So I met this girl about 2 years ago, and I had fallen for her instantly. Her name is Stephanie. I mean, the first night I'd met her, I didn't sleep, I just thought about her. So after a few days of knowing each other for a few days, we dated.

It was great, but only lasted a few months. I was so heartbroken. well about 10 months later we got back together and that lasted for nearly 8 months. It seemed like it would last forever, and thats what she said she wanted, but towards the end, she said she didn't know what she wanted and decided to date someother guy after telling me she wanted to be alone for a while.

I was pretty much devistated(sp?). Well now her and I are talking on and off, and she says that she still loves me, but she doesn't want to be with one guy right now. she wants to date other people. I know &t will constrew this as she wants to sleep around, but I doubt that's what she's going for.
I was her first kiss, first major boyfriend she is rather timid and a little sheltered, but there is that possibility that is what she might want, and/or do.
I know I need to find someone else to get over her, but I can't. I dont think im really ugly, but I am rather fat.

Not like super fat ass that never does anything, but Im not skinny. I mean, every night I go exercise and I quit drinking soda pop, trying to lose weight. I just can't find anyone who would really be into me.
I wish that I could get back with Stephanie, but on the other hand I wish I could find someone new, someone who has an idea of what they want. I just need a little help figuring things out. any advice would be awesome.

Yeah, I know my punctuation sucks.

You know what you need to do and you're on the right track. Keep up the healthy habits, improve yourself, and you will become a better person. You will feel better about yourself, and that will make others more attracted to you. It's just the way it works.
You're in a tough situation, but it happens. You're right about needing to find somebody else, as hard as it may be to accept. But like I said, you're going in the right direction. Good luck. You'll have only learned from your experiences.

Thanks, but I kind of already know that I'm on the right track, but I need help. I Just cant seem to find anyone. I want to know if there is anyway for me to meet someone. I mean the only new people I meet are on the cot in the back of my ambulance. I dont have a working car yet. It's at a mechanics, so I have no way to go anywhere, and my Job sucks. I just need help meeting people

Its good that you know your on the right track. But the only thing I can tell you is that you need to go out more often. This may be said very often, but try going to a bar of some sort. I'm not saying your going to find love right away, but alot of women may show interest in you. Simply knowing that you can get other women will help you alot. You seem to think that you can't get anyone else and maybe thats partly why your not quite over her yet. And I know you said you don't have a working car, but you dont really need it. walk or take a bus if you have to.
Good luck with everything.

First of all, please PLEASE dont go back to her.

You're feeling sad for her for all the wrong reasons.

It seems like you miss her as you think that deep down she's the only girl who'd date someone as ugly as you *think* you are.

Thats' a bad reason to want someone, especially someone who just wants to sleep around. (yeah sorry it's true.)

It's good that you're trying to get your body sorted. I know the guys over in RY can be pretty helpfull on occaisions, go check out some of the threads that cover weightloss/muscle gain, ect.

Anyhew, there are other girls out there.
As much as it may feel like it, you're NOT destined to live your life alone, and there WILL be girls out there who want to be with you.

Good luck.

Run from the Stephanies, they're fine as hell but always trouble. I had one too.

And so what if you're chubby, I'm no beach model and I've got a good looking girl now. Man up and go find some better poon.

I just can't find anyone who would really be into me.

You can't decide how someone will feel about you. Just put yourself out there and meet people. You'll find someone, or someone will find you, worth getting to know better.

this place takes so much effort :( i need to stop being so high...

bout to go spark the rest of this joint though* xD peace bbl i guess

if you think it'll help, operate with a fake ego. i don't think i look that great. but i have been known to randomly say "man, i feel sexy today." i shit you not. whether you believe in whatever you decide to say about yourself, you'll get to laugh at yourself. as such, you should feel a bit better. i emphasize should, because i obviously can't speak for everyone.

you're headed in the right direction.

what do you do, by the way? you said you have a job. if possible, try getting a date with one of your co-workers. or, if you work only with males, ask if they could hook you up with someone. use you connections, padawan.

So I'm losing weight and all, and I'm generally doing better. I met this girl when I took the neighbor kid (15) to a miniature golf course, and she was digging on me big time, well we set up a date for next friday. Then of all things Stephanie msg's me tonight, saying that she is upset, and I then replied, that sucks. So she tells me that she is pissed at her mom because she wont let her go out with the person she wants to be with. I just told her to tell her mom that she really wants to be with who ever. come to find out Stephanie supposedly still really likes me. Im a little lost here. I'm digging on the girl from putt-putt, but she has a lazy eye, and it kind of weirds me out, but on the other hand, im still really caught up on Steph. I just dont know how to deal with this. I mean, Im doing shitty and then when things get good again, they get too good and I dont know what to do.

I want to be with Stephanie, because even through all of the ups and downs we still feel like we are supposed to be together, but I want to see how this thing with tiffany goes, but I dont want to piss Stephanie off... what am I supposed to do.

Fuck stephanie, go out with the putt putt girl.