Can't sum it up any better than that.
And make sure the bitch does not screw the man for every penny will you.
Seen too many guys go broke over greedy wives.

Oh I'm encouraging "the bitch" to take everything and I mean EVERYTHING except maybe his corneas. We figured out that the minimum child support he'll have to pay is $3200 per month and that's just the beginning. She hasn't worked in over a decade, so he'll have to pay her alimony for at least 6 1/2 years. They own a house together which I predict she'll be getting, because she and her 5 kids will need somewhere to live. Also, according to Georgia divorce law, he'll have to give her a lot more because he's committed audultery and he's leaving her.

Oh I'm encouraging "the bitch" to take everything and I mean EVERYTHING except maybe his corneas. We figured out that the minimum child support he'll have to pay is $3200 per month and that's just the beginning. She hasn't worked in over a decade, so he'll have to pay her alimony for at least 6 1/2 years. They own a house together which I predict she'll be getting, because she and her 5 kids will need somewhere to live. Also, according to Georgia divorce law, he'll have to give her a lot more because he's committed audultery and he's leaving her.

Exactly why I plan to NEVER get married. Gene Simmons' lifestyle, FTW!!!:D

I read the title and immediately assumed your marriage fell through. I was disappointed.

However, this is why I shall never make the mistake of getting married. I'll go steady with a chick, have kids, etc, but I will NEVER allow a woman the ability to run off and rob me blind on a whim.

$600 a month per child is about right. Of course, this depends on what sort of money he makes. Along with the house, this is more than enough money.

Taking him for everything will not make her feel any better. It may, in fact, make her feel worse. This is an action that she has to live with and these events will be remembered for the rest of her life, and the lives of her children.

Well...he's got to be some kinds officer or you couldn't even acknowledge that she exists could you? Talk 'bout 1337zors!

I'd guess the old traditon of not showing family flaws, airing the doity laundry...the way people always used to put their crazy relatives in the attic? The never mentioning that someone suicided...

All presenting a Perfect Public Face. People are a little afraid that problems are contaigeous.

How was she with her five kids? Much like a mother cat who's kittens are getting big & toothy? In other words was she much distracted & with the 5 little kids & the 6th big kid? He might be an officer in public...but to her maybe he was just another whiny brat at home.

Oh I'm encouraging "the bitch" to take everything and I mean EVERYTHING except maybe his corneas. We figured out that the minimum child support he'll have to pay is $3200 per month and that's just the beginning. She hasn't worked in over a decade, so he'll have to pay her alimony for at least 6 1/2 years. They own a house together which I predict she'll be getting, because she and her 5 kids will need somewhere to live. Also, according to Georgia divorce law, he'll have to give her a lot more because he's committed audultery and he's leaving her.

Why should she need to take anything? Surely he'll more than generously provide for his kids (sign over the house kinda thing)? Especially as he's the one commiting adultery.

Or is there something you're not telling us ..like the kids aren't all his?...?

Oh I'm encouraging "the bitch" to take everything and I mean EVERYTHING except maybe his corneas. We figured out that the minimum child support he'll have to pay is $3200 per month and that's just the beginning. She hasn't worked in over a decade, so he'll have to pay her alimony for at least 6 1/2 years. They own a house together which I predict she'll be getting, because she and her 5 kids will need somewhere to live. Also, according to Georgia divorce law, he'll have to give her a lot more because he's committed audultery and he's leaving her.

Jesus fucking christ, what the hell is the matter with you? She hasn't bothered to work in over a decade, and therefore she deserves to be set for life while he files bankruptcy WHY?

Jesus fucking christ, what the hell is the matter with you? She hasn't bothered to work in over a decade, and therefore she deserves to be set for life while he files bankruptcy WHY?

Perhaps the woman is like Xiao Mei and her husband simply hasnt wanted her to work?



Anyway. If it was the woman leaving the man with all those kids, I'd expect the woman to pay that much child support, and hand over the house.

In this situation though, it's the man dumping the kids on the woman.


It may not seem fair to some, but if the guy didnt want to end up paying child support in the future, he should have slapped on a condom before bringing more kids into the world.

I'm pretty dissapointed with the both of them, having that many kids in an unstable relationship. But.. maybe they were happy together up untill recently, but I doubt it.

