me and my gal have been going for a while, and last week when we had sex it was great, but last night i was not great. at all. i honestly think its because im really stressed out about my current situation and i don't perform well under stress. (got arrested with 27 epills. ouch)

anyways, i know she'll forgive me for this, but i know next time its gotta be really great. and i just wanted any and all advice possible because usually after sex i feel great but right now not bad, but just not that satisfied with myself. i feel i let her down.

please any and all helpful and practical advice is wanted. if anyone could also toss me some advice on how to kind of apologize without flat out saying "im sorry the sex wasnt that great." it would make me feel a lot more optomistic.

thanks totse,
asthepalacezburn

Okay, first off naughty you for getting arrested.

Why should you feel bad about not performing? It happens. You seem to be new to the world of sex too, noobs always have problems, or over analyse a situation.

Just chill, don't worry about it.

well, for starters,
it's awesome that you actually care if you pleased her or not.

it's understandable that you were stressed.
does she know you got arrested?
if so, explain that you've been stressed or whatever.
talk to her.
trust me, if you show her that you actually do care, she'll understand.
while you guys are laying down together one day or whenever you get a chance, ask her what she thought about it.
and when she says her opinion,
explain that it WAS good, but it wasnt your best b/c of whatevers bothering you.

then,
give it time. cool off.
and when you're ready, take her to dinner.
or make her dinner at home.
have a romantic evening, talk to her about how you care about her and how you just want to make her happy & feel good all that mushy stuff :p

then sweep her off her feet,
throw her on the bed,
and have a long night.
;)
she'll forgive you.

You seem to be new to the world of sex too, noobs always have problems, or over analyse a situation.

k....

The secret to pleasuring girls, to making them touch the very essence of nirvana in orgasm, can be summed up in one simple concept:... HADOKEN! (http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y106/shinemyspine/hadoken.gif)

*Plays a face melting guitar riff*

well, for starters,
it's awesome that you actually care if you pleased her or not.


Shouldn't every guy care? Isn't that ALL we think about? Or is it just me and him who aren't the selfish ones?

Shouldn't every guy care? Isn't that ALL we think about? Or is it just me and him who aren't the selfish ones?

i'm saying most men dont care.
they get in, get out, and on with their lives.
yes, they SHOULD care.
but sadly, that doesn't happen often.

I was actually just about to ask that Chobits...

for me how it was for her is the most important part for me... getting off is just getting off i could go watch some porn, for me the thing that makes me feel like the sex was good for me is if it was good for her. if the sex was not good for her it was even worse for me...

You cant have porn style style sex everytime... Sometimes either you or your partner just wont be up to par, its life.

Don't worry about it. That's the most important thing; sometimes it's great, sometimes it's not so great. Practice, m' lad, practice!

Now hold on a moment.

I'm surprised no one's asked what the hell he did that made the sex so bad. Honestly, I want to know. Did you accidentally shove a rake in her hole or something? Did you fart too close to a candle and torch her curtains?

What happened amigo?

Yeah, it sounds like maybe you two just need to practise more.:D