I can't stand this shit anymore.
Bellow is the description of one of the most pathetic guy you'll ever stand across, so flames are kind of useless.

You know, I'd like to be treated with at least a little respect, especially with my younger brother and sister - wich are both stepping on my territory (if you see what I mean...) - and I'm too much of a pussy to be able to push them back, or when I try, I fail miserably. I also have no friends. I feel like the only way to have just a bit more of authority would be to use physical violence against them, to show them that they have to respect me, because I'm older than them.

Just earlier: we were going in car, me, my sister and my dad - my dad driving - and I wanted to sit in front, but my sister went in front of me and took it, before we enter. I argued about it, saying that I have the right to sit in front since I'm older, etc. and got kind of washed out by her, and my dad didn't care a bit. I abandonned because of knowing myself, I wouldn't have been able to show any more authority by talking, so, unable to resign myself to sit in the back, I went inside and they (my dad and my sister) went without me.
After that, I went into my room to cry about it. (Yeah, I bet that's because of all the times it happened before and I couldn't take it anymore).

And it causes her, like so many people in the past, to kee laughing at how pathetic I am.

I often felt, and still do, that I'd be a good candidate for school shooting murder/suicide, because of being inferior to everybody all the time.

I really don't know what to do anymore. I feel I can't ever be with anybody because of it, ense, I can't have any friend. It's killing me. The only solution I'd see is to be alone most of the time, so I don't have to suffer because of others and go live my life alone when I can move (I'll be 18 in less than 2 months)

It's been pretty much like this through my whole life

Help/flame, I don't care. I needed somewhere to express myself.

I'd start by posting naked pix of your sister in the appropriate place...HERE for favourite.

What the hell?

I'm kind of hoping you're a troll, but it doesent quite feel like it.


First of all, getting upset about where you sit in the car is dumb. If it was *your* car, you'd have the right to feel differently.
But as it is, it's just a seat. If you can calm down and stop letting the petty bullshit your siblings pull get to you, you'll win.

I dont see why you'd want to suicide just because your siblings are crap, and I dont see how them being horrible would affect your dating and romance business.



Draw your lines. If by territory you mean your room, make it very clear to the WHOLE family, that that territory is yours. Yours. And tell them that if anyone goes into that area, then they have every right to expect a smacking.

That way, if your siblings do fuck with you and invade your teritory, your parents have had fair warning and should have disciplined their kids better.


Get a lock, also. Locks are vital when you live with a sibling.
My brother stole my marbles. He stole my micromachines. He smashed my first ever techno tape when I was like 9.
No one ever really cared because I was soo whiny about it.

So, dont whinge and whine like a little kid. Explain sensibly, to your parents, that you need your space!




And dont kill yourself because of your brother and sister. If violence must take place, let it be against them. :)

What the hell?

I'm kind of hoping you're a troll, but it doesent quite feel like it.

I'm not, I swear. I told it already in my OP that you'll find me pathetic...

First of all, getting upset about where you sit in the car is dumb. If it was *your* car, you'd have the right to feel differently.
But as it is, it's just a seat. If you can calm down and stop letting the petty bullshit your siblings pull get to you, you'll win.

It's the feeling of being overpowered by my youngest sister. I can't fucking stand it. Normally, she shouldn't even wonder wether if she can sit or not on the front seat. It wouldn't happen if I was more authoritarian but I'm un-fucking-able.


Draw your lines. If by territory you mean your room, make it very clear to the WHOLE family, that that territory is yours. Yours. And tell them that if anyone goes into that area, then they have every right to expect a smacking.

That way, if your siblings do fuck with you and invade your teritory, your parents have had fair warning and should have disciplined their kids better.

No, I didn't mean physical territory. I have no problem with having my room only for me. It's more like being able that they do what I ask them to do (and, trust me, I alway want to be reasonible, and they don't), being able to have them not argue with me when I'm right, etc.


And dont kill yourself because of your brother and sister. If violence must take place, let it be against them.

That's the problem. Unlike a normal guy, I'm unable to value a single point, a single bit of authority with words. And this does not applies only with my brother and sister but with most people I come into contact with...

You cried because daddy didn't bother telling your sister to not bully her 18 year old brother?

I am completely serious about this. Next time you find her alone and she tries to mess with you, punch her. I am serious. Do it. Not hard enough to break bones or bruise... but hard enough to get the point across. I am absolutely serious. Now, unless you can't punch very hard at all.. then I say mess with her back, you say she got to the front seat first? grab her and pull her out of the seat, get in, and close the door. It's normal sibling violence that seems to be missing in your life =P I'm sure if you're dad is an ok guy he wouldn't care. If he's an ass then he'd probably hit you or something *shrug* in which case, murder/suicide. or just murder.

Edit: Oh! and, if you DO hit her, don't let your emotions get a hold of you because uh, from what I can see, you have some suppressed anger... yeah, you'd end up killing her.

