Ok guys and girls, my first thread has a new light on it now, and I decided to make a new one asking a new question.

I talked to this girl today, and she said something about us partying this weekend. Cool, I'm outta the military and a civillian, which makes me way more accesible.

Then we get on the subject of apartments... She tells me of a couple places she was looking at and how much they were. I said something about checking them out, and she said something about roommates. I jokingly said something about us being roommates. She seemed to take it well.

Now, I dunno if I wanna do this, cause I really like her and don't wanna be put into the friends pile. I wanna date her, and she knows I really like her, I've taken her out, we've fooled around, etc...

Now my question is this, do I turn her down on being roomates, or do I ask her out and give her the 3 months she said she wanted to get up enough $$ for a place, and try to get her to move after we've dated for a while?

Gah, I'm confused. Help.

Unless you're really really into the girl moving in together is such a terrible idea. It'll probably turn out to be the worst idea ever, seriously. It doesn't seem like you 2 are near serious enough for it to work out. Sorry.

Moving in with a girl before/at the beggining of a relationship sounds like a Class A shit idea.

Dont move in with her unless you are ready to marry her... Living with your girlfriend can be fun but its just not the same as dating a girl.

My friend made this very same mistake! She moved in with a guy she was sort of dating just as a "roommates" kind of thing...And it was horrible. Words can not describe how much she hated that man. The worst part was after they moved in together he really let himself go and gained over 150 POUNDS! (I swear I'm not telling a tall tale here) He was so lazy that he would piss in a bottle rather than get up to go to the bathroom. He was so dirty that she went into his bathroom one time and it was completely covered with mold and mildew.

Seriously, don't move in with someone unless you're both guys or unless you're engaged or something.

dont move in together. if she asks about you two being room mates just tell her you were joking.

Well, I've slept on the idea of me and her moving in together... That's definatly a no-go. I can find some other roommates from somewhere. I've had a similar situation where me and my fiance moved in together... It turned sour after like 6 months. Then after like 2 months of me being in the navy, we had broken up.

I have decided on a course of action, here goes: once I have finished moving back across the country, I'm going to get a job(even if its a mcjob), and get my own place, 1-2 roommates. As far as this girl goes, I'm going to take her out on a little date, maybe seal the whole bf/gf thing. THEN if everything is going good, just take it from there. This is all assuming I'm not dead already by being put in the friends pile.

IF by some chance I'm already in the friends pile, get over it, and have her move in as a roommate. In this case, there would be no sex, no dates, etc etc etc. If I suddenly find myself not over her, I'll get drunk and go stay w/ a friend, ha ha, not really, but whatev.

Tell me if this is reasonable. Peace.

Dont move in and live with another human from choice. Ever.

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This actually made me laugh. Thanks yoyobek. On a side note, where ketch's input on this? I got most of the ppls inputs I was wanting (X.M. And yoyo)...

Anyways, yeah my decision is final. I'm going to find out where I stand w/ her, then act accordingly. I mean we've been friends for almost 2 years, and I think the only reason we never dated or whatev was cause I was in the service. Now that I'm out, we can see where it leads. If its just friends, so be it.

Peace.