what lies in-between?

recently a girl I´ve been dating for a month now told me she wants to be more than best friends with me but not to have a relationship or sex.

recently a girl I´ve been dating for a month now told me she wants to be more than best friends with me but not to have a relationship or sex.

Haha, wtf?

Nothing lies inbetween.

Translation: "I'm no longer interested in this relationship and I want out"

Time for you to move on, friend.

that´s the weird thing about this. she still wants to meet me.

she asked me out at first and for my number. she´s very busy and working a lot, but still asking me to meet late at night in a cafe to see each other although it would be better to get her things together for her trip the next day. on that evening she evaded a kiss of me. sending me messages then, she would like to have me with her right now. planning our next meeting. there she asked me to go to the cinema, but then cancels later. some days later accusing me for not calling her. calling me at 4 in the morning why I am not in the club where we met a month ago. talking in front of the club, telling me she can´t have a relationship right now, too busy. asking me the next day if I knew an apartment closer to her working place, "someone needs to make money for the kids". she tells me she will call me and meet me 2 days later. and when I´m finally fed up with this we had a conversation of 1 hour on the phone. she was crying most of the time. telling me how much she likes me, and that there´s no one else. all other guys are meaningless. but she doesn´t like me enough for a relationship, but wants to be more than just best friends. I told her I can´t deal with this and want to disc our "contact".

I am already over it, but my best friends think this will be a boomernag. So I´m asking myself, have I been fooled, have I been too demanding/fast or what is it?

Whoa, shit.

If that bitch ain't playing the hot/cold game to an extreme, then she is completely neurotic and I'm leaning towards the latter.

So, here's the deal:

This girl does not like you - she likes the idea of you. She feeds off the attention you give her and loves the idea of having someone around to help her with whatever emotional problems she is having. She will want you when it suits her best.

In other words, she is bad news, drop her fast. Cease all contact. It won't be easy, but it'll be worth it. I mean, try to read what you just wrote objectively, as someone else - what would you think after you read that? Find someone worth your time.

As for your friend with his statement - do you want bad shit to boomerang and hit you twice?

I think you just hit the nail on the head, no need for my post now.

Fucked if i know what you should do.

My advice would be to cut through all the crap and put it on the line.

You sit her down, make sure you have her full attention and then tell her Klipp u. Klar.

" Ich mag di' und bin tierisch scharf auf dich. Ich kann nicht nur bloss Freunde sein. So gehts nicht, so laeufts nicht. Also Ich geh jetzt . Du weisst wie du mich erreichen kannst falls du doch was koerperliches mit mir haben willst. Ich hoff dass Du doch bald mich anrufst, denn Du bedeutest mir schon ganz viel und das nicht nur im koerperlichen Sinne. Basta.Ciao"

(yeah I know my grammar sucks, I can't be arsed to get the Duden out or ask the weib.)

NO further discussion.

Then lean over her and kiss her quickly on the forehead and GO and stay gone.

Uhhh...translation please?

Uhhh...translation please?

But of course, my bad , I got distracted and then replied to another thread.

"I like you a lot but I also fancy you. I can't just be friends, just isn't possible. So I'm going. You decide you DO want me that way then you know how to reach me. I hope you do call soon because you mean lot more to me than just sex.basta. bye"

But of course, my bad , I got distracted and then replied to another thread.

"I like you a lot but I also fancy you. I can't just be friends, just isn't possible. So I'm going. You decide you DO want me that way then you know how to reach me. I hope you do call soon because you mean lot more to me than just sex.basta. bye"

Very well put. It would sound more direct in the other language, I'm sure, but she might not undertand it.

Very well put. It would sound more direct in the other language, I'm sure, but she might not undertand it.

As BSK is German, I'm fairly confident that'll she understand. Although I assume he will express it in a fair more refined, grammatically korrekt and high German way.

or he might go for the even more blunt 'Na Keule, Ich will di' ficken und dass net knapp. Also entweder ziehs du dich jetzt aus und fangs an mir den Schwanz zu lutschen, aber konkret korrekt oder du kannst dich verpissen, gell?'

and noooo don't ask me to translate that :P

Uhhh...translation please?
no, go away, jack and me want to have some privacy.


oh well I don´t know. my best friend now had the suggestion that she is a secret virgin. she might have never had sex, and is therefore fleeing from the truth, although pretending and telling stories of her past sex life ..