I know this girl who is very outgoing and borderline psychotic, who I find to be quite attractive. Problem is I've heard her state many a time that she likes girls, and is a lesbian. I'm cool with that and long ago accepted the fact that nothing will ever happen with this girl. Lately though I get the feeling that she's trying to come on to me via eye contact accompanied by a smile, sitting very close next to me, or dressing a certain way. Plus she's always offering to do shit for me i.e.: get me some ice water, share her drugs with me, let me pick a movie to watch and little shit like that. All the while swearing up and down that she's a dyke, at least when people are around. Her brother ( a good friend of mine) told me that their father raped her when she was a kid, which most likely led to all her hang-ups and eccenticities regarding guys and sex. I feel like I'm getting alot of mixed signals and it's driving me mad. I'm pretty sure she knows I like her. I would feel like a total jackass if I made a move and it turns out I was wrong about all this shit. What do y'all think of this situation?

with chick with sexually traumatic experiences, who really knows. They get fucked up mentally so trying to understand them is like trying to understand a rubix cube with missing squares.

just chill with her and if things go somewhere, great. If not, keep her as a girl thats a friend. Ask her all the questions you and your guy friends are wondering about.

and secondly, find her dad and kill him.

Sex is most likely out of the question for a very long time if she has been abused at a young age.

Ya think? Sometimes it goes the other way...ie towards nympho.

I think I might have miscommunicated something, this girl has had alot of sex with guys and girls alike in the past. She did the typical straight to bi, bi to gay think in high school. One time I was hangin out with her and her brother and she pulled out a notebook with a long list of names on it. I asked what it was and she said it was a list of some of the people she's fucked, her brother then inserted that the key word there was "some". So she's no stranger to the cock, it's just within the past couple years she's become a confirmed "fuzz-bumper" and hasn't (allegedly) been interested in guys for awhile. And like I said I was completely sold on all of this until she started getting all flirtatious with me, which makes this whole situation confusing as all hell. I wouldn't give a damn about it if I didn't like her and we didn't get along so well. I don't think her traumatic past affected her idea of sexual contact so much as the role a man plays in it, if that makes any sense.

so why would you want to fuck a girl that has a "long list" of guys shes slept with. And keeps a record of names?

dirty lil nympho. dont fuck her.

She's obviously messed up, so treat her nicely, and don't do anything that'll freak her out. But if she wants some, get some.
I flirt with guys a bit, even though I am not interested with majority of them. I'd not call myself a full on lesbian, I just find most guys a turn off.
There are exceptions to every rule, you see, and maybe you're her exception.. along with ALL THOSE OTHER GUYS!!!
Everyone has to experiment before they settle.

I got it wrong.

I have a friend(female) that was raped at the age of 14 and the thing that was fucking up all her relationships was that the guys wanted sex and she couldnt handle it.

I guess it can go both ways.

well if she's been bi she's probably still bi.
Typically chicks LOVE being lesbian and boasting about it.
I knew a bi chick a while back and she claimed to be a lesbian through and through...
i had a chance until she got pregnant and engaged at 16
or 17?
OH AND
The bi thing always presents a chance for a threesome...
i say go for it, but keep your senses

Maybe she's just being nice to you. Just because a dyke doesn't purposly spit on you doesn't mean you made her switch sides.

I am a firm believer that a person can care about/love anyone. I think that she might be a lesbian and has only ever been attracted to women... Doesn't mean that she can't ever be attracted to a male. Try it out. If she turns you down, whatever, you can still be friends with her :)