Ok, last week I was waiting at the bus stop and I saw this very hot blonde girl with pretty green eyes, a really nice rack, and a great ass coming towards my way. I was a little hesitant and shy to talk to her, but I forced myself to anyway. It was last Friday and I was on my way to a party so I figured I would ask her if she knew about any parties. We talked for a few minutes and it turns out she lives only a few blocks away from my house. So I asked her for her number and she gave it to me. I didn't see her the whole weekend, I tried getting a hold of her but I couldn't reach her.

So finally I got a hold of her on tuesday and we hung out later that night. We got someone to buy us some 40ozers and I had some bud so we went to go kick it at the park. I felt like we connected so well together and we had so much in common. We had good conversation , I didn't have trouble talking to her like I sometimes do with other girls. I could talk to her like I've known her forever. I really liked this girl and I could tell she was in to me as well so I got closer to her and we started making out. Later that night she came to my house and slept over. We were laying in bed and making out the whole night. I tried to get in her pants, but I guess it was a little to soon for her.

The next morning I walked her home and I kissed her good bye. I haven't seen or heard from her since. It's been a week from today. That fucking bitch hasn't even called me or anything. I've been trying to get a hold of her too but I don't know what the fuck. Thats so messed up. I don't get it. Where the fuck did I go wrong? How could she do that? She seemed like she was really in to me. She told me she liked me alot and everything. She seemed honest. Should I still try calling her? Or should I just forget about it?

First of all, a week isn't that long. People have their own lives.

Second of all, you may have come on a little too strong, and considering the fact you got her drunk/stoned, she may be afraid of you trying to take advantage of her. I wouldn't worry too much about this one, but it's an explanation to consider.

Last, you should never call her more then once or twice in a row. After that, it's up to her. Even if you really clicked, you gotta give it some time. I'd just drop it for a while, because you will seem clingy if you keep calling her. Especially seeing as how you didnt get a hold of her for a few days the first time, just sit back and let her make the next move.

Fuck, I always have that problem of coming on too strong. I always want to rush into things to fast. I'm very clingy too. This always happens though I'm sick of it. Every time I meet a girl and things are going good I always fuck it up some how. Its the same fucking story everytime. How do I change?

Dunno...I have the same problem. I just force myself not to act. Like I'll see her online, and I'll just sit there wanting to IM her but I wont, and i'll make her message me first.

It helps that we're not in a relationship. (We see each other, sleep together, etc but it's not exclusive) So whenever I get too clingy she has no problem bitching me out for it. I've kind of had to develop quite a few defense mechanisms. Basically, it gets to the point where if either of us show the slightest bit of affection, the other one will jump all over it and exploit it as a sign of weakness.

But man, I really care about her.

You just gotta suck it up dude. You probably wont be able to change you are, just learn some restraint. And also, if a girl is the only thing thats happening in your life then of course you're going to be clingy. Get into other things that take up your time, hang out with friends, take on projects/classes. That sort of thing.

Even if she does call me I can't see her or talk to any other girls for a week or two because I have all these hickies on my neck from some little slut at the rave. I feel like a fucking idiot.

Wtf? Why would a random chick give you hickeys? Thats more like a gesture of marking your territory. But either way, as long as you don't have a girlfriend...just wear them proudly, don't make excuses for them. Don't be embarassed about them. Unless you're insecure about them, no other girl really has a right to be pissed about them, and they know that.

I back up 100% everything SilentMind has said in this thread.

"We pursue that which retreats from us"

She's not going to pursue you if you're at her doorstep. Just keep your distance, have her come to you.

Good advice guys. Thanks alot. Hopefully everything works out fine. If not than, fuck it, I'm not going to let myself get a butthurt over it.

Exactly man. With a "fuck it" attitude, girls will feel they have no control over you, and then they'll want to give up their coon. Keep it up.

You just got one-night-stand'd.

By a girl.

*ObZ

I swear man, this shit happens every fuckin week with me. I'm getting sick of it.

never let a girl give you hickeys it means they own you.

Even if she does call me I can't see her or talk to any other girls for a week or two because I have all these hickies on my neck from some little slut at the rave..

Uh oh.


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