I just realized something...
I have never gotten pissed in any kind of situation.
I had a girl in grade 9, she cheated on me, robbed me, and made me look like a fool.

I didn't do shit.

I think thats when it all started. After that situation, Ive always been able to control myself.
Like i remember this time I had some beef with this Chinese guy, he got all his "boys" after me to jump me after school one day. They were all waiting for me, so I just went up to see what happens. They started pushing me down the hallway and I just tried to force through. Then the same Chinese guy came up from behind me and smacks me across the head with a textbook. I twitched my head and walked the other way. They all started following me and got me outside. Thats when they all came in and started beating on me, well tried. I just stood there and took the blows, doing absolutely shit. Then one guy kneed me in the balls. I went down on my knees and they all ran. After that point, I also didn't do shit, but they got caught on camera and got expelled.
After that incident I thought I just didn't do anything because i had this mindset that I didn't want to get in trouble.
Happened so many times though. People always call me names, try to start fights with me, try to humiliate me, but I just don't do anything. Well, I kinda laugh at the effort there putting in trying to get me pissed off, like they got nothing better to-do.
Either from all the name calling and fights, beatings and stuff, things get more complicated. A couple of weeks ago I met up with a girl in my school, she was nice, pretty, and single. So I decided to take my chance with her after 2 years from breaking up from my first and last relationship. Things were going well so far, I told most of my friends that I was going for her. This one guy, well call him Dave, started mocking me like it was some elementary school crush, and that she wasn't all that, he was a good friend of mine though. Anyways, today we were flirting alot during lunch, thought I had everything going good with her. After the last period, I went to go talk to her for a bit. We chatted, then I left, got my stuff and started heading for the door to go home. Then she shows up behind me, goes up to the same guy, Dave, and hugs him. Now my good friends were with me, and they knew all the shit that Dave said, and there like "Oh shit guy...! Hes sneaking round your back! Beat this shit out of him!"

Typical. After a situation like that, most guys would be fuming. But, I'm just not pissed. I thought alot about this when I came home, and decided to get your input on this.

So totse, wtf is wrong with me,and wtf should I do.

nothing. youre a chill person. thats really cool.

but dont let ppl take advantage of you. you just need to man up at certain times.

You don't have any balls. Get some. That's all there is to it. Tommorow kick the shit out of that kid.

I have balls, trust me on that. Someone dared me to break the window of a car, I did it. Got dared to go ask some guy to show me his boxers, I did it. Last but not least, got dared to jump into a pool from 35 feet off a roof, I did it.
One thing for sure,

He aint no pussy, but he can control himself. But if theres money involved, then thats a whole different story, haha.

Quoted from a good friend of mine.

Heh, you remind me of me.

Smart move. Beating the guy to a pulp won't prove anything. It will just show the girl that you have no sense of control. And girls want a guy to be able to control, take lead of a situation.

Now for the guy, what kind of guy is he? Also what kind of school you in? Is there alot of flirting and stuff going around with people, or is everyone just singled out to one social group? With that information I can help you out.

Well, yeah, everyone is in their own little social group, everyone minds their own business most of the time. But its pretty weird though, because Ive never seen my friend talk to the girl like ever, and then all of a sudden they go up to each other and hug. Shes never even hugged me yet. Kind of sketchy if you ask me...

Did they know each other before you guys hooked up? If they did then its not much to worry about in an area like yours. Sounds like a typical go to school, learn, go home environment. Most of the guys at your school are probably scared to approach girls, and if they know girls, they probably just get whipped and used, like how TIAB said, most guys are too scared to keep going further into a relationship, because they might fuck it up, so they just admire them, and wait for them to call the shots. Anyways, its probably not much to worry about. The guy is probably just friends with her, and shes just trying to use him. Most girls would love to take a situation like that into their hands. Thats where you come in though, make sure she doesn't do that to YOU, show her that you lead.

i'd say you're probably fine. as long as you're not bottling up anger or anything, i wouldn't worry about it.

I'm pretty much the same way. i got genuinely pissed for the first time in years the other day.

then i remembered that getting upset over women is pointless. and once again, i'm chill.

I think it takes more guts to ignore a group of people wanting to beat you up, which he did, than running away.

I mean it's stupid, but it is gutsy.

*yawns*

you ignore a group of chinese kids beating you up and smacking you in the head with textbooks? Yea, thats definitely some pussy shit. I wouldve gone buck-wild on those chinks. Ive always been told, if you know your going to get into a fight, make sure you throw the first punch.

But on the chick part. Dont worry about it. High school chicks hug everyone. I used to have chicks come up and kiss me/bite me on the neck everyday. Alot of them that did I had never fucked around with. Just chicks being chicks, dont worry about it.

You sound a lot like one of my friends. He normally lets people walk all over him because he doesnt want to be the "asshole". Thats fine, Ive got no problem with respecting people. But if someone disrespects you, you shouldnt stand for that shit. That doesnt mean you need to start a fight, just call their bullshit and tell them it needs to stop.

