Yeah so I've always had this problem. I know I'm not the only one here with this damned problem as you always see people getting the wrong idea from the innocent actions of others in posts here.

Anyhow is there anyway of fixing this? I mean I will start liking someone only to realise they aren't interested, sometimes it's something I've just gone for in any case - other times its after being lead to believethey were interested. Gah that is what sucks too is it me, are they a tease, was their an interest there that went away over time? It could be any of those :(


ALSO

There is a girl here I'm falling for, she's just really what I look for...and suprise suprise I can't tell how she sees me. She's the best friend of a girl I'm friends with. I could use that to my advantage but don't want to. She has at least one guy chasing her (besides me :p although I'm not exactly pursuing her per say...just seeing her regularly and having good times that we both like) and he is acting all emo-like I believe in attempts to impress her. I hope it's not working, I hope she can see through it and I hope she doesn't get flattered he does that for her.

Emo? Nah I don't think she is. Looks the part but appreciates things too much to be one and doesn't tie herself down to the music.

I dunno what I'm asking. I just want to know how she feels about me at this stage and whether or not I'm the sort of person she'd go for.

If you need extra info I'll give it where I can.

If you need extra info I'll give it where I can.

Uhm.. pics?

I dunno what I'm asking. I just want to know how she feels about me at this stage and whether or not I'm the sort of person she'd go for.



Well you havent told us anything about her or yourself???

Firstly no pics of her. I won't give them, I don't have her permission and I'm not asking for it.

Pics of me? I'm sure you can find at lest one somewhere

Well you havent told us anything about her or yourself???

I dunno what to say.

I can add a few things about her - Shes about a year younger then me (20) she lives for music, she looks emo but I don't consider her to be that, she likes having fun with friends, likes to drink, is saving up to have a trip overseas (UK I believe) uhhh dunno what else to say.

Mostly, when it comes to teenage girls, they are either self-obsessed emo types or fairly down to earth girly girl types.

Emo types: Act interested in what they're saying, speak like you really understand her etcetera

Girly Girls: Become an alpha-male that it dominant and powerful etcetera


With how she sees you:

A girl who is shy may blush when she likes someone, or she may push them away.

A girl who is confident and much more tuned in will probably manipulate you, and give off signals like fiddling with the hair, accidental or friendly touching, flirtatious smiling etcetera....

There are exceptions to these categorizations, but most girls tend to fit in with these.

But to be honest, you're not getting anywhere by asking for advice on the internet, if she likes you, you're not getting anywhere by contemplating about it on the internet.

But to be honest, you're not getting anywhere by asking for advice on the internet, if she likes you, you're not getting anywhere by contemplating about it on the internet.

I can't see her now so I'm just thinking about her is all. She's not a teenager either, well not far from it but whatever.

I'm shy and quiet myself and she doesn't seem to mind. I guess she realises that I don't need to be talking shit to her just for the sake of making noise.

She's usually the first to say hello to me when out and the last to say goodbye. She also seems to have a habit of buying a heavily alcohol-nated drink just before kick out time and passing it to me "help me finish this with us taking hits of it after one another tell its gone and so are we :p (gone...that is if you didn't get that lol)

I dunno I could love her, I want to know how she sees me, on one hand I want to tell her how I feel on the other I want to show her. On my third imaginary hand I want to do these things but not if it's a waste of time and has her knowing for sure I like her when she doesn't feel the same and things get 'strange'. Not for me really but possibly for her.

If you're asking for our personal opinions on the matter, I can only offer these few pieces of advice.

First, stop concentrating on this personality bullshit, I've seen every personality hook up with every other kind of personality. Some are easier, some are harder, but they do not define what is possible.

Second, let her subtly know you're interested. This is key seeing as you can usually begin to tell by how they act. Do you use an instant messenger? Casually ask if she does one day. Just be like "hey do you have (insert program name here)? you do? sweet, what's your e-mail?". If you're relaxed and un-ackward about things, it all becomes SO much easier. Once you talk to her regularly, flirt casually (but not hardcore) and let her know what an interesting guy you are.

I find that I lay down the absolute best groundwork by talking to them on a decently regular basis and then once we hang out, I really show them I can have a great time, I'm a fun guy, and I'm interesting as well. You don't even have to be interesting, just make up some white lies that she'll never see through. If you have fun without any help, you'll notice she'll become relaxed and have fun as well. I also find that if you keep the level of sexual tension relatively high, you'll let her know that you are not her "good ol friend buddy" but a guy that is interested in more than friendship.

There's so much more to add, but it's hard to fit it all in one post, I think that's a pretty good start though.

I thought that was pretty solid advice. I think already do a lot of those things subconsciously, I just didn't realise until you pointed them out.

Welcome to being a member of the male species, son.

some got game some don't.

There's a book called "The game" that I've never read for those who don't. Be straightforeward and assertive if you wanna know if she digs you. Fuck girls that even look the least bit emo. They're dumb and clueless and 99% of the time not attractive. I'd rather fuck some gangster lookin bitch whos at least attractive, has no insecurities and knows how to fuck. Gotta have some money though...


Anyways, the girl likes to get you drunk so she probably digs you a bit. Next time she passes a bottle to you or asks for the bottle say you've got something sweeter for her to taste. Then either whip it out or kiss her. Then be like nuff fuckin around lets just do the damn thing.

Next time she passes a bottle to you or asks for the bottle say you've got something sweeter for her to taste. Then either whip it out

That's the funniest thing I've ever read bwahaha

Oh and yeah I'll probably do that but with a kiss instead. I can play it off as being uncontrollably drunk :p I just hope she's not one of those "no affection in public" types and considering she is slightly emo chances of that being the case are probably higher. :( damn

As for her being confident and all that shit why would I care that shes not that? I'm not that.

Oh and she's not dumb, I don't go for dumb girls she's pretty damn smart.

Hijack one of her friends' email accounts using a phishing website or a password-revealing scam email. Idealyl during holidays. Then you discuss boys with her from the friend's account, and ask her about you. And the other guy. And what she looks for etc.

This is most likely gonna fail. And if it fails, the OP looses all the chances he had. I'd say it's not worth it. But do it just for the fun of it :)

i never have any idea when girls like me either

I was always too nice, as i assume most people with this problem are. Then I tried something different for a while, and it seemed to have a pretty good effect. Quit giving a shit altogether. With any other attitude you come across desperate and this will kill any romantic interest a female has in you instantly. If you can get one chick interested in you, DO NOT BITE INSTANTLY. Resist the urge to fall into some sort of puppylove, or to bang the first woman who'll give it up. Keep telling her she's awesome but you have no interest in a relationship (this is of course if she isn't some sort of knockout).

basically, girls are scheming talkative beings, and if you can get one hungry for your shit without succumbing to the urge to hop all over it, she'll talk you up to every other set of tits she knows for as long as you keep things good. It's almost like a snowball effect. Put the the " I don't have a girlfriend and I don't need/want one" attitude out there and they will start coming for you after a while.

I'd recommend "making friends" with a handful of girls if you can. That's a solid way to get yourself hooked up with other "friends" who will take a positive vibe towards you simply from their girlfriend's praise. After a long bout of friendship with a chick, establishing the friend zone, and telling her on end that you don't need a chick, she'll be trying to set you up left right and center.

Really I don't find it matters how girls see you, as long as they aren't seeing desperate and anxious.

Fucking hit on the bitch. If she isn't feeling it, should be pretty clear. Then find a new bitch, hit on her. Repeat this cycle until all your misconceptions about relationships are solved.