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Sex and Affection Anything and everything about sex and relations. Please try to keep this forum on-topic, since things tend to wander a bit. Search through old topics before posting a new one, as questions get repeated a lot here.

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Old 2007-07-13, 23:45
Beaver186 Beaver186 is offline
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Default Confused about a girl...

Okay, so there's this girl I like quite a bit, she's really (really) hot, and one of my friends at school so we get on really well. She's got a boyfriend, so ordinarily I'd just assume that there really wasn't a chance for me but the thing is that she keeps asking me out to the movies, or lunch, or whatever, just the two of us. Which wouldn't really be THAT weird, but she like, I don't know, flirts with me or something... like, throws popcorn at me and giggles in the movie, and like play-fights with me (biting included).
I just don't know whether she actually likes me, or just as a friend. Currently I'm thinking more the second one considering she already has a boyfriend. I mean, girls don't usually want to go out with another guy if they're already going out with someone, right? Any advice would be helpful, I really like her...
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Old 2007-07-13, 23:53
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Default Re: Confused about a girl...

From Badboy, a PUA, but not a sissy one.

Not every girl will tell you this, but it will happen once in a while if you go out a lot and talk to a lot of girls. A lot of guys get thrown off when a girl tells them this, but from my experience, it really doesn’t matter.

The most important thing is to not get afraid or think you don’t have any chances with her just because she mentions this.

A BIG percentage of hot girls have boyfriends or at least someone they can call that if they feel like it. Even if their relationship sucks (no sex, guy is a loser) she will still have him on the side for safety until she finds a better replacement. I know a really hot girl who’s boyfriend doesn’t go out of the house and their relationship totally sucks. She is out all the time searching for a replacement, but she is not going to dump him until she finds a new guy. That’s because girls hate to be alone. They usually jump from relationship to relationship, from guy to guy, similar to the way a virus jumps to a new body, eats out all the resources, and then jumps on to the next victim.

So the best advice is when she tells you that she has a boyfriend, just ignore it… DON’T talk about it. Changing topics casually and ignoring it is the best possible strategy. Then continue to game normally. In most cases they tell you so you are aware of it and are guilty as well if she cheats on him and to make sure you are okay with that.

Also if you have a girl who is in a real relationship and isn’t willing to cheat (right now), don’t just throw her out of your life. Keep her as a ‘”friend”. Not so close so that you become a full-time friend, but just so that she stays in your life, send text messages and talk from time to time…

Why do this? It’s a long term plan. It doesn’t cost you anything to stay in touch with her, and you will benefit down the road.

What usually happens is, a girl gets in a relationship with a guy and she is happy. Instantly, all guys who were into her disappear. Then six months later, she will break up with the boyfriend and she will search from scratch for a guy to get laid. If you are still in her life, she will call you first.

A little advice on this:

* Don’t be too close with her. See her once a month and send messages every week or so. Invite her out with your friend or even other girls you are dating to be more efficient with your time and create a little jealousy.
* Don’t hit on or try to do anything sexual when she is with him.
* Just be a really cool guy she knows.

Right now, I have 5-6 girls who are in relationships and I am still somewhere in their life. I know sooner or later, they will call again and then it will be really easy to escalate things.

This is obviously not the only game plan you should focus on. The bulk of your time should be spent getting girls who are ready and willing to sleep with you now, but think of this like a bonus level where every so and then you get a bonus lay, and it doesn’t cost you anything except a very small investment of time.

I use it. Haven't hooked up much, they're mostly still with their boyfriends, but it saves me trouble, and it does work (1/1 for now). I don't want to rush into shit while they have boyfriends. That's for random hookups only.
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Old 2007-07-14, 02:07
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Default Re: Confused about a girl...

And if that's how it is with this girl, why get with her anyways?

If it's just a fuck then cool...But anything more and I would be suspicious of her from the word go. She'll use you then find a new male "friend" to flirt with until she dumps your arse and gets with him.

Tread carefully, mate.
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Old 2007-07-14, 02:14
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Default Re: Confused about a girl...

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Originally Posted by psycho_8b
And if that's how it is with this girl, why get with her anyways?

If it's just a fuck then cool...But anything more and I would be suspicious of her from the word go. She'll use you then find a new male "friend" to flirt with until she dumps your arse and gets with him.

Tread carefully, mate.


That "waiting" advice from Badboy is for girlfriends. If you want to fuck, while it probably is hard on sober chicks with boyfriends (it's easy spur of the moment, premeditating is the hard part), it really shouldn't be too hard to get her hammered, take advantage of her, have your satisfaction knowing you plowed her, and leave the situation as is.

If her boyfriend is a jerkoff, feel free to take pictures and send them to him. You needn't show your face if you aren't too ballsy, just her face wrapped around your cock.
 
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