian wine that Sainsburys have knocked down from £6 to £4*

Uncannily enough i'm coping with my present situation by watching old cyberpunk films (although I watched Die Hard 4 tonight as well cos IT HAS HACKERS AND BRUCE WILLIS IN!!111).

*is off to watch New Rose Hotel and drink that australian wine that Sainsburys have knocked down from £6 to £4*

Ahhhh, bruce willis. Jackketchs twin, only without the pale english summer skin and the superb acting skills. :)

Go watch IceAge2. Scrat is alot like yoyobek

Ahhhh, bruce willis. Jackketchs twin, only without the pale english summer skin and the superb acting skills. :)

Go watch IceAge2. Scrat is alot like yoyobek

Nah I don't do cartoons ...although I will watch Ghost In The Shell this weekend which is a cartoon I think.

*googles 'Scrat' *

Oh so you're a saber-toothed squirrel?!

We are gonna have to have a chat about 'self image' sometime.

:P

Nah I don't do cartoons ...although I will watch Ghost In The Shell this weekend which is a cartoon I think.

*googles 'Scrat' *

Oh so you're a saber-toothed squirrel?!

We are gonna have to have a chat about 'self image' sometime.

:P

Watch it (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_eZqpHDUAA)

:):)

Watch it (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_eZqpHDUAA)

:):)

I was going to make a Freud joke about your obsession with nuts but suddenly psychiatrist jokes don't seem funny :(

.... I've got both of them on dvd....

I have a younger brother

I don't know... I've just never been broken up with. I always break up with the other person, so now I know how it feels.



Ya, i was just there a few weeks ago....really fucking sucks.

I also hate when you think you are over it and you are doing fine. Then you go online and look at Facebook, and you find theres and start crying as soon as you see their picture

well i dont cry about it....but ya, having facebook makes it more difficult than it should be. Everytime i log on, im compelled to look at her profile....and even if i resist, my mini feed will update me on her....like show some new pics shes in. looking hotter than she ever has before. at a party. with her ex boyfriend from before me, who im quite sure she left me for.

Welcome to my life hun, what would you like to drink?

*hug*

As for keeping your drinks cold in dorms, I've found the best places to keep drinks.

1) In the toilet fill up bowl thing. It fills with cold water, so your drinks will always be cold.
2) Fill sink and clog it with ice/cold water. Keeps stuff cold.

I had always suspected he would break up with you, just didn't want to conform too hard by posting it.

Often I want to break up with people, really nice people for no reason at all. He must spread his seed further.

I'm not in the sad stage anymore. I am in the mad stage. He took the easy way out... the cowards way out. Breaking up with me 1) over the phone, 2) the day before he came back 3) not giving me an answer as to why. 4) Now he won't return my phone calls to talk in person. You are probably wondering why I called him back in the first place. I have a good reason. Both of us were a part of the Annual Staff last year in school, and there is a party/get together going on in a week. So, instead of it being awkward and hateful I wanted to talk it out and end it in a more mature fashion. The bitch hasn't called me back because he's too much of a fucking pansy to face his fears. He knows he's wrong and he's the asshole, he just doesn't want to come to terms with the fact that everytime something gets too complicated for him he runs from it and drops it. Why do all guys do that? Why do they take the easy way out?

Don't pressure the guy, Jesus, you sound like my old ex (whichever one, take your pick).

He broke up with you. It's over. Don't talk to him, don't do anything relating to him, it's now no longer "spiteful" territory, but leaning towards "crazy clingy bitch won't leave me alone" territory.

He broke up, he's immature. Great. Leave it at that. Don't talk to him ever. He doesn't want to talk in person, just drop it. Don't talk to him, don't call him, don't stalk him.

The next step after a break up is a restraining order, so just relax and move on with your life.

sounds like shit sucks, you should do what i always do, party until i either get over it r cant remember it. its certainly not healthy but it is so much easier than taking weeks to get over it.

I somewhat agree with this....When I went through my breakup about 3 weeks ago or so I dealt with it in that way. I got dumped on a thursday, and i had the following day off from work. I binge drank the entire weekend away. All night thursday, friday, saturday and sunday I just got shitfaced....one night I actually got really coked up too, not something i normally do. actually two nights I guess. and it was good for distracting me from the pain....but eventually i'd sober up. and it'd be back. over the time i had been dating this girl, i had toned down my epic frat guy drinking levels to a more reasonable level...i wouldnt take crazy shots, just drink like whiskey and cokes, and beer.... after i got dumped, it hit the switch in my head that advised me not to do certain shots and stuff.....and i regained my frat guy drinking abilities. I started doing shit like 4 horsemen, rumpleminz, cuervo, irish car bombs and boilermakers....shots i normally wouldnt have done before.

i think i eventually killed the right brain cells, because it doesnt hurt anymore....it still bothers me when i think about it...but the pain is gone. it obviously still bothers me because i choose to talk about it.

I somewhat agree with this....When I went through my breakup about 3 weeks ago or so I dealt with it in that way. I got dumped on a thursday, and i had the following day off from work. I binge drank the entire weekend away. All night thursday, friday, saturday and sunday I just got shitfaced....one night I actually got really coked up too, not something i normally do. actually two nights I guess. and it was good for distracting me from the pain....but eventually i'd sober up. and it'd be back. over the time i had been dating this girl, i had toned down my epic frat guy drinking levels to a more reasonable level...i wouldnt take crazy shots, just drink like whiskey and cokes, and beer.... after i got dumped, it hit the switch in my head that advised me not to do certain shots and stuff.....and i regained my frat guy drinking abilities. I started doing shit like 4 horsemen, rumpleminz, cuervo, irish car bombs and boilermakers....shots i normally wouldnt have done before.

i think i eventually killed the right brain cells, because it doesnt hurt anymore....it still bothers me when i think about it...but the pain is gone. it obviously still bothers me because i choose to talk about it.

See... to me, thats taking a step down. That would be bringing myself down to his level. I don't need something to make me forget about it for a few hours, I need to get over it. And I did, I got over it with out drinking and doing drugs.

See... to me, thats taking a step down. That would be bringing myself down to his level. I don't need something to make me forget about it for a few hours, I need to get over it. And I did, I got over it with out drinking and doing drugs.

so you're a better man than me....