Ok so I've been seeing this guy for a bit... I wouldn't exactly call him my boyfriend, things have been fairly casual.

Lately though, our situation has kind of escalated and we've been spending more time together... I know he wants to have sex, as he's been very vocal about it, and I've expressed the same feelings but there are a few things.

Although he's completely adament that he's not sleeping with other girls, I'm almost certain he is. He's constantly receiving phone calls from other girls when we're hanging out, answering text messages from them, and usually the same girls will call/text through-out the night which is causing me to think they're a little more than just friends.

Now, because he's not my boyfriend and we're not exactly 'together' in every sense of the word, this doesn't bother me. However if he wants me to have sex with him it's going to have to stop. Casual sex has never really been my thing, and especially because we're still getting the feel of each other I don't think it would be wise to go right ahead with it. Another thing that's lead me to this is that he absolutely refuses to wear a condom... He's put it out there many times that if I want him to wear a condom, there'll have to be a long drawn out argument and a whole lot of negotiating before he'll even consider it. This kind of sends a signal that if he's refusing to wear a condom with me, he probably has with many other girls as well. It's kind of sickening to me that he doesn't give a shit; I could be riddled with AIDS and Herpes and everything else [ I'm not but that's besdies the point] and he's okay with fucking me without a condom. The fact that he's so aggressive about it is a huge turn-off for me as well, and even though I really like him a lot and want to sleep with him, at the same time I don't because of everything I just mentioned, which is making me feel like I'm sending him some mixed signals. That's not my intention, I'm just really confused about it all.

Basically, I just want to know if what I'm doing is wrong... I really adore him actually, we get along sooo well but the whole subject of sleeping together is really touchy.

Sorry if that whole thing seemed really jumbled, if you need any explaining I could do it...

He seems like a dickhead seriously. He's straight up using you and isn't doing a good job at it. Sounds pretty dumb too.

That basically summed it up.

There's nothing wrong with txting other girls, Ive done it before. Just look through his messages when hes not looking to make sure.
But true, he does sound like a dick if he wont use a condom but I cant judge him ive never met him, maybe you should take the pill if you care for him that much? :P

if hes so great you could talk to him about this and hed respond with honest, thoughtful and kind statements. if you cant then maybe you need to do some self reflection on the piss poor standards you keep for your puss.

I think you should probably stay away from him.

Do not DO NOT have sex with this guy. The last thing you need is to get FURTHER involved with him. If I were you I would break things off with him...Or at least NEVER have any kind of sex with him without using protection.

just give it up then. Who gives a fuck really? I mean COME ON NOW PEOPLE IT'S JUST THE PROCREATION OF THE SPECIES!

Ye but the pill does not stop sti's.

If he wants to negotiate, then go with him to get him tested.

He sounds like he's having fun with you and wants to add sex to the mix, rather than a relationship.

However, that's just from what you've posted.

Yeah, agreeing with everyone else you are getting played. I bet if you were to fuck him the shit would fall apart if you wanted something more after that. Refuses to wear a condom? Red flag. Constantly texting other girls when he is with you? Red flag. You still liking him after all that bullshit and still wanting to fuck him? Red flag.

Dump his ass, and check yourself in to the center for dumb bitches.

He sounds like a fucking dickhead to me. But why dont you go ahead and be a Slut, you know you want to!!!!!!