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Old 2007-07-17, 10:22
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Ok. So a friend's with benefits has all of her stuff here, has completely and methodically faked a pregnancy so I would talk to her, has had me thrown in jail, and has completely taken over my life. If I make her leave(I live with relatives) she will call, harass, stalk, and spy consistantly until I either go insane and hurt her badly or let her back in the door.

She has physically assaulted two of my platonic female friends(thought both of them screwed me) and hates my best friend of 12 years. She has 'ways' of finding stuff out about me that NO ONE knows. She has caught me in my most discreet meetings with friends and is so knowledgable about me it's scary at times.

I have no other choice but to move to the next state(where I have friends/family) and pack up one morning while she's sleeping and jet. It sucks because I can't get a house in my name(she will pay a Private Investigator, trust me)and no one can know my home number or where I live(she will con and lie to my relatives "I'm havin a baby" etc.. to extract info from them, it's been successful before)

When I make her leave she will call when I'm good and drunk and say "I want to have sex, can I come over?" and she ends up staying like she never left.

I realise this seems like a cold and calculated way of breaking things off with someone with whom you've shared feelings and your body with but it's the only way to rid myself of her. If you see any of the stated signs of psycho obsession in your partner, please haul ass out of the relationship. That is all.
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Old 2007-07-17, 10:25
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Is a restraining order not possible in your case?
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Old 2007-07-17, 10:29
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What a fucking psycho.

Deffinately, going to the police is very important.
You DO NOT have to put up with this shit.
And you certainly dont have to move out of your home because of this bitch.

Tell her too go out and get you some chocolate or something, pitch all her shit out onto the street, and call the fucking police.


She sounds, utterly, completely mad.

Attacking people, forcing herself on a guy who clearly doesent like her, inviting herself into someone elses house to live..
Those things arent normal, and you shouldnt tolerate them.
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Old 2007-07-17, 10:33
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GO

Or in the soft and gentle words of t3h Yoyobek "Run away! RUN AWAY NOW! Spraying an uzi in your fleeing path".

Use some common sense, like only communicating with your family and friends via email or IM (no telephone number that can be traced) , use a different surname in your daily life etc etc.

You could also apply to one of the many charities/agencies for 'battered husbands'' (they cover this kind of abusive relationship too) and they will tell you how to succesfully apply for restraining orders etc etc.
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Old 2007-07-17, 10:41
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I like yoyobeks advice better. You shouldn't have to use a different surname in daily life just because of some psycho.

I suppose you could also get her state of mind assessed by some professionals if worst comes to worst, and you need proof from the police. Although I don't know how you'd get her there
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Old 2007-07-17, 14:48
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Dude is by chance her name Melissa? Cuz that sounds a lot like my X. Just tell her she's dead to you and if she keeps coming around you're gonna shave off all her hair and beat her with a baseball bat. Then if she gets some guys to come kick your ass explain to them that she's a crazy bitch so they should go tagteam her in the woods and tie her to a stump afterwords.
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Old 2007-07-18, 18:35
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Dude is by chance her name Melissa? Cuz that sounds a lot like my X. Just tell her she's dead to you and if she keeps coming around you're gonna shave off all her hair and beat her with a baseball bat. Then if she gets some guys to come kick your ass explain to them that she's a crazy bitch so they should go tagteam her in the woods and tie her to a stump afterwords.


there's not much to do out there in halifax, is there?....
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Old 2007-07-18, 20:17
getoffmylawn getoffmylawn is offline
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there's not much to do out there in halifax, is there?....

Well there's definately nothing productive or good for society to do in Halifax. Definately nothing the least bit moral to do either. The white stripes played here in a 400-500 person venue a couple days ago and that was kinda big. My friend saw Jack White walkin down the street and was like "whats up Jack White?" and he nodded. Motherfuckers like 6 foot 7 or something.

WTF can you do in central Ontario except make fun of Scarborough and Timmons?
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Old 2007-07-18, 21:23
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i like the idea of getting a restraining order against her. You should definitely go with that option, OP. This way you get rid of her and you don't have to move far away.
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Old 2007-07-18, 23:39
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Well there's definately nothing productive or good for society to do in Halifax. Definately nothing the least bit moral to do either. The white stripes played here in a 400-500 person venue a couple days ago and that was kinda big. My friend saw Jack White walkin down the street and was like "whats up Jack White?" and he nodded. Motherfuckers like 6 foot 7 or something.