Why should she need to take anything? Surely he'll more than generously provide for his kids (sign over the house kinda thing)? Especially as he's the one commiting adultery.

Or is there something you're not telling us ..like the kids aren't all his?...?
You're old enough to know that A LOT of guys try to screw ex wives and children out of money once they've moved on to family #2. I don't know if this guy is one of them, but his wife needs to be prepared and to protect herself and her kids. I've known at least 2 couples where the husband fought tooth and nail to keep the wife from getting her due. Luckily, the courts almost always side with the woman in these instances.

Jesus fucking christ, what the hell is the matter with you? She hasn't bothered to work in over a decade, and therefore she deserves to be set for life while he files bankruptcy WHY?

A lot of husbands (mine included) make enough money so that their wives are stay ay home moms. And with 5 kids...How in the hell is she going to work outside the home anyway?? He SHOULD take care of her...She's taken care of him for 13 years! And as I've said on here before...Just because a woman doesn't get PAID to be a stay at home mom, it doesn't mean it's not "work" that she's doing. Especially with FIVE kids. And 6 1/2 years alimony is hardly being "set for life."

How old are the children involved?

11,9,6,3,18 months

Her 11 year old is a big help to her, so that's good. The kids are taking their dad leaving pretty hard...Especially the 6 and 9 year olds. I guess they were the closest to him or something.

You could suggest not badmouthing him infront of the children.

Let them have their own relationship with their father. It doesn't have to be influenced by an unpleasent divorce. Even if he's a scumbag of an ex-husband, it doesn't mean that he'll be a bad father.

My mom cheated on my dad but he didn't find out until after social services broke up our family.

Point is, it could be worse...

Very glad I dont have kids.

I came in this thread expecting to say, "That's what you get for no anal."

Now I feel ashamed. :(

Am I the only guy (I know there's no women) in this thread that is completely disgusted with how the divorce system is geared 100% in favor of the woman? I know MULTIPLE guys who have had their kids taken away and been screwed out of every dime they have just because some vindictive bitch had a grudge against him. It positively sickens me, watching all you women egging each other to "go for the blood" in a divorce. Just when I thought my opinion of the female species couldn't get any lower...

Just when I thought my opinion of the female species couldn't get any lower...

Dont worry, they feel the same about you.



And it's a tad judgemental to assume that all women are like that.



But yes, if I was in a fucked up situation where I'd had kids with someone who'd promised to rear them with me, and then that person decided to screw someone else and foist the kids off on me, I'd damn well take his balls as well as his house and car.


It's true though, it should work that way for men as well. It's unjust that it doesent.

When my parents broke up, my mum and I got nothing.
She was the one who had to feed me, buy my clothes, pay for my books and such, she was the one who did all the work, but my 'dad' gave us nothing.

Some might say that's damn right, why should he?

Why should he?

Because when two people decide to have a kid, the responsibility doesent just disapear when you want it to.

If you still see the kid, and still act like a parent, then you should fucking care about their wellbeing.


Childwellfare is meant to be for the children and their benefit, not for the parent to go shoe shopping with.
I know that's abused horribly at times, and that's what needs to change.


The parent who takes responsibility of the children should be the parent to get assistance, be it the mother or the father.

If the father takes the children then the mother should still pay maintenance. And vice versa. This isnt money grabbing, this is continuing to look after the fucking resonsibility you chose to take on when you decided to take that condom off.

Most men who get "screwed" in divorce are actually just being forced to pay what they should've paid WILLINGLY in the first place. This has been my experience, anyway.

...he should have slapped on a condom before bringing more kids into the world...

Actually in todays society that does not matter. If you are named the father, you are pretty much screwed from there on out. Not that such situations are relevent here, but while wearing a condom may prevent parenthood, it cannot prevent child support.

...needs to be prepared and to protect herself and her kids...

The best way to have done that would have been to work her way up in the workforce for the last decade, so as not to rely entirly on someone who could leave at any moment.

Ya, sure here husband will be stuck with her bill for the next 6 years as you said, but what the hell sort of job is she suitable for? Do any of them pay enough to support 5 children? No!

You don't start protecting yourself and your children after you are divorced, you need to be self reliant, and not earn your living sucking giant dicks and avoiding anal. I guess she didn't even do that to well, so prostitute is out of the question.

