I really hate sex. To the point to where I get nauseous after climax and I feel empty and fucking terrible. This has been going on for about 6 months now and it seems to be getting worse. I'm trying to analyze it and I'm stumped. I wasn't molested as a kid, and I'm not gay; I experimented with that and it was unarousing to say the least. I'm not a pedophile, or attracted to animals or feces or whatever. I'm 19 years old and a healthy male. I'm posting this here for a couple reasons:

1) How common is this problem? Did you have it? Do you still have it? What helped you?
2) Could depression be a factor? I actually heard that meds kill your sex drive and make sex worse. I went to the mental ward last year for "depressive psychosis" which was bullshit and I'm not on meds. I am depressed a lot though, but sex seems to make it worse. Even jerking off. I don't want to see a therapist because I have a fear of being put into the looney bin again.

I think the biggest problem is also the solution. "If you don't like sex, don't have sex." But it's not that simple. I'm a mammal, I get urges. If I don't have sex I walk around horny all the time and that's terrible too.

Oh yeah, I idealize women and can't imagine having sex with them if I'm in love with them, so I never fall in love with women and just have sex with them and treat them like shit. I don't like this either.

I think the biggest problem is also the solution. "If you don't like sex, don't have sex." But it's not that simple. I'm a mammal, I get urges. If I don't have sex I walk around horny all the time and that's terrible too.

I am exactly the same way. At least in this particular paragraph.

It sucks.

I don't really know what else to say. I generally just avoid sex, unless it's being offered right in front of me. But it's just kinda like... Meh.

Oh, and despite the fact that you specifically stated that you are not gay, expect a bunch of posts asking "Are you sure you're not gay!?"

Trust me, I have made threads quite similar to this, and that is usually the end result.

If I were you, buddy, I would take this problem to a therapist/councellor. Even if there are people out there who have experience with this, I would still tell you to see a professional.

I know you're afraid of being chucked in the nut hatch again but I doubt if this problem would put you at risk of that. There are people out there who have far worse things to tell the shrink and are still walking around free! Trust me...I know!

If it's depression that's making you feel this shitty maybe it would be a good idea to think about medication. Speak to the shrink about this.

All I can offer other than that is don't idealise women...They are only human beings like you or I, my friend. Nothing more, nothing less.
With that in mind, try to consciously stop yourself idealising them or treating them badly. Analyse your behaviour or mood and see if you can adapt accordingly.

Hope that helps in some way mate. All the best to ya.

But it's not that simple. I'm a mammal, I get urges. If I don't have sex I walk around horny all the time and that's terrible too.



You and me babe ain't, nothing but mammals, so let's do it like they do on the discovery channel !!!!!!