Brief run down:

Been single for a month now...I hated the idea at first because I couldn't bear the thought of being without my ex. Felt stupid for feeling like I needed somebody in my life but there ya go.
After the first week, I got used to the idea and decided it was time to move on with things. Get an apprenticeship, go out and meet women etc.

So far getting an apprenticeship is harder than I thought but hey...Something will come along.

As for women...Well...Has that much changed in two years?!

I have two women to speak of...
One is a hot chick from a pub I usually go to. Only thing is she's related to a family who doesn't have the greatest reputation in the world and who don't really have fond memories of me. Long story.
Not amazingly bright, a little too clingy...So she's not really on the menu for me.

The next is a girl who lives not far from me and works at a bar just up the road to where I work.
We've seen and spoke to each other at work (hers and mine), spoken for ages on the phone, sent text messages back and forth for a while, went out for a drink together etc.
She's pretty, got a fun personality, I enjoy talking to her...But she has this idea that I'm only trying to get her into bed even though I've said over and again that I do like her but don't want to rush into things after being in a long relationship. She doesn't seem to want a relationship either but I'm getting mixed messages.
Now, one day she's into me...Texting nice little things to me and just generally being cool. The next day it's like I don't exist.
I gotta say this is most confusing.

Now while this is all going on, I'm trying to meet some other women...Play the field a bit before this relationship shit rears its ugly head again!
This time two years ago I had plenty of women hanging about. And it was fun. Then I met her and that was that.

I thought after all that I'd be able to go back into the dating world and pick up where I left off...But no...Nowhere near.

God dammit...To any women reading this...You are bloody difficult...All of you...A pox on thy houses! :p

That second girl sounds like a manipulative, game playing bitch. Alas, that is what most of them are, but you need to really think about whether you want that kind of woman in your life right now. You two aren't even official and she is already trying to pull guilt trip bullshit on you, and I don't think any self-respecting person would take that.

If you're really just looking for a good relationship, I would recommend you pursue your own interests more, your career, etc. and you can hopefully meet someone there. Neither of these girls seem particularly noteworthy.

Wise words my friend...Wise words.

It's not that I'm pursuing a relationship as such...More like I want a couple girls I can hang about with on a semi-regular basis. Girls who don't annoy the shit out of me with their incessant babbling about who's doing what and how difficult it is to find the right conditioner...I have no hair so what am I gonna know about con-fucking-ditioner?!?!
A little sexing would be good too but not top of the priorities list.

I know she sounds like a manipulative bitch...Hell, she probably is...She's from Essex (not a very nice place really!) but there's something about hanging out with her. Like I said, sex isn't important...I would like to see her more as...A somewhat close friend with the possible benefits of sexual relations.

I think that's what I need anyways...Friends.
That two years alienated me from most of my friends...Now it's all over and I have the chance to see them again, they've all moved along a bit...Most now have either moved away, got kids, busy with work etc.
God did I make mistakes eh?!

It's just a little deflating knowing that I don't want a relationship but I can't even go out and get myself some lovin' like I used to either...And I don't have many friends to pass the time with anymore.

Feeling a little alone.

It's only been a month...You can't expect everything to just fall into place in that amount of time. You've got to just put in your time being alone for now and then after a while you'll have made some new friends and gotten into a new routine and things won't seem so empty anymore.

Damn you Xiao for making sense!

Nah...I do see your point but I'm just damn impatient.

LOL Was I the only one who thought this was going to be a mod bitching about another mod thread?

Your mojo is in a secret volcano lair gaurded by Dr Evil. It was stolen by a man named Fat Bastard while you were frozen in the 60's.

I thought it was about mojorisin too as I haven't seen her around for a while.

On another note, have you noticed how like we have 2 skinhead/'ard men for mods of the sex and affection forum?

Little ironic :p

I thought it was about mojorisin too as I haven't seen her around for a while.

On another note, have you noticed how like we have 2 skinhead/'ard men for mods of the sex and affection forum?

Little ironic :p

Oh she's around, just because you don't see her post it doesn't mean she isn't with us. She checks the forum daily and not all deletes are mine or yoyo's.

Yes it has long amused me that both male mods could almost be brothers (especially as my own IRL brothers are all skanky long haired geeks).