My friend still would have fucked up the lil chinese gang though. He may be the quietest nicest person around. But hes def one of the guys you want to have watching your back.

You lack balls.

I'd rather be a pussy than a moron.

But I never got a choice.

Girls like that kind of thing. Like, relaxed guys. I know this is out of some movie but I can't remember which one. It was all like 'Something about two people never touching' and then it was all like 'We never touch because we really really like each other.'

Pretty sure that helped no one. But still, um... Good work for not getting pissed...

I lost my train of thought...

I'd rather be a pussy than a moron.
Girls like that kind of thing. Like, relaxed guys.

Some do, some dont. But I dont know any females that are attracted to guys that dont stand up for themselves. Theres a huge difference between being relaxed, and letting people walk all over you.

I'm a bit like you, I rarely get pissed. However, I never went through the same situations as you, and I'm pretty sure I would have gone berserker if I did.

If you don't fight back, even if you aren't pissed you're gonna get beat twice as hard.

you ignore a group of chinese kids beating you up and smacking you in the head with textbooks? Yea, thats definitely some pussy shit.

So, getting smacked in the head with a textbook, not getting hurt, controlling your emotions, and walking away is pussy shit? He got smacked in the head with a textbook and he never went down. Most people would be scared shitless, if not go berserk if that happened to them, but he just controlled all his emotions, and just played it calm the whole time. Sounds like he could have easily kicked the shit out of them, but he didn't, thats what I call real power. Being able to do something and not doing it.
Reminds me of another theory that I got from Trapped in a Box.

Your with a girl, you flirt with her, make her feel good, seduce her until shes all hot and bothered. Whens shes about to bend over and take you, you just step back and say..."Nah", then just leave...

Now, is that really considered being a pussy? You tell me.

got dared to jump into a pool from 35 feet off a roof, I did it.


My cousin is paralyzed from the waste down for doing something similar to that. Although it was his fault for being a dumbass.

wow anyone that says you're not a pussy probably got made fun of all the way through school. you need to grow some balls, some mother fucker hits you jack him in the god damn face at least defend yourself.

do you mean you dont get pissed when it has to do with girls? or does that also mean when people try to fuck with you and get your really mad. im the same way like that, people always talk shit to me and im like yeah what ever. but then when there is just one kid that pushes it to far they end up in a hospital. my friend is like that to. probably nicest kid i know but when hes pissed i would just run shitting my pants and crying.

I never get pissed in any situation, but people don't push me around. I'm quiet and keep to myself but people don't fuck with me. I just know how to carry myself and at least get people to respect me to the point where they won't fuck with me, just because I'm not a dick.

Wait, I think last time I got pissed was when I saw this bully motherfucker steal a dollar from this kid who is mentally challenged and got in a car accident and fucked his legs up a bit.. (he's an acquaintance of mine, people push him around but he can't really stand up for himself that much and it pisses me off)

Too bad that guy prolly woulda beat the shit out of me if some teacher didn't come along. Oh well I woulda broke his nose if I got the chance so you never know :).

edit: I do bottle up anger, but I do it so that I can save it for a special occasion where I'll actually need it.

So, getting smacked in the head with a textbook, not getting hurt, controlling your emotions, and walking away is pussy shit? He got smacked in the head with a textbook and he never went down. Most people would be scared shitless, if not go berserk if that happened to them, but he just controlled all his emotions, and just played it calm the whole time. Sounds like he could have easily kicked the shit out of them, but he didn't, thats what I call real power. Being able to do something and not doing it.
Reminds me of another theory that I got from Trapped in a Box.

Your with a girl, you flirt with her, make her feel good, seduce her until shes all hot and bothered. Whens shes about to bend over and take you, you just step back and say..."Nah", then just leave...

Now, is that really considered being a pussy? You tell me.

Yes not fighting is pussy shit. Trying to walk away from a fight can be respectable, especially if it was a gang a guys like he said, you got to be smart when facing those odds. But the fact that when they got outside they started going to town, and he took it without throwing a swing, makes even me mad.

And dont bring up TIAB's "theories". None of those are his own, and I would bet he has no experience using those outside of his wet dreams.

Getting a girl dripping wet, then leaving, is designed to drive her fucking insane about you. That way you can call her practically at any hour of the day and she will drop what shes doing to fuck. Like a cliffhanger before a commercial break. Shows not on, go get those snacks and beer. But oh shit!! its starting again! run run back, you dont wanna miss it!

This guy either has no emotions, or is just a pussy. So no, that theory has nothing at all to do with this situation. The theory implies intent to take action at a later time to achieve the same if not better results. Dude just doesnt do anything, like a furby. Funny to watch, but seriously useless.

you ignore a group of chinese kids beating you up and smacking you in the head with textbooks? Yea, thats definitely some pussy shit. I wouldve gone buck-wild on those chinks.