Most men who get "screwed" in divorce are actually just being forced to pay what they should've paid WILLINGLY in the first place. This has been my experience, anyway.

Yeah, he should have WILLINGLY handed over the house, car, and all the money he spent the last god knows how many years obtaining while the wife drove the kids to and from school, cleaned the house, and watched soap operas. Really fair.

Simply, be a friend.

Best advice ever.

My advice would be:

Find a good attorney, but not the "go for blood" type. One that is fair and reasonable.

Always keep the children in mind. If he is a good daddy then never behave as if he's a piece of shit regardless of how she might have been hurt.

Keep the lines of communication with him open. She's going to be living with this situation for a lot of years and if she can avoid creating an enemy out of him then it will go a lot smoother in the future when it comes to the needs for their children. (Also, look into shared parenting if he's a good daddy.)

The alimony needs to be used to get an education so she can learn to support herself without it. Nothing more, I'm pretty certain that is what it is for.

And Xiao, you don't know all the details. Stay as neutral and supportive as possible.

If I can think of anything else, I'll update here.

This gets my seal of approval! I don't think I would marry a lassie in this day in age without a prenuptial agreement! I would have no problem with contributing towards the children’s needs and maybe hers with justification but seriously, the courts can go completely over board!

Actually in todays society that does not matter. If you are named the father, you are pretty much screwed from there on out. Not that such situations are relevent here, but while wearing a condom may prevent parenthood, it cannot prevent child support.



The best way to have done that would have been to work her way up in the workforce for the last decade, so as not to rely entirly on someone who could leave at any moment.

Ya, sure here husband will be stuck with her bill for the next 6 years as you said, but what the hell sort of job is she suitable for? Do any of them pay enough to support 5 children? No!

You don't start protecting yourself and your children after you are divorced, you need to be self reliant, and not earn your living sucking giant dicks and avoiding anal. I guess she didn't even do that to well, so prostitute is out of the question.
Actually, the lady I made the thread about has a degree in elementary education, so she can be a teacher if she wants. And her husband will be paying child support for a lot longer than 6 years. 6 1/2 years is how long she'll get alimony.

I mean most homemakers don't have to worry about getting dumped like she is. She just happened to marry an exceptionally big asshole. In my experience, most married couples will make an effort to work things out...Especially when there are kids involved.

Actually, the lady I made the thread about has a degree in elementary education, so she can be a teacher if she wants. And her husband will be paying child support for a lot longer than 6 years. 6 1/2 years is how long she'll get alimony.

I mean most homemakers don't have to worry about getting dumped like she is. She just happened to marry an exceptionally big asshole. In my experience, most married couples will make an effort to work things out...Especially when there are kids involved.

Ok, so she does have a fall back. Sure she'll get child support until the kids are 18, but i can guarentee she'll still need to get a decent job.

And actually all homemakers should be prepared to wake up alone one morning. Maybe you don't think your husband will leave, but he could. What would happen if he was hit by a bus, or slipped on the stairs? Shit he could even be fired and you'd be screwed until atleast one of you got a job.

I really have no say in any other situation, but i really see no reason for a mother to stay home full time after the kids are in school.

I don't know about most women, but if my husband died I would get $400,000 in life insurance and then $4,500 per month with regular increases (for inflation) and I would continue to get medical coverage for the rest of my life. My daughter would also get medical coverage until she was 23 and SS payments until she was 18.

And he's in the military, so he won't be fired.:P

And you don't go into a marraige assuming you'll get divorced,

And you don't go into a marraige assuming you'll get divorced,

Unless you have a shred of common sense.

Simply, be a friend.

try and help her focus on moving on, and being able to get over it, and that life will continue, and everything will be ok.

Double the Christmas presents!!!

Yes, I don't have anything meaningful to add to this conversation, I gave up on marriage a long time ago, now I'm just laughing at all you suckers.

Why the fuck did they have five kids?

Goddamn catholics!

Goddamn catholics!

uhm since when do catholics divorce?!

uhm since when do catholics divorce?!

Since the Italians and Irish adopted Catholicism?

uhm since when do catholics divorce?!

Since hypocrasy became an important part of religion.

Since hypocrasy became an important part of religion.

Which was about the same time as Jesus' body hit room temperature.