You only have two women on your plate mate. Go pub hopping one weekend, ask every girl you see for a number. When you have 10-15 numbers, go on dates with all of them.

If they all fail, THEN come back and say you've got no mojo. Really, I used to be MADLY in love with 1 or 2 women, especially through highschool (we had ugly chicks all around). I thought the best thing in life was to have a long relationship with a good woman.

Then I found out good women don't exist, and thus long relationships are impossible. So I started playing the field, a different girl each weekend, that sort of thing. It doesn't always work out, but hey, I'm trying, and I'm not wasting my time chasing after 1 or 2 girls that won't blow me in my wildest dreams.

I'm happier. Much happier. When I hit 30 I may settle down, if I even live to 30.

How old are you anyway?^^^

Did you get it?

Yes.:P

Yes.:P

Were you expecting a 13 year old?

No, I just figured you were between 18 and 20 years old.:P

The only clue you had is that I'm legal age to drink and smoke in Canada...

I agree Rykoshet...It's just the initial phase of getting out there and remembering what I used to do then adapting it to work now. Two years isn't that long and the old ones still work (theoretically) but for some reason women seem to be immune to my advances right now.

Too bad nine out of ten chicks in pubs are mingers!

As long as you're subjecting women to your advances, you're winning. Start (sorta) ugly, and move up? I mean, as long as you're out there getting numbers (even off the fugly ones), you're learning. So get everyone's number, but don't call everyone back.

I used to have no idea where to start. I mean, my best friend left me, so I've got no wingman, and I used to think it was stupid going to pubs alone. Now I get drunk before I go to a bar, and when I get there, I'm in the best of spirits, drunk, and ready to fight with all the overly sensitive boyfriends who can't stand me advancing on their woman.

Good plan mate.

Well I got the weekend off so more skill honing is on the menu I think!

Yeah my best buddy (my brother) fucked off...He's always with his girlfriend of 4 months playing dad to her kid.
He was always a good wingman to have around but now I'm in the deep end again but without the life jacket...So to speak!

But I am looking forward to getting back out there and getting my experience back to where it was.

Little update on the mojo situation...

It's gone and not coming back!

So I saw the hot yet boring/annoying chick last night and the spark was just gone. Usually she'll come in, throw herself at me and kiss the lips off my face.
Last night...One kiss when she came into the pub...And that's it!
I got drunk and kinda wandered off but still...

The second chick...Well...Saw her last Wednesday. She came into the bar at the hotel I work at. We went outside and had a smoke and a chat. Things seemed pretty usual.
Then she went back to her friends, left a short while later and I got nothing. No hug, no kiss...Fuck all!
She's not been text messaging me since Tuesday.

Ladies and gents...The king has left the building. :(

Don't sweat it mate. If you sweat stuff, it'll just become worse.

Be confident as ever, and they'll flock to you eventually.

Keep at it, let nothing discourage you, and keep drinking.

I'm liking the drinking part.

Why do women have to be so damn awkward?!

Who cares mate. I like what I'm doing now.

For the next few years, I'm trying to fuck EVERYTHING I meet.

By the time I want a stable girlfriend in a few years, I'll know everything about women and be able to better pick out the psycho ones from the cool ones.

And in the mean time, drunken sex with everyone FTW!!!

Who cares mate. I like what I'm doing now.

For the next few years, I'm trying to fuck EVERYTHING I meet.

By the time I want a stable girlfriend in a few years, I'll know everything about women and be able to better pick out the psycho ones from the cool ones.

And in the mean time, drunken sex with everyone FTW!!!

I wish someone would have explained that philosophy to me about 5 years ago.

You need to realize that you're likely trying to recreate the intimacy of a long-term relationship with girls you've only known for a few weeks. This is pretty common, actually; you just need to take it slow, get out, and don't expect to have a new girl a month after you get out of a two year relationship.

You gotta stop putting the pussy on the pedestal.

Just say, "Fuck it" and they will come to you. Because you are nervous and have gotten out of a long relationship you have lost confidence and a good mindset. Like the poster above said, you are trying to re-create the same level of intimacy with these chicks as you did with your ex. What I prescribe for you is crazy, drunken, random rebound sex. Parties are a good way to go if you aren't alienated from your friends but if you are, just hit up some pubs or clubs.