Oh fuck off. You don't know how many there were, how compotent they were, what condition he was in, etc etc. Would you have really gone 'buck-wild' and gotten your ass kicked, or would you have used your head and buggered off?

wtf should I do.

marry me.

Agreed fully. On a personal note, fuck you for including "pissed" in the topic name in S&A without it being a water-sports thread =( GOLDEN SHOWERS FOR EVERYONE!

Yeah though, so long as you're not like me and take X amount of shit for Y amount of time and let X*Y^55 out on person Z.. you're good.

Oh fuck off. You don't know how many there were, how compotent they were, what condition he was in, etc etc. Would you have really gone 'buck-wild' and gotten your ass kicked, or would you have used your head and buggered off?

fucking tard. He got his ass kicked anywas. In a situation like that its not whether or not you will get fucked up, because you will, its just a matter of how bad your going to get your ass kicked. Strike first, and you will fair better in the end.

I mean fuck, for pride purposes alone you should be at least drawing blood from the fucks. Your gonna get jumped, woohoo, happens to the best of us. The story is gonna go around school, so people will expect you to look all fucked up. Imagine you goto school all fucked up like people expect. But three of the guys that jumped you are also fucked up. You dont have to walk away from a fight to win it.

And make sure the dude you hit first is the leader of the pack. Start the fight, throw the first punch, and throw it hard as fuck. Hit the leader square in the nose, drop him, and just fight and hope for the best after that.

what it comes down to, stand up for yourself and be a man. If you let people walk all over you now, you will continue to do so for the rest of your life. And youll be that fucking in Office Space who talks about burning the place down. You dont want to be that guy.


To answer you question rabbit. Yes I would have gone buckwild. And yes I have been in that situation before. I got my face all sorts of fucked up, but I left their "leader" with a fucked up face as well. And everytime I saw him, I laughed at his ass through my busted ass grill.

fucking tard. He got his ass kicked anywas. In a situation like that its not whether or not you will get fucked up, because you will, its just a matter of how bad your going to get your ass kicked. Strike first, and you will fair better in the end.

I mean fuck, for pride purposes alone you should be at least drawing blood from the fucks. Your gonna get jumped, woohoo, happens to the best of us. The story is gonna go around school, so people will expect you to look all fucked up. Imagine you goto school all fucked up like people expect. But three of the guys that jumped you are also fucked up. You dont have to walk away from a fight to win it.

And make sure the dude you hit first is the leader of the pack. Start the fight, throw the first punch, and throw it hard as fuck. Hit the leader square in the nose, drop him, and just fight and hope for the best after that.

what it comes down to, stand up for yourself and be a man. If you let people walk all over you now, you will continue to do so for the rest of your life. And youll be that fucking in Office Space who talks about burning the place down. You dont want to be that guy.


To answer you question rabbit. Yes I would have gone buckwild. And yes I have been in that situation before. I got my face all sorts of fucked up, but I left their "leader" with a fucked up face as well. And everytime I saw him, I laughed at his ass through my busted ass grill.

Sorry for the inconvenience but, you just twisted the story too many times that I cant even count them. Where did he state in the story that he got his ass kicked? They kneed him in the balls, then they ran. You consider that kicking someones ass? He never stated that he got his face punched in, or that he started bleeding, or how many of them were there. No offense, but get your facts straight before you try to make a point like that.

Anyways, this is getting out of hand. The man asked for help on what he should do on the situation about the girl hugging the other guy. The Chinese guys story was just an example, so lets try to stay on topic?

Um yea...You guys are taking that story too seriously. But to clear things up, they didn't make me bleed or anything, except for having the pain of getting kneed in the balls for a couple of seconds...I was fine after that though, and they all ran after they attempted to jump me, who's the real pussy in that situation, Running after taking someone down? Wtf?!? Who does that.

Anyways, yea. I'm going back to school tomorrow, and it like the last day. The only chance that I can get her number and show that I'm, well you know, interested in her. And what should I do about the guy? Should I let him be or call him on the act of sneaking around my back? Were good friends, and now this shit happened. Like I said before, all my friends are like "Holy...I would be steaming if was youse".

So yea, what to do? what to do...

Ok, if you're getting her number make sure she knows your intentions. Don't make it seem like you just wanna hang out if you want to go on a date. Keep it clear, or at least don't tell her "Just to hang out" Unless you actually want to, in which case go for it but don't expect to get anywhere and expect your friend to get her.

My advice.

How has nobody said this yet?


Your a V-tech waiting to happen.

Dude dont stress it


Dont let it put you off her Chances are theres fuck all behind that hug but he knows that doing it infront of you will get you going

That and most girls will hug almost anyone if you hug them


Ignore the guys calling you a pussy they dont know shit really


Keep to your game chat her up and be confident and sure of yourself (even if your not)

Dont bring up your dave but if she mentions him laugh and go yea hes a dick
shell ask why
Just go something like Oh just giving me shit cause i got a bit of a thing for you
but for christ sake dont whinge about him thatll lkill it

just be confident most guys have a chance and never even know it