Ok so heres the deal. I've been with my gf for almost 6 months. Were both 18. Basically I want to have sex with her. She's had sex with one other person when she was younger but she doesn't count it cause it was like a two second thing. I on the other hand am still a virgin.

We always seem to have just "dry sex" of just basically humping each other but I want to have actual sex. Our 6 moth anniversary is on Saturday and I'm pretty sure she wants to have sex too but how do I actually go through with it. Do I ask her? In the moment do I get up and get a condom. Please help

Buy her shiny things.

No don't ask. Always have a packet of condoms on you and just see where things take you.

I wish I could give you a step by step guide but in truth it just tends to happen, often without any talking.

When to put the condom on? Now thats an easy one GET HER TO DO IT! Make it part of the foreplay.

If were in the moment just how to I make the move to get the condom. Do I be like lets do it or something

QUIT worrying about the small shit, kiddo.

If she wants to sleep with you then it'll sort itself out.

:)


Remember half this board would kill to have your worries :P

Haha I just don't want it to create an awkward situation. I want it to be just right.

Any other advice?

while you are going at it, just whip out a condom.

Hold it up, and do one of those "hey wanna?"

Buy her shiny things.

This guy knows what he is talking about!

After a bit of foreplay, just say, "I have a condom."
Seriously, it has always worked for me.

Or, start taking off your clothes. Maybe help her/hint at her taking her clothes off. After you wiggle out of your pants, she should get the hint. And even if you don't fuck, being naked is always fun/sexy.

Or, since you guys seem semi-serious, just bring it up in conversation. If you aren't comfortable with just bringing it up and discussing it, you aren't mature enough for sex. Just be like, "How do you feel about having sex?" or "Would you like to have sex sometimes?"

I'm assuming you want to do it for all the right reasons.

Best of luck.

I'm assuming you want to do it for all the right reasons.

Best of luck.

That assumption is direly incorrect for a sad majority of totse...

pepper already said it but i'm gonna repeat it... when you're rolling around with her just slowly try to take off her shirt but do it casually just start sliding one hand up and slowly work it off. if she trys to stop you then approach from a different angle. i wouldn't start taking off your cloths right away though then you get the dreaded "what are you doing" or instead of her shirt try un-buttoning her pants. she's gonna know what you want if you're trying to strip her so she's either going to go with it or not. If she trys to stop you ask "whats wrong" and of coarse you can always use the "but i love you approach"

Getting her naked is not a problem at all. She pretty much always is and that "shiny" remark. I did buy her very expensive jewelry for our 6 months. Ill try to just ask her in the moment or something. I'll let you know how it goes.

I have your same problem, bud, I don't quite get how to initiate. I've had too many chances not taken, but today should prove satisfying.

Don't force it unless your an inconsiderate jackass and you don't care how she feels.

QFT

Which is why I suggested just bringing it up in normal conversation. That way, you know what she wants, and she knows what you want.

I always just stick it in like it just happened and we couldn't control ourselves and then once we've had sex for a bit i'll pause and grab a condom that way there is no awkward point where you are putting on a condom and she gets nervous.

I always just stick it in like it just happened

Sounds like "surprise sex" to me...

I don't like the whole "I have a condom!" or pulling it out and raising an eyebrow style. I think it screams tacky.

I would recommend slowly working yourselves near naked, then go for the foreplay. You're not just going to jump on in there, so work it a bit. You may get to second, third base and then you want to go a bit further. Since you have this "dry" thing, I'd suggest dry humping without any clothes on lol. Sounds wierd, but basically it's rubbing your junk against hers without penetration. Usually the girl will get quite wet and lubricate you as well. It's almost like "semi-wet" humping. From there, it usually ends up in a good place, but you'll feel and know when the time is right, or she might even surprise you!

Good luck bud, happy 6 months!

EDIT: Another thing you might want to try is the whole "I love you, and I'd love my first time to be with the most amazing girl I've ever been with". It seems to work like a charm.

Im basically in the same boat, our six month is today but weve talked about it before, I dont think itll happen tonight because im taking her out all night but itll happen soon. Just play it cool man, itll come along soon enough, I didnt even think my gf WANTED to and like 2 weeks ago she shocked the shit out of me, so dont worry, itll come

Hit her over the head with a rock.