Edit2: Wait, how old is she? If she's under 12 then hell, let her do that, it's normal little girl stuff. If she's OVER 12, then go ahead and hit her =P Wow I'm mean O.o I guess it happens when you you're the youngest of three brothers, the two olders ones being football players, and one a marine :(

You weren't "overpowered." She got there first. It's not like you called shotgun, man. Jesus, the reason you don't get any respect is 'cuz you sulk about shit like that. God.

edit: I don't have authority over my younger sister. You shouldn't have authority over yours. In a family structure, it is the patriarch that usually holds authority, though he often defers to the matriarch and may in times of need defer said authority to his eldest spawn.

I don't know why you feel the need to have authority over those younger and weaker than you when you don't even have enough sense to take responsibility for your own inadequacies.

That sounds really bad. :(

I cant think of much to suggest except try to work on your confidence.
When I was going through a really bad time a few months ago I had to really psyche myself up each day or I'd crumple, and cry at the stupidest little things people did or said. Still have to, to an extent.

People not in this sort of situation would laugh, probably, but you have to look good, because you'll feel good. YOu wont be able to stand up for yourself if you're thinking "oh god, what if I've got a pimple on my forehead I missed? what if I smell?"

Keep yourself clean and hygenic, and dress well.

I'd generally smear my eyes with eyeliner and shadow and spike my hair, little things to make me feel better. That way atleast if people tried to intimidate me I knew it wasnt because of me looking bad.
Of course, I dont know what a guy would do instead of makeup (unless you wear makeup? That would be so hot).


I made myself a few CDs of the most aggressive upbeat music I have, and I'd listen to that before I went out.
I dont know what your tastes go to, but some hardcore drum and base such as BadCOmpany UK can give you a boost, and I find that some angry niggers swearing alot can help, too. Look up Hed-Pe and the Wu Tan Clan.
For some reason it helps and I'm not really sure why.


"Fuck you you cant get the best of me!!".. ahh lovely song. It still works.




And you seem to be feeling bad because your little sister can dominate you.
You seem to not understand just how evil little girls can sometimes be.
They're just at the age where they know just how manipulative they can be, just what they can get away with.

You'll find that regardless of how obnoxious or horrible she is, she'll rarely get punished badly by her parents.


Little girls can be evil!
Avoid confrontation with such a beast as much as possible. You wont win. Logic, or reasonable debate will be pointless against her.

The best way to deal with her when she's being a evil brat is to say "no." or "shut up." Nothing else, just a few simple words, and then ignore her utterly.

This will piss her off alot, but she cant say you're doing anything wrong, and eventually she'll give up.



In times when you're trying to get authority, think about if the issue is really worth being authoritave about.
If it's something you feel strongly about, by all means do it. But something mundane like which seat you sit in is dumb.

You sound sweet. Too sweet perhaps. Learning to say no, and care less about what people say to you is important, but I'm not sure how to help you with that.

Just know you're better than them.


EDIT: I'd listen to Tarchi, also. Dont let your little sister walk over you.And violence among siblings is perfectly normal.

and I find that some angry niggers swearing alot can help, too. Look up Hed-Pe

Jared isnt a nigger.

You get no authority or respect because you go cry about not getting the front seat in your dad's car. Quit letting small shit bother you and move on, you won't get very far if you keep letting yourself stumble over every little thing. Forget it and move the fuck on.

Watch some child minding programme like super nanny and lay down hard trying to undermine and make your siblings lives hell. Also stop being a pussy and get dealing out punishment which your dad wont notice.

If you're lazy or this advice is just bullocks then ask jackketch to come round and give her the good ole spanking till her ass is red n raw treatment, works wonders apparently....

You can't have proper authority without respect and respect is earned. Doing something like bitching about something like a car seat will only lose you respect.

Now, I don't know how women go about getting respect but there are a few things you can do to get respect as a man:

Treat everyone and that means EVERYONE as your equal as a human being. Don’t however pretend to be all pally with someone you don’t like.

Suck it up: Pretty self explanatory. Don't complain but if you do have to - don't whine or bitch.

Be honest: If you screwed up, 'fess up. This doesn’t however mean you have to be undiplomatic.

Admit when you are wrong.

Be polite: A pleasant manner and a smile will get you miles.

You should never have to be sorry because you should have thought it through and not done it in the first place.

Be the guy who gets things done without being asked and without bragging about it afterwards.

Be generous with your time and patience but at the same time don't let people take advantage of you.

Be the guy who always does the right thing, no matter how small. Waiting 20 seconds to hold a door for someone with an armfull of bags will win you brownie points all round.

Hold yourself like a man. Not like a slouching teenager.

Speak like a man. Not like a girl or a whining child.

Have a sense of humour, especially if the joke is on you.

Don't talk about people behind their backs unless you're saying something nice. In short, be the guy who people can tell anything and who won't repeat it.

Get a job and learn to respect other people's jobs.

Learn some man skills.

That's about all I can think of right now. In the meantime consider the following words and their relevance to your life:

Pride, modesty, kindness, humility, subtlety, respect and confidence

^^Good post.

Allthough some help on how to achieve those things would be good.

I'd like to act with dignity and pride but sometimes it just flies out of the window. Control is vital.

Dude...Authority/power has to be seized. You don't ask a guy bigger than you if you can please kick him in the face after punching him in the throat!

Let the beast out boy...It feels good when people fuck with you too much.

Stop being a wuss and be more assertive.

Real authority doesn't even need to say anything. Be in this world, not of it.

Hehehe, I remember when my siblings tried to take my front seat....I put an end to that shit by pulling a GTA and throwing their asses onto the pavement.

Learn Judo, or boxing, or Muay Thai, or whatever fighting style.

Or start lifting weights.

Demonstrate your martial skills or practice your weight lifting in your house so your siblings can see it.

Trust me, they won't fuck with you anymore.

I'm pretty sure when you're dealing with siblings the polite "do not hit women" rule is not applicable.

Scenario:
You call shotty, she gets in front, you slap her in her mouth.
You grab her by her hair and drag her out of the car and kick her in her mouth. You squat down and grab her hair and slap her repeatedly while saying
"Anything else you want to say bitch, anything? Say it, I wish you'd fucking say it bitch"

Then take pix and post on Totse. It will be the sweetest time you've ever spent grounded.

I have 3 younger siblings, and have them all in line. You only need to actually use physical force rarely, and just threaten them with it most of the time.

She takes your seat? Pull her ass out of there. YOU'RE head honcho.

Shitty deal. I had authority over my older sister even though she's 4 years older than me by being a quick wit. Even if you're not the quickest of cats at the best of times, a good stern one eyebrow cocked look with a slight threat (a slight threat that you know you will act upon) behind it can work (only used against a female cousin of mine a few years younger, when she refused, I said 'excuse me' to my uncle and grabbed her by the shoulders and pulled her out of the car and took her place. He laughed and gave me a pat on the back.)

If you don't have the confidence, then you've got to learn the 'Why the fuck not?' attitude. It's all about abandoning logic, faith, and values. (I advise you not to take it too far though.)

Best of luck to you.

I didn't read all the posts so if this has been said i appoligise.


#1. Confidence. You have to believe in yourself man. Quit telling yourself that your a pathetic person. It'll only make things worse. Tell yourself you're worth a shit start believing that you are.

#2. Fuck your siblings! what the fuck do they know about anything. you're older and smarter. so fuck what they think.

#3. Take a stand. when someone pisses you off let them know freak out if you have to but don't just bottle it up.

Kids that shoot up schools are just like you. I don't mean that to insult you i'm just saying that most people that go on a rampage killing inocent people were once just like you. they bottled up the hate for so long and kept telling them selves they had it coming that pretty soon they start believing it and snap. You don't want to have that happen so take a stand and fight back. fuck what everyone thinks and don't take everything to heart. Be your own man.

Thanks a lot for your replies. I'll look after it.

you win some, you lose some. okay, you seem to lose more than most, but you just gotta fuck it and get on with your shit.

my sister's younger, but has six inches and seventy pounds on me. no joke. she'll come into the kitchen and hit me in the face with frozen food, messes in my room, takes my things, lies that i've taken her things and my parents screw at me, but don't do shit all about her. i can't do anything about it myself 'cause she's vile, she'll crush me, and being near her makes me feel ill.
oh and i never sit in front, i rarely go in the car, i feel illlll being that close to members of my family. and wha the hell? it's just a car seat. it doesn't even have any principles. next time just go slump straight into the back and your sister won't be "winning" anymore. or just knee her through the back of the chari (:
but i've only gotta put up with them a little while longer, same goes to you. you can start talking back, or you can just blank them for the next few months before you can get shot.

doing more for yourself and moving out will make you a lotttt more confident. distance distance distance! just keep away from them and disassociate from your family.

don't even bother asking for a lock, they probably won't think you're responsible enough for one or whatever.

You're not assertive, adamant or confident enough, at all. You know what you want, go do/get it, bar none.

you seem like the perfect stereo type for the pitiful pencil neck geek thats turns into a meat head gym junkie hardass cos he was a little fag boy and got pushed around when he was younger

so get some steroids and get into the gym, you cant let the stereotype down if it wasent for stereotypes where would humanity be ? Mexiacans wouldent be lazy blacks wouldent be stealing and selling crack white people could dance !

take one for the team live up to the stereotype

what are you like fucking 10? someone needs to be tough with you mother fucker. go to a boot camp, or stick a log in your ass and become a motherfucking man. pussy.

I know the petty arguments can be the most frustrating, but you shouldnt let it get to you so much. If you just didn't comment, and quietly sat in the back (who the hell cares, really?) then it'd make her much less inclinded to do the same thing next time. Alternatively, explain the rules of shotgun to her. I'm in my twenties, and me and my sister / friends still all abide by shotgun. :)

Watch a series of reasonably good films that show how you have to act.

Training Day, Fight Club etc. It's about time you played by your own rules. Believe me, I was a push over for years, trying to be too reasonable and it got me no where.

It's time to:

Man Up Nigga, Man the Fuck up!

Fight club is a pretty bad film to reccomend, kina..
It's too testosterone filled. It's like telling thread starter to act like a dick all the time to get what he wants.


Allthough...something like this (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v225/raveyoyo/shotgun.png) might be good to try out next time your sister takes shotgun when you want it.


(image courtesy of cyanide and happiness)