So apparently I've got my first ever significant other: this cute little chick I met at a class. I've only talked to her in person about 5 times (once on a date), on the phone a few times more than that, and on aim about the same. I'm starting to think that she seriously loves me. She so fucking pretty, cute, smart, funny, has the greastest taste in music of anyone I've ever met, everything I could ever ask for.

But I just.. don't know about it. Her ex broke up with her mainly because she was too clingy, and I'm starting to see why. Now, I'm not one to be turned off by clingyness, but shes going a little fast, even for ME. Everytime she talks to me she tells me how amazing and funny and nice I am, how much she likes and misses and wants to see me, asking me to sneak out and see her, etc. Everywhere she goes she tells me how much she wishes I was there. I get uncomfortable with compliments, mainly because I'm just.. subpar. And when I give them out, they sound emotionless, like I'm a fuckin robot.

I was under the impression that once I found someone that actually liked me for me we'd run away and live happily ever after in some fairy tale house made entirely out of weed or something. But I feel inadequite with her, theres nothing I can offer her that any other guy cant...

Do relationships that ever go this fast end up good? I honestly like her, but it seems not anywhere near as much as she does me.. I feel really shitty knowing that the sides aren't evened out. Am I just being a pussy about it? I mean, of all the things, having someone being open about their feeling towards you cant be too high up the scale. But it seems like if this relationship is ever gonna work out, I'm gonna have to bring it up at some point... Or should I? Should I just leave it be and let myself naturally grow attached?

The quicker the love comes the quicker it goes...

this is the most intense type of relationship....if your more of a thrills person this may be for you....if you depend on stability and consistency then you might be setting yourself up for a hurtful relationshit.

just keep playing the game and dont get attached(easier said than done?)

I feel shitty just 'playing the game' though. Like I'm not being completely honest.

1. She doesn't love you. She probably thinks you're rich or something
2. If she likes you and you like her it can't do much harm
3. You don't know her that well if you've only spoken to her 5 times
4. If she has a nice ass, spread it and shoot on it. Ass appreciation has gone down in recent years
5. Don't let her realize you can't offer her shit other than pretending to listen to her and the thing in your pants. When that happens its game over. Allude to a great-great uncle who's rich as fuck and dying and you're gonna inherit a shitload of money. Foolproof!


I'm gonna charge people for advice from now on whether they want to hear it or not, cuz I SPEAK THE TRUTH!!!!!

She must just be gaga over you. Just dont try to be a downer or anything, just go with it and I think it will natually slow down. But then again if she is really as cool as she sounds, then maybe friends would be the better thing to do. Just stay confident and go with the flow mang.

2 and 3 seem most likely. I really, really, really want to like her. Well not just like, I want to LOVE her. But I can't yet. It just can't happen within a few times of seeing and talking her.

Maybe I'm just surprised at how unshy she is. But that makes it awkward sometimes for me cuz I sorta.. am. Just a bit.

A few weeks ago I woulda thought that this situation I'm in is 'the jackpot' of relationships so to speak.

You think you're retarded? A girl went completely out of her way to find a way to talk to me, I didn't notice, and now I won't see her until next year. Yea, I am more retarded than potato. My only hope is she will stay interested because of being away from me(how I have kept a lot of friendships going), but she is a girl, so not likely.

Her just now: Aww.. You're cute. You had me long before I even knew I wanted you. Its true. :)

I think I'll manage. I'm starting to see things differently, maybe a more positive perspective.

:D

Edit: But now I'm really nerveous about the next time I'm gonna see her, in a few days at her house... oh man.

Dont forget a rubber...

My girlfriend used to be like that, it slows down alot and becomes more normal. The good thing is she likes you so much you know she is loyal. Its great...

How cute.

My husband is like that...He's so affectionate and he always talks about how pretty I am and how much he loves me. Some people are just demonstrative, you know?

Try and think of the last time you felt that strongly about someone, when it's already magical after such little time, to her she's just acting on her feelings.
Or, she may be looking for something- Who knows?

Either way, my advice would be to just go for it, human brains are stupid when it comes to relationships- The more we have to work for something the less we want it, if she was perfect but keeping you at arms length you'd be as crazy on her as she is on you.

I feel really shitty knowing that the sides aren't evened out. . .

Sorry to break the optimism flowing through this thread but. . .

The sides will rarely (and by 'rarely' I'm trying not to be a bitch here) ever even out. It's nine-times-out-of-ten going to be a matter of either you caring too much and her not enough, or the vice versa.

You can't force the love just because you have an opportunity man. =/