WTF can you do in central Ontario except make fun of Scarborough and Timmons?

lol, totally hijacking the thread but it's all good.
My girlfriend actually lives in Scarborough so I keep my jokes on the inside, at least most of them haha. Never really knew much about Timmons...
I'm more in the Newmarket area right now, but I go to school in Waterloo if you're familiar with the university. I've always wanted to come out east, if not for the scenery, then to get mighty drunk with the newfies!
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Old 2007-07-19, 02:42
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Murder...

Its the only way.
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Old 2007-07-19, 03:55
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Restraining order, but watch your back, she might send someone to break your legs.
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Old 2007-07-19, 09:01
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Murder...

Its the only way.

Not a half bad idea right now. As someone else said, it IS likely if I'm located she will send her new victim of lies "he raped me etc.." after me. I would really hate to hurt someone who is a victim himself, but if someone comes after me I'll be armed to the teeth waiting for them.

The crazy bitch is sleeping in my bed as we speak, just today she puckered her disgusting, repulsve lips for a kiss. I kissed her quickly as possible, and seriously felt ill immediately. If I hadn't kissed her a two hour fight would begin and I just didn't have the willpower for it.

It's funny how she was a very pretty girl when we met, now I think I'd rather chew off my fingertips then she her sickening face again.
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Old 2007-07-19, 13:35
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You're in one FUCKED UP situation dude (im sure you didn't already know that.

But answer this: why the hell should you have to pack up your life and leave to another state because shes the psycho? Do anything and everything it takes to keep her away from you. Call the cops, get a restraining order. She'll obviously break that restraining order so make sure when she does it is on tape with you calmly asking her to leave and her flipping out. She'll be in jail soon enough.

Either that or just kill the bitch.
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Old 2007-07-19, 13:55
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Some comments and suggestions based on what you wrote:

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She has physically assaulted two of my platonic female friends(thought both of them screwed me) and hates my best friend of 12 years.
I hope that they've actually filed reports with the police. That's a fine place to start your own restraining order from. It might also help if you get both of them to do the same. Strengthening your case if she ever pulls some bullshit with the cops and gets you arrested again.

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She has 'ways' of finding stuff out about me that NO ONE knows. She has caught me in my most discreet meetings with friends and is so knowledgable about me it's scary at times.
Change your passwords and locks, on everything. If she knows shit about your internet friends, make sure that you tell them someone might try to impersonate you (after you change your passwords). Get friendly with your neighbors if you arne't already and tell them that she's not to be in your house, and if they see her trying to get in, call the cops.

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I have no other choice but to move to the next state(where I have friends/family) and pack up one morning while she's sleeping and jet. It sucks because I can't get a house in my name(she will pay a Private Investigator, trust me)
Fuck that. Time to make a giant sized surgical cut in your life in the shape of this female.

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and no one can know my home number or where I live(she will con and lie to my relatives "I'm havin a baby" etc.. to extract info from them, it's been successful before)
Now would be a good time (and excuse) to go around renewing your relationship with all of your relatives and any friends she happens to know. Spend some time chatting with them, or if you're not into the smalltalk, get down to business and tell them what you told us. Point out that you're cutting her out of your life would appreciate it if they stonewall her on any information. Also point out that she's pulled shit like the "baby" scam to get information before.

This will be useful if you actually decide to leave, but I think you'll find it equally useful for cutting off the bitch's flow of information, and cutting her out of your family and friends completely. They just need to know the 411 on what's going on. If they have any respect for you, they can shut her out easily enough.

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When I make her leave she will call when I'm good and drunk and say "I want to have sex, can I come over?" and she ends up staying like she never left.
Get your number changed, make sure it's unlisted. Blocking her calls might be difficult given her persistence. Lay off the booze until you get your restraining order.

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I realise this seems like a cold and calculated way of breaking things off with someone with whom you've shared feelings and your body with but it's the only way to rid myself of her. If you see any of the stated signs of psycho obsession in your partner, please haul ass out of the relationship. That is all.
Sometimes life requires cold and calculating. Sounds to me like one of those times. Don't beat yourself up over it.
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Old 2007-07-19, 15:26
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Tell her to leave and if she doesn't, just dump her stuff in the street.

If she stalks you, get a restraining order.
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Old 2007-07-19, 23:00
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i agree with pretty much all the opionions. im in a weird relationship and im going to break it off soon. hes getting really clingy and jealous, and he seems like he might get abusive to himself or me. so im just gonna cut off all contact with him, its the only option i have left now.

just do that. restraining order is your best option right now. tell her to go to the store, throw her shit out, and get the order filled. just like the other guy said. be safe though, if she tried to attack you fucking kill that bitch. self defense against a mentally insane woman, always works. GL
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Old 2007-07-20, 01:11
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Or in the soft and gentle words of t3h Yoyobek "Run away! RUN AWAY NOW! Spraying an uzi in your fleeing path".
Psh, who needs to run away when you have a fucking UZI?

OP, where are you located?
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Old 2007-07-20, 02:23
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yeah dude, the best thing you can do is to try and pretty much counter everything you think she might do. Warn you're friends and family of any possible contact from this woman and what she might say, change the locks when she leaves and get a restraining order. Also getting some of her behavior on tape would work well. obviously alot of this wouldn't keep her away and there's always the chance of her sending people after you or coming after you herself, which means not going around alone for awhile. Get some friends to walk or drive with you to work for awhile, maybe have some buddies hang around your place more. Unfortunatly there doesn't seem to be any easy solution to your problem so the best of luck to you.
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Old 2007-07-20, 16:00
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Psh, who needs to run away when you have a fucking UZI?

OP, where are you located?
Very bottom of Ohio. Just 20 or so miles from the WV border.
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Old 2007-07-20, 16:08
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50 Ways To Leave Your Lover

The problem is all inside your head
She said to me
The answer is easy if you
Take it logically
I’d like to help you in your struggle
To be free
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover

She said it’s really not my habit
To intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning
Won’t be lost or misconstrued
But I’ll repeat myself
At the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover


You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

She said it grieves me so
To see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do
To make you smile again
I said I appreciate that
And would you please explain
About the fifty ways

She said why don’t we both
Just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning
You’ll begin to see the light
And then she kissed me
And I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
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Old 2007-07-20, 17:06
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Man up, kick her the fuck out, get a restraining order and tell her if she comes back you'll call the police. Warn your relatives/anyone else you need to about her and tell them not to listen to a word she says. As stated before, she should not be able to do this to you.
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Old 2007-07-20, 21:23
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lol, totally hijacking the thread but it's all good.
My girlfriend actually lives in Scarborough so I keep my jokes on the inside, at least most of them haha. Never really knew much about Timmons...
I'm more in the Newmarket area right now, but I go to school in Waterloo if you're familiar with the university. I've always wanted to come out east, if not for the scenery, then to get mighty drunk with the newfies!

My dad was born in Timmons. He has never had sex with Shania Twain who's from there much to both of our dissapointments. My cousin went/goes to Waterloo I dunno don't really talk to him.


Newfoundland kinda blows cept for George street where its interesting. Weed's ridiculously expensive too and everybody's on Pogey (EI). Come to Halifax instead and get drunk at the liquor dome and get swarmed by a random gang of youths. It's how we do out here...
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Old 2007-07-20, 22:35
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What if she has an account on totse , and is reading this thread.. If not already replied to it posing as someone else...

What if im her.. ?

LMAO im sorry i had to say that.
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Old 2007-07-21, 01:22
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Wow man I feel really bad for you, your chick is totally off her fucking rocker and you MUST put your foot down and throw her crazy ass out. There is absolutely no reason why you should have to MOVE to get away from some crazy bitch. Smother her in her sleep.....
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Old 2007-07-21, 02:58
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She probably knows about this thread. Slap her in the fucking face and tell her to lighten up and get the fuck out of your life.
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Old 2007-07-21, 08:05
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explain to them that she's a crazy bitch so they should go tagteam her in the woods and tie her to a stump afterwords.

Not if her name is Wanda! That happened to an exe of mine; she decided it meant the guy totally loved her!
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Old 2007-07-21, 08:38
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Why did you post a thread about if she knows everything about you? Would'nt she just read this thread?
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Old 2007-07-21, 13:40
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To The OP:

If talking to this girl doesn't work - call the